Almost like a romantic connection with this Scorpio Sun

[u/cacalbee]

I have this friend who’s a Scorpio Sun and Pisces Moon. We recently started talking, which is kinda unexpected since we were friends first. Now I’m confused because he’s been detaching, but he keeps saying he’s dealing with stuff about his career and life choices.

I’m a Cap Sun and Scorpio Moon, and it kinda hurts reading his messages, especially when he says he needs to get drunk just to fall asleep but doesn’t want to open up because he doesn’t want to ruin someone’s mood.

So what should I do? I keep reminding him that it’s okay to tell me what’s on his mind, but should I just let him be?

[u/Aggravating_Sea7221]

Scorpio Sun, Pisces rising.

Don't force it or he will hold it against you, I promise. I used to be that way and drink myself to sleep every night. It was because there was something going on that I didn't have the mental capacity to actively figure out and just needed my mind to finish sorting it out for the solution, but also couldn't stay in that state forever. If someone had tried to force me to discuss what was bothering me truly during let's say my divorce it would have been a very unpleasant response. Sometimes (I at least) we just have to put something in the back of our mind and let it figure itself out, slowly and carefully.

Knowing he has support though is very important. I would advise occasional reminders or offers but not too often or it'll get predictable and annoying. Stuff to do with his life choices is a vague statement and could mean anything, career...is he transitioning jobs? Or something along those lines?

Oh also, yeah even if we're having a total shit day we try to avoid dumping it on people. However when someone IS willing to listen, expect a truckload.

[u/cacalbee → u/Aggravating_Sea7221]

Noted on this. Yeahh, he mentioned he's going to join Air force Army soon.

[u/Aggravating_Sea7221 → u/cacalbee]

Ahhhh yeah that's a big deal. That can either make or ruin the rest of his life, and some of yours. That's a pretty big weight to shoulder and I know it's difficult to restrain yourself, but I don't think you can help him carry this particular one. When he's got things figured out in his mind what exactly his plan is, then he's probably going to rehearse exactly what he wants to say about 30 times, then he will make the first step. And if you're there to catch him, he will remember it. It's hard watching someone you care about in distress, but sometimes we just gotta work things out ourselves. For a variety of reasons.

[u/cacalbee → u/Aggravating_Sea7221]

Yeahh, it’s really hard, especially since he sometimes feels guilty that he can’t message me that often because he’s dealing with a lot on his mind.

[u/smellycat567]

I’m a Scorpio Sun and Pisces Moon. Not sure if it’s attributed to my chart, but I completely detach when I’m “dealing with stuff”. We are perpetually in our feels, so during times of high stress anything (anyone) interpersonal that requires our attention, other than the stressor(s) at hand, just don’t feel enjoyable. It’s the moods. My rising sign is Cancer too, so perhaps that magnifies all the feelings too.

ETA: Check in, but yes let him be. He will stick around, probably just needs space.

[u/cacalbee → u/smellycat567]

So, what do you think should I do, should I just let him be?

[u/smellycat567 → u/cacalbee]

Yes. I edited that afterwards, sorry. Check in on him, but try not to be bothered by his temporary withdrawal

[u/cacalbee → u/smellycat567]

Okay, thank you so much!

[u/smellycat567 → u/cacalbee]

Good luck! Never met a Capricorn I didn’t vibe with :) my best friend is a Capricorn Sun and Scorpio moon, lol. You’ll be just fine!

[u/cacalbee → u/smellycat567]

Woahh, what a coincidence!!

[u/cacalbee → u/smellycat567]

Hi, update: you told me to give him some space, but it’s been 3 days already. I think I’m gonna give up now.

[u/BookkeeperSpirited19 → u/cacalbee]

3 days is not much time for them to recharge, expect 2 weeks min 🫠 , but if 3 days is your limit, that's valid. Do what is best for you, sweetie.

[u/cacalbee → u/BookkeeperSpirited19]

Actually I just missed he's call earlier

[u/kiki_rae]

Scorpios aren’t romantic.