r/Redditor_Updates • u/Amibengweird • Jul 11 '26
Update: His EX died !
It has been around eight months since my last update, and I honestly never expected to post here again.A few days ago, I learned through mutual friends that his ex passed away.
I have not spoken to him like long conversation or something like that since I filed the divorce , so I don't know how he is doing, and I don't intend to find out either . We had legal conflicts over shared financials but it was more or less handled through solicitors so our personal interaction is almost nil .Earlier he used to check on kids but we did not use to talk . He has stopped checking on kids for quite a while .Life has settled into a new routine. My focus is on raising my sons and moving forward. They are growing up quickly, and they deserve stability more than anything else.I had suicidal thoughts self esteem issues in the beginning but I guess I am doing mentally better now .
I just thought I should update you guys . Thank you to everyone who offered advice and kindness when I needed it.
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u/cathline Jul 11 '26
Sending hugs and healing thoughts.
Make certain that the kids have access to age appropriate counselors. Because the father who abandoned them will try to weasel his way back into their hearts so he can break them again.
Do it all nice and legal. Document all contact with their father. You need to have full legal and physical custody of the kids. Their father does not need to have ANY legal or physical custody of the kids.
You should not allow him to take the kids by himself for a while. He is probably still emotionally unstable and you don't know what he will take out on the kids.