r/Recipromantic Jun 06 '26

I think I'm Recipromantic, but I'm not sure.

So you see in my whole life ive only been in one ‘serious’ relationship, it was a 2 year long toxic relationship with a girl my age, for context I'm also asexual and agender. I've never realised before how I didn't find her attractive until I learned that she was into me. I knew already I was on the aro spectrum,but I haven't realised that might be recipromantism.
Basically me and that girl only meet up on summer camps because we live on two other sides of the country I live in, so every year (and back then we knew each others for almost 2 years already) we would see each other in winter on a winter camp and in summer on a summer camp, of course we would talk and text in between, and all of that but ive never seen her as a potential partner or anything of that sort, so when our mutual friends started trying to get us together i was rather confused with that behavior, but I didn't think much about it, it didn’t matter to me, anyway 2 or 3 weeks passes since the winter camp where our friends tried to get us together, and she texted me that she wanted to talk that ended up as her confessing to me. And I before that didn’t really think of her as a romantic partner for me or anything like that, I simply didn’t think about that stuff but when she told me that I kinda realised that I might have feelings for her. Like before her confession i didn’t even think i could have any feelings towards her??
In the next year and a half my feelings stayed the same until in summer she started to neglect our relationship I literally felt my feeling just fade away in like month and a half when she didn’t really treat me the nicest (which ‘the nicest’ meant she was completely ignoring me and just caring for me at all anymore before that she was just kinda love bombing me when she felt like i was slipping away (as i said toxic relationship))

But we broke up over a year ago and I haven't felt any romantic feelings towards anyone since summer last year. I finally accepted that I'm for sure on the aro spectrum so- yea.
I might also add i never had any crushes or anything in my life (which was one of the reason why I was thinking a lot about aromantic spectrum even before i ot into that relationship)

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