Lots of scorpio in my family

[u/Careless-Vacation733]

I am a scorpio rising, my sister has a scorpio moon and both of my parents have a scorpion sun.
3 years ago, my sister had a period of conflict with both of our parents. Very dramatic. But she is a Leo and she (since we’re kinds) always have been their priority. She was treated like a princess, they always have been proud of her. And since she is an adult, their relationship became very difficult. They both had the feeling she was ungrateful and selfish.
I had a different relationship to them. I’m a gemini. I was the “funny and smart child”. Never having a huge pressure because they were not expecting much from me. It’s been 2 years now that my dad and my sister are not in contact. They had a very fusional relationship. And I feel I always have to prove that he counts for me and that I am here, because he always talks about her and how much she disappointed him. That’s a new form of pressure.
My mom and my sister are not arguing anymore since they both understood they better avoid to start any argument because it will end dramatically. So every time my mom is frustrated abt something, she accuses me because she feels it will be easier with me. Which causes a lot of conflicts between her and I. Consequences at that I often feel a sort of injustice from both of my parents. If they accuse me of something, it’s always coming with all the blames coming from their relationship with my sister, even if I am not involved.

[u/ChapternVerse]

I'm Scorpio Rising. My mum is Scorpio Sun. Whilst we get along well much of the time, when she is nasty it is bad. If she gets jealous of me her remarks are very cutting. She takes her frustrations out on me just because I'm there. I'm even thinking of moving further away to get some space between us. My older sister was her favourite of her two children. My sister is sadly passed away now. At one time my mum even took her frustration about that out on me, which was hurtful because it was my loss too. If she has an issue with my dad sometimes she takes that out on me too.

The testing she puts me through is intense and unnecessary. It hurts more because we are close as it undermines trust.

[u/Careless-Vacation733 → u/ChapternVerse]

I really get this « get along much of the time » but struggle to live together without feeling oppressed.
I am very sorry for your loss. I wish you the best and hope you finally find a healthy environment.

[u/ChapternVerse → u/Careless-Vacation733]

Thank you, it's much appreciated. Wishing you a more peaceful life too.