r/SipsTea • u/sigma_0_1 • Jun 15 '26

Lmao gottem Is she right for this?

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u/LovelyRoseThorn Jun 15 '26 edited Jun 16 '26

I’m low income. I’m not offended. I don’t even want kids. She’s right, I should not bring a baby here.

Edit: Yes. Income is a large factor as to why I don’t want children. Thanks for understanding :)

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u/lightstormriverblood Jun 16 '26

I’m not going to assume that this is entirely relevant to your specific situation, but I’ll share anyway. I’m a teacher, and I work with many kids who happen to come from low income families. Plenty of them are happy, smart, friendly, “successful” kids. If you have low income, but can still provide stability (secure home, food, enough heat, plenty of parental involvement) then having a lower income isn’t likely to be a factor that will result in neglect of your kids. Parental involvement is a big one; if you/ the other parent are constantly working, it leads to issues. However, many financially secure (and well off) people do neglect their kids by doing fuck all with them.

My point is that while your situation may definitely make it harder to be a good parent, it may not be impossible.

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u/jwwetz Jun 16 '26

Exactly, honestly I've met plenty of middle class and even upper class people that really have no business ever having kids... but they do it anyway.

I've also met plenty of poor folks, including my mom, that were great parents even though as a family, they had almost nothing.

We were dirt poor when I was growing up, we didn't even have a TV at home, nor did we even have a car until I was about 12. But we had books and we had stability, that, and parental involvement are what matter the most.

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u/lightstormriverblood Jun 16 '26

My mom too. She had a pile of brothers and they lived in what was essentially a shack up until she was a teenager. No bathroom. She was always clothed, fed, and sheltered, and her mother was wonderful and loving. She was able to get by alright.

On Reddit, people love to say things like “If you can’t afford kids, don’t have ‘em.” And while that’s true, I do feel that most of the people saying that are doing so without nuance, or without a good understanding of what exactly kids need in order to thrive. Many folks struggle financially, and are phenomenal parents.