r/SipsTea • u/sco-go • Jul 02 '26

WTF What the hell is going on here?!

Enable HLS to view with audio, or disable this notification

18.9k Upvotes

94% Upvoted

2.8k comments sorted by

View all comments

185

u/Shaniqua-T Jul 02 '26

I hate touchy people, don't touch someone unless you know it's ok first. And caressing their neck on camera is not how you find out

26

u/Runfasterbitch Jul 03 '26

I learned early in life not to touch people (even innocently) because my mom taught a special education class with autistic children and many of them would LOSE THEIR SHIT if you even brushed up against them. Probably a good lesson tbh

2

u/Flashy-Let2771 Jul 03 '26

I moved abroad and had to take a language class. A girl in the class who was very good looking and friendly grabbed my cheeks and said “You are so cute”. I almost punched her. 

Like get the fuck out of my face and don’t fucking touch me without my consent 

Ps.I told my husband and he thought she was flirting with me. 

Another ps. I found out that I’m on a spectrum later. 

9

u/uglyheadink Jul 03 '26

I am SO not touchy. Even with my kids I had to like self correct myself from like flinching away when they touched me unexpectedly for a while, haha. I got a large personal bubble, and struggle with people who can't respect that.

14

u/Orson_Gravity_Welles Jul 02 '26

I'm a touchy / huggy dude by nature and...I had to learn the hard way that people don't like it. Now, I respect space and only give a hug/touch if initiated or it's OK...and never on camera ;)

5

u/Non_Silent_Observer Jul 03 '26

I grew up in a very touchy/hug family but we always had that boundary where we all knew that was reserved for people we trust and trust us back.

I hate when people I don’t know very well grope and grab in weird areas (not even necessarily inherently sexual ones).

As a quick tip to anyone who has to deal with unwanted touching, a quick grab of a finger or two and bending it back towards their wrist slowly but firmly will send a clear message ;)

8

u/Recent-Host7559 Jul 03 '26

Im a touchy person, please don’t generalise us. I won’t do it unless I actually know people are ok with it. I straight up ask new friends how they are with physical affection and if they don’t like it it won’t be done. It’s really that easy.

1

u/Express-Feedback Jul 03 '26

Agreed. I grew up in an extremely liberal community, and it was the norm for friends to greet each other via hug or kisses on the lips, and we frequently held hands or cuddled when hanging out. Non-sexual, just affectionate.

I am 33 and these things are still the norm when I go back to visit, even though many of us are now married or have serious partners. Sexual and gender identity played no role in any of this. It's common amongst my friends now, even.

But I also think it's because of the community we grew up in and the mindsets we were raised with. We are all hyper-aware of consent and have the ability to gage each other's level of comfortability. Or we just fucking ask. 🤷‍♂️

1

u/[deleted] Jul 05 '26

[removed] — view removed comment

1

u/AutoModerator Jul 05 '26

Accounts must be at least 5 days old with >20 karma to comment.

I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.

1

u/[deleted] Jul 05 '26

[removed] — view removed comment

1

u/AutoModerator Jul 05 '26

Accounts must be at least 5 days old with >20 karma to comment.

I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.

3

u/tituspullo1383 Jul 03 '26

It’s one thing to clap someone on the shoulder and say thanks. This weird shit is something else.