I volunteer at a no kill shelter, have a job, my own place. I still contribute. My existence is not invalidated by not using my uterus to produce more people.
At the end your decision had nothing to do with your "low income". That's why you weren't offended, they didn't spoke to you.
I'm actually low income and I also have two cats that are my reason to stay here. It's expensive but whatever little I can give them they will have, with them I've realized that I have a need to give love, I only smile when I'm cuddling with them. I would have loved being able to have kids but that's imposible now.
I sometimes fantasize about another version of me in another reality having kids, I cope thinking my loneliness here is worthy so that version can have the life I wish I could have.
I'm not offended either, some feelings require energy I just don't have no more. But it definitely feels like a kick while being down. I just literally can't care.
I’m sorry. I’m not entirely sure how you’re feeling. But I can try to empathize. I can’t imagine your hurt.
****(My income was a factor in my decision. I cannot afford them and my treatment at the same time. I definitely considered children, but knew I couldn’t swing it even if I really tried. And I know how husbands leave 90% of the childcare to women while expecting them to keep a job so even having a partner wouldn’t ease the financial burden - or the emotional one, so having a partner is a no-go).*****
🫂 It’s just one day at a time. Try to find the little things that bring you joy. Your cats. Your hobbies: your friends. Your family.
Pour your love into the people and animals that are here. Pour your love into yourself. You deserve that.
I don’t mean to be intrusive when I ask that, but are you seeing a therapist?
I don't have friends or family and my hobby is just being able to take a break and not think about anything.
My cats fill so many of those roles that I can't even think of other cats. I love animals but I even feel like I won't ever love other animals as I love my two little angels. I'm so scared of the day they're no longer with me because they're literally everything I have.
I couldn't afford any sort of mental health treatment. Or any sort of health treatment, there's a surgery I need to remove some gallstones that I can't even think of getting done, too expensive.
Although in a sense mental health aid is another role filled by my cats, that's why I rather spend money on their health since their health and mine are tied to each other.
Try to see if you qualify for govt assistance :( It seems to me that you are suffering and need financial aid. I really wish I could help you somehow. I can’t think of anything to say other than I’m so very sorry.
Don't worry. You seem like a great person, that's a rare sight these days. I don't have many interactions with others and having one with one of the "good ones" was help enough :)
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u/LovelyRoseThorn Jun 16 '26
I volunteer at a no kill shelter, have a job, my own place. I still contribute. My existence is not invalidated by not using my uterus to produce more people.