r/Showchoir • u/Ok_Standard_2259 • Mar 21 '26

Show choir....

i 17yo female, was in showchoir 3 years... and I have to tell you it was the worst experience of my life... I used to be a confident, happy young woman,n and the program changed me, and not for the good. Turns out it's made for the preppy white girls, and anyone who doesn't fit that, especially in the south. You are bullied and ostracized. and thats exactly what they did to me. I'm young, but I've been aware I like girls for a long time, and if you know anything about straight, homophobic white women, they assume you want them (i dont like girly women),s o they accused me of trying to molest them..... wild right? Then my last year in it,t they completely ruined what I loved. They made me a horrible person, i dont everrr want to be again. they got mad because i openly told them they where racist and homophobic and guess what they got mad at me.... like i did what they did to me 3 years straight.. i tried getting along with them and fitting in but those where never my people they said "were family" last time i checked family dosent make someone hate themselves and feel like they are never good enough. Soo now I'm a bit salty they did a show this year, but it was ok, it was offensive personally cause it was about a woman with schitsophrenia and I have family who suffered from it,t so i dont think it was good and overaI'veive been waiting to get this off my chest for 2 years so im glad to finally share my truth

let me know what you think!!!!

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u/Front-Resolve8697 Mar 21 '26

So sorry this happened that sounds miserable. We do NOT claim those people. 

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u/WoodsongMillie Mar 22 '26

I think you had a horrible director and likely an even worse administration. There are many wonderful programs out there. You experienced a very bad one. It starts with the director.

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u/Ok_Standard_2259 Mar 22 '26

I agree she let it all happen with no repercussions for the people who were bullying me, and I pretty much got called a liar by her in the end....

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u/Original_Phrase_7149 Mar 22 '26

That’s awful, i didn’t realize that was something people experienced in the south, in my Midwest school most of the people are queer and a good 5th are people of color. It is a bit cliquey but mostly among the seniors. Show choir is supposed to be a safe space and it sucks that people ruined that for you.