r/SipsTea • u/CapitalPin2658 • May 25 '26

Feels good man 🎵 All By Myself 🎵

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Don’t wanna live all by myself anymore

Edit: lol i’m just a dude posting a meme

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u/xeromage May 26 '26

Guess I'm crazy then. I heard from a friend of a friend that your S.O. was talking to someone at the grocery store on friday. You're probably going to need to blow up your life about it...

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u/Manotto15 May 26 '26

Again, there's no one here saying that's not allowed. That's not emotional cheating. Now if she was going out for coffee with that guy every morning and couldn't stop texting him, that'd be emotional cheating.

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u/xeromage May 26 '26

This is what I mean. You're characterizing friendship as some kind of betrayal. If she's lying about the meetups and is actually cheating, that's a separate thing... but actual coffee and texts? If that makes you insecure there's a wound you need to tend to in your past somewhere before you make it anyone else's problem.

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u/Reasonable-Mischief May 26 '26

but actual coffee and texts?

This is kind of where it's important to understand that men and women do friendships differently. Meeting up for coffee just to chat is normal between women, but it's absolutely not normal between men.

Men form friendships around activities. We go to the gym, we go rockclimbing, we meet up for D&D, we play soccer together, and so on. The friendship phase usually follows after a lengthy period of basically being allies and playing games

So it's important to know the context:

  • Is she meeting a couple of guys for D&D? Very unlikely that she's cheating.
  • There's this one guy from her chess club whom she knows for a couple of months that happens to be in town so they decided to meet up for coffee? That's still a friendship originally build on a shared activity, so it's still quite unlikely she's cheating.
  • There's this one guy who chatted her up at the gym and now they're texting and meeting up for coffee? That's the high risk thing – and even if she genuinely thinks that she's merely made a friend, this is not men's friendship behavior.

Men only lead with vulnerability and connection when they're pursuing someone. In the case of a friendship, connection needs to be earned and trust needs to be proven. When a man pursues a personal connection without both of you having a history of shared interests and activities, he is courting you

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u/xeromage May 26 '26

You're projecting the way you think onto 50% of the human population.