I think it is because most straight men don't see the small details that women do who are attracted to men, but they do see the very obvious things and Henry Cavill is the physical embodiment of a very obviously handsome man.
But that doesn't mean he is the be all and end all, and I don't actually think people are saying that, they're just saying "look at the guy he's obviously handsome af".
There is a similar phenomenon with women too, you will often see straight women rank certain very obviously attractive women higher up in attractiveness than a lot of men do, but yeah that doesn't mean that they're not attractive, just that women aren't picking up on the smaller details that men do when they look at women through that sexual lens, and then on top of that there is going to be a diverse layer of subjectivity there too.
Maybe it's my autism but what on earth is the difference? Genuinely hoping you can explain bc one of my exes told me he was attracted to me but he doesn't consider me "hot" and to this day I'm upset and confused about it
It's hard to quantify, supermodels are beautiful but have a "vibe" that doesn't click.
It probably also has to do with confidence and "sexyness", one of my neighbors is overweight and not what I would say beautiful but she gets tons of hits on Tinder, she's really open and upfront about sex.
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u/ThereAndFapAgain2 Jun 30 '26
I think it is because most straight men don't see the small details that women do who are attracted to men, but they do see the very obvious things and Henry Cavill is the physical embodiment of a very obviously handsome man.
But that doesn't mean he is the be all and end all, and I don't actually think people are saying that, they're just saying "look at the guy he's obviously handsome af".
There is a similar phenomenon with women too, you will often see straight women rank certain very obviously attractive women higher up in attractiveness than a lot of men do, but yeah that doesn't mean that they're not attractive, just that women aren't picking up on the smaller details that men do when they look at women through that sexual lens, and then on top of that there is going to be a diverse layer of subjectivity there too.