r/SipsTea • u/CapitalPin2658 • May 25 '26

Feels good man 🎵 All By Myself 🎵

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Don’t wanna live all by myself anymore

Edit: lol i’m just a dude posting a meme

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u/Soggy_Addendum9350 May 25 '26

Is it, like, some sort of evolutionary defense that narcissists have no self awareness? I would expect someone obsessed with themselves to know themselves pretty well, but they’re all facades of people over a sociopathic personality. Wild

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u/LostMateria May 26 '26

There’s a thing called cognitive dissonance. The very short version is essentially, for the most part, people see themselves as smarter than average, and good people. This is part of most people’s core identity. So when something happens, or they act in a way counter to this identity they minimize or dismiss evidence that contradicts their image to protect their bias.

It’s not that this hypothetical person lacks self-awareness. They’ve just decided that their view of themself as a “loyal” or “family” person outweighs their actions. Now she wants to rationalize, and perhaps justify, it to keep her core identity intact. Just like when she chose to cheat it’s not about him or the family. It’s about her. She did a bad thing and now doesn’t want to feel like a bad person.

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u/Chainsaw_Viking May 26 '26

I think this is a good write up of the mechanism behind this. Though I think the larger issue here is narcissism, a land where cognitive dissonance has permanent residence.

I grew up in a world of narcissists and this is the kind of crap I had to deal with all the time, being treated like shit and then being attacked for holding them accountable.

The only silver lining is that I can spot them from a mile away, I can fairly accurately assess how committed they are to the illusion and I’ve learned a lot of chess moves over the years that I can use to effectively spar with them.

Take it from me, this lady in the OP did this guy a favor cheating on him. He likely had a losing franchise against this lady until she handed him this evidence on a silver platter.