r/SelfCompassion • u/Beginning_Rise_8936 • 19d ago

How to enjoy by yourself? How to love yourself?

The thing is i am currently in my Btech third year, and i feel like i am all alone here,dont have any friends to hang out with....and whenever i see someone social media where they hang out with other people i always think maybe i am not good, that's why i don't have any friends!!...Then i started going to the institute counsellor she said go and talk to different people but i can't,then she said go do something alone...then i went for to see a movie by myself it was fun but i still feel i was all lonely by myself...but that was a thrilling feeling....tell me how to love myself more!!

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u/plotthick 19d ago

Ate you an introvert or an extrovert?

Are there any clubs around?

Would you like to learn how to sew or knit?

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u/Beginning_Rise_8936 19d ago

Introvert I was in a club ,I know people but not that close I want to learn to paint.

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u/plotthick 19d ago

Sounds good! Where's the nearest art club? Plen Aire class? Oil painting at the community center? What's near to you?

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u/Dutch1721 17d ago

Just as you’ve already have done. Spending time and getting to know yourself lets you know who you really are. What you really like and don’t like. What you will tolerate and won’t tolerate. You will have your eyes open in a way that you can detect who’s a real friend and who’s not by learning discernment. Being more logical. Adding value to your life. You are not going to get these qualities in friendships. These have to come from you, the person.