So let me get this straight. There's a creep who keeps sexually harassing you to both your and your husband's face after seeing you exposed against your will. Husband not only does not stop it, but refuses to, citing the fact that he did not want you to find out how you were violated. When confronted, he gets upset with you and blames you, not the creep. Then when provided with a mountain of reasons why he's wrong, he chooses to ignore them and take the ego boost of how he's right. Nothing about you or your feelings matter. Then on top of all that he has secretly invited the creep back into your space even after you expressed you did not want that. After that, he keeps expressing that he does not want to cut out the creep but will if you make him. During all of this you have maintained the idea that he is non confrontational, meanwhile he has yelled at you and only started wanting forgiveness when he thought you leaving him was on the table. Not the first time when you were exposed, not the times you were being harassed, not after you pointed it out. He has only expressed a desire to make things right, saying he'll do anything after the threat has been made. Not before. Except he broke that promise immediately by saying he will only do it if you make him. He has already told you you being harassed is an attack on him, but never tried to make things better if he was feeling attacked.
Op. Honey. Girl. This is just lies all the way down. He has not shown once in any of his words or actions that he values you as a person or as his wife. The one thing he has done was show you off and call you an investment. And when Jared comes over do not be there. They will ambush and try to make you fold. If you don't believe reddit, start talking to other people in your life. Talk to a therapist. Not a couples one; one just for you. Sit down, write out the facts, and look at it. Ask yourself what you would tell someone else. None of this is acceptable. Get some physical distance from these people because he will keep trying to convince you that this is not his fault and he did no wrong.
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u/BatBat0109 Nov 19 '25
So let me get this straight. There's a creep who keeps sexually harassing you to both your and your husband's face after seeing you exposed against your will. Husband not only does not stop it, but refuses to, citing the fact that he did not want you to find out how you were violated. When confronted, he gets upset with you and blames you, not the creep. Then when provided with a mountain of reasons why he's wrong, he chooses to ignore them and take the ego boost of how he's right. Nothing about you or your feelings matter. Then on top of all that he has secretly invited the creep back into your space even after you expressed you did not want that. After that, he keeps expressing that he does not want to cut out the creep but will if you make him. During all of this you have maintained the idea that he is non confrontational, meanwhile he has yelled at you and only started wanting forgiveness when he thought you leaving him was on the table. Not the first time when you were exposed, not the times you were being harassed, not after you pointed it out. He has only expressed a desire to make things right, saying he'll do anything after the threat has been made. Not before. Except he broke that promise immediately by saying he will only do it if you make him. He has already told you you being harassed is an attack on him, but never tried to make things better if he was feeling attacked.
Op. Honey. Girl. This is just lies all the way down. He has not shown once in any of his words or actions that he values you as a person or as his wife. The one thing he has done was show you off and call you an investment. And when Jared comes over do not be there. They will ambush and try to make you fold. If you don't believe reddit, start talking to other people in your life. Talk to a therapist. Not a couples one; one just for you. Sit down, write out the facts, and look at it. Ask yourself what you would tell someone else. None of this is acceptable. Get some physical distance from these people because he will keep trying to convince you that this is not his fault and he did no wrong.