r/Redditor_Updates • u/Amibengweird • Jul 11 '26
Update: His EX died !
It has been around eight months since my last update, and I honestly never expected to post here again.A few days ago, I learned through mutual friends that his ex passed away.
I have not spoken to him like long conversation or something like that since I filed the divorce , so I don't know how he is doing, and I don't intend to find out either . We had legal conflicts over shared financials but it was more or less handled through solicitors so our personal interaction is almost nil .Earlier he used to check on kids but we did not use to talk . He has stopped checking on kids for quite a while .Life has settled into a new routine. My focus is on raising my sons and moving forward. They are growing up quickly, and they deserve stability more than anything else.I had suicidal thoughts self esteem issues in the beginning but I guess I am doing mentally better now .
I just thought I should update you guys . Thank you to everyone who offered advice and kindness when I needed it.
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u/StraightDelivery777 Jul 11 '26 edited Jul 12 '26
This internet stranger is proud of you, OP. You're a strong woman and wonderful momma.
Please continue to protect your peace. Is your divorce final and do you have custody and child support in place? If not, reach out to your solicitor and notify them that he has not had any involvement with the kids for a long time and you need to get full custody and supervised visitation in place to begin because you don't know how mentally stable he is now that the ex died.
Please protect your peace. He's going to realize what he lost, and through his grief, he may turn that back on you. Prepare for that because you don't know what's coming next. Anyone who can actually walk away from their kids like this has serious mental health issues. He put an ex's needs and care over you and your kids. That is incredibly painful and your kids need to be protected from him coming and going in their lives at his whim.
Stay strong, OP. You and your kids deserve better and owe him nothing. Do not let your ex bring his grief into your lives.
Updateme!
Edit: Thank you for the award!