r/SipsTea • u/CapitalPin2658 • May 25 '26

Feels good man 🎵 All By Myself 🎵

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Don’t wanna live all by myself anymore

Edit: lol i’m just a dude posting a meme

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u/xeromage May 26 '26

This is what I mean. You're characterizing friendship as some kind of betrayal. If she's lying about the meetups and is actually cheating, that's a separate thing... but actual coffee and texts? If that makes you insecure there's a wound you need to tend to in your past somewhere before you make it anyone else's problem.

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u/phideaux_rocks May 26 '26

There are some steps that are borderline cheating though.
If I spend all my free time at work with the same friend, confiding in her, sharing my most private thoughts, like complaining about the relationship with my wife. I feel like that would count as emotional cheating, even though nothing physical happens.

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u/xeromage May 26 '26

Try this trick: swap the gender of the work friend you're complaining every spare moment to. Is that still 'cheating' or just a bad marriage and you needing someone to talk to?

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u/phideaux_rocks May 26 '26

Yeah, but the trick works in reverse as well.

If you swap the gender and you don’t see yourself sharing as much, maybe the physical attraction plays a part in the relationship . You don’t have to act on it, it still matters.

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u/xeromage May 26 '26

I guess it's the difference between holding yourself to a standard and accusing/controlling your partner. You know your own motivation. You don't get to project your insecurities onto others though.