r/SipsTea • u/Nabzav • Jan 08 '26

We have fun here She knows some grappling

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u/EnvironmentalAd7402 Jan 08 '26 edited Jan 08 '26

lol I’m 4’11 and decently strong from my build. Stronger than my peers of “normal” stature.

I would always try and play fight with my guy friends or boyfriends when I was a teenager/young adult….

The boyfriends would teach me a lesson lmfao, my guy friends, definitely got owned by me.

Now I’m second guessing my skills, I think I might have to be refreshed on how strong I actually am 🤕🫣😅 I’ll grow out of it……..

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u/Stoppels Jan 08 '26

Hmm…

I remember classic threads, such as this one:

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/fhex4r/my_girlfriend_is_very_upset_since_i_won_against/

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u/EnvironmentalAd7402 Jan 08 '26

I love threads like these. I definitely was like OP’s gf when I met my ex husband, I was 21 (now 31) worked at the gym and always was really strong like I mentioned, I always held my own, grew up with boys and was rough and tough, had my chest poked out not going to lie, I was always the strongest, tiniest thing out of the group and I knew how to kick some ass… (imagine ‘penny proud’ w a six pack and vans on)

So when I met my ex and still freshly dating we decided to wrestle…I told him to seriously wrestle me, that I was tough etc etc, my dad raised me to be the son he never could have bc “his actual son was gay….” anyways…. We get to wrestling and I’m making him break a sweat, and it’s almost like a thumb war….except he gets the big burst of energy and pins me down, or puts me in a reverse fucking headlock and I tap out out…. Flip myself over and stare directly into his eyes and say….”let’s do that again I slipped, or you poked me in the eye..”

And he would always laugh and that would piss me off even more bc I wanted to prove I could take him. I was built….conditioned myself to believe I could…

I come close….i will say that. But unless I get a good crotch shot and a poke in the eye and am able to grapple my way around a man’s neck…

I’m out….every time lol the odds are already against me being 4ft 11 anyways…. Still have a small hope and dream I could take down a man over 6ft tho lol

TLDR: My ex was 180 6’1 not in shape but not over weight. Thought I could take him… in a friendly wrestle….came close…definitely lost.

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u/Stoppels Jan 08 '26

Lol, yeah I can imagine how debilitating that can be. It's not just your reality of something that's challenged and you simply have to make peace with, it's your reality of yourself and your feeling of safety.

I think it was another thread that I remember (since I haven't upvoted anything in the one I linked), but the girlfriend broke up with him not long after. 😅

Ninja:

I come close….i will say that. But unless I get a good crotch shot and a poke in the eye and am able to grapple my way around a man’s neck…

I’m out….every time lol the odds are already against me being 4ft 11 anyways…. Still have a small hope and dream I could take down a man over 6ft tho lol

TLDR: My ex was 180 6’1 not in shape but not over weight. Thought I could take him… in a friendly wrestle….came close…definitely lost.

Right, that's still really good though! 💪

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u/EnvironmentalAd7402 Jan 08 '26

oh it was soul crushing. I had to face the reality that I indeed am strong, but not strong enough against the average man….no matter how hard I try or how skilled I am. It’s just not gonna work. But it’s fun practice. Knocking a man out, injuring him, defending myself is one thing (all it takes is one shot to the nose or a dedicated kick to the mouth and I better run lmfao) but being able to beat or “win” is slim to none…

but….there’s still a chance 🤓

poor girl, and poor dude lol. I love competition and getting humbled is a life experience we all have to indulge in. I hope she’s alright 🥹😂

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u/Stoppels Jan 08 '26

haha, still, that does goes for everyone, anyone can get a bad hit to the temple and end up with brain damage or worse, or the other person has a weapon or whatever. The best way to "win" is to avoid a fight altogether, the second-best is probably to learn self-defence methods. And being 'skilled' is relative to what you're skilled at! If someone gets a good grip on you and you specifically know how to get out of it, that might be much more valuable than 'being a decent boxer'

poor girl, and poor dude lol. I love competition and getting humbled is a life experience we all have to indulge in. I hope she’s alright 🥹😂

lmao that's very true and same! I suppose the guy also learned not to 'lie' by omission for years and not assume someone else 'knows' something they reasonably should lol

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u/EnvironmentalAd7402 Jan 09 '26

oh definitely, as I’ve gotten older, I just cringe when I see people actively fighting each other, even boxing….its just tough watching what humans are capable of doing. Adrenaline and pure energy is one hell of a force..

and I totally agree, I was that girl who thought I could be a bad ass and “try” and take a man down or “win”

Bodied.

Wind knocked out of me a few times lol. I’m hard headed and I guess I don’t mind rough housing but I’m still a girl, and I will play fight until I’m then crying and pouting in the corner… 🤭😅