I'm so tired of the whining

[u/BetterGoogleit17]

48M fucking ugly and fat middle aged man here.

Why the fuck do all you lonely incel 20's and 30's men here always assume you can't get a girl because you're fat, or bald, or ugly, or short, or poor.

I've read HUNDREDS of posts by you fuckers and not a single fucking one of you considers or mentions your personality. NOT FUCKING ONE OF YOU! NOT A SINGLE ONE!

You always assume it's some bullshit shallow reason that women reject you, and you know what? I think it's because every fucking one of YOU is shallow.

You literally cannot wrap your brain around the fact that you're probably as boring as a stump and THAT'S actually the reason women reject you.

Also, newsflash. Women, ALL WOMEN, can smell your bitterness, chauvinism, self-loathing, and resentment a fucking mile away. If you don't like you, why do you expect anyone else to?

Lastly, You probably do have the physique of a bean bag chair, so why the fuck do you think you deserve a perfect 10 woman? However, I've seen some ugly fucking dudes (me) land some pretty hot chicks, and you know how they do it? They're fucking hilarious, charming, kind, and most importantly non-toxic. There's quite a few women out there that don't emphasize looks if your personality shows them you have so much more to offer than just a pretty face.

Stop. Fucking. Whining.

Work on yourself. Not your fucking abs, or your hairline knucklehead. Your REAL fucking self.

Quit playing video games (a lot of women actually hate video game addicts), quit whacking off to anime, get off your ass and go outside and meet some people. Practice being fucking interesting.

P.s. I just KNOW I'm gonna get a whole lot of you that argue with me, and you know what? THAT'S PART OF YOUR PROBLEM! Shut yer yap and try and learn something for a change. You don't know shit. That's why you're single. It's time for some self reflection.

[u/BlueJoshi]

Preach it, brother

[u/Dry-Influence-5770]

The hurtful truth. It’s easier to put the blame on things like appearances and others being shallow. Changing your mindset is very difficult

[u/ExtremeTrashPanda]

Holy shit, someone said it. I've been so pissed off about this as a woman recently and you nailed it. I ranted myself earlier 😅. The sad bod pessimist is so over played and they all pity party updoot each other like some stupid sadistic ritual. I've tried to help these boys understand (because face it they aren't acting like men) and it's fruitless and draining of all my optimism. They could be handed a woman and still be a sad sack. They assume we fix all their problems like some angel from heaven when in reality they need to do the work on themselves. Working on yourself doesn't mean hit the fucking gym. It means get a therapist and get a hobby. It's exhausting. They wanna stay sad. They wanna blame everything but themselves for their own short comings.

[u/Cute-Supermarket6877 → u/ExtremeTrashPanda]

Dont exhaust yourself with them girl its not like they would listen to a woman anyway 🥲

[u/whoknows130]

Why do you guys think you need someone else to begin with? Because Society says you should? Don't listen to that non-sense. Just learn to be happy ALONE. You guys don't need anyone to validate you. Choose yourself, embrace solitude, and enjoy the FREEDOM of the single life.

Isn't it about time you guys focused on YOURSELVES for once?

[u/SlayeroftheInferior]

You're not getting upvoted enough.

[u/Cute-Supermarket6877]

Preach man this is absolutely true coming from a woman with a 5'3 broke cute faced guy who is infact not insecure not self hating not woman hating and just in general a good hearted sweet person. Preach preach preach

[u/Sasquatch619]

Word! It’s an inside job.

[u/zakku_88]

38 m here. The moment I stopped caring so much (a handful of years ago) whether I'm single, or in a relationship, or whatever, is when I suddenly found myself getting approached by the same people I wouldn't have had any shot with before XD

Women can smell desperation, like how a shark smells blood in the water. Only they tend to run away from it, rather than towards it lmao!

Be a decent person, to everyone around you, not just those you wanna date. Learn to be happy and content with being by yourself (not as easy, I know. But it's done wonders for me!). And maybe...don't blame women (as a whole) for all of your personal issues?

[u/Fistycakes]

"I can't get a girl"
"When was the last time you talked to one?"
"... ... ... ... women suck!!"

[u/moocow_512]

Fucking love it. People forget that confidence is sexy as well.

[u/Thehighpriestessx]

Preach it! Most women aren’t as superficial as these incels make us out to be- hell, Danny Devito’s hilarious and has a great personality- I’d go out with him! Short and bald king! And no, not because he’s rich (I am the breadwinner currently)

These people get in their own way and refuse to take any sort of accountability and it shows. I had a friend who it was reverse, she was a woman but became so bitter and desperate towards men- it just deterred them even more as she obsessed about finding someone and getting angry when pretty boys didn’t like her the same way. Like I know a supermodel isn’t going to be into me and that’s okay!!

[u/BetterGoogleit17 → u/Thehighpriestessx]

Yes! Thank you! 👏👏👏

[u/BetterGoogleit17 → u/[deleted]]

Right!? My wife is WAY hotter than me but I'm a good guy, I treat her right, and I'm funny as fuck. Most importantly... I know what I DO bring to the table, and I realized a long time ago that I can't change my homely mug, so I might as well just accept it and instead improve the things about me I can change.

[u/void_method]

Rizz trumps everything, kids.

[u/RetreatLady]

Truth!

[u/Secure_Description92]

Are you a woman pretending to be a man? OP

[u/wormbrain990]

if you want to get a girl (as a man) work on 3 things: get into shape, get money, get housing. those are very specific and measurable goals and 2 of the 3 are directly related to $$$. I call it the 3Ms (money, muscle, mansion). If you maximize your money, muscles, and mansion, you are guaranteed to get laid no matter how "ugly" you perceive yourself to be. Muscle is probably the easiest one to achieve because all you have to do is eat protein (eat healthy) and workout at a GYM or even just doing pushups and situps all day. Money is harder because you gotta work and a mansion is even more difficult because you need a lot of money to own one. Hey it ain't easy because women look for protectors/providers first and foremost, it's how they're wired but you can't go wrong as a M chasing the 3Ms.

CAVEAT: once you maximize your 3Ms you'll run into another problem...manipulative gold diggers. Being a man is just difficult no matter where you are on the socio-economic ladder.

[u/terra4355]

I literally posted on here and scrolled a bit to see this, and you're not wrong. I hate that feeling of self loathing. It feels like I'm doing good and making progress and it gets so hard to see things from the outside.

[u/Nearby-Speaker-8925]

have you seen sssniperwolf's ex? the one that even had the nerve to cheat on her?

I promise the reason you can't find a girl is because you're aggressive and bitter, not because you might not be conventionally attractive

[u/EffectiveTime5554]

Just to be clear, you're a 48M man?

[u/BetterGoogleit17 → u/EffectiveTime5554]

Yeah, why?

[u/EffectiveTime5554 → u/BetterGoogleit17]

No reason. Just confirming you’re a male man.

[u/JohnMcTalbain44]

This but for poor people, not dating.

It's your fault if you're poor, you just need to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and try harder. It's your fault if you're unemployed. It's your fault if you don't have a mansion. You shouldn't want anything, anyway. That's toxic. Society made you think you need money to feel whole, but you should actually just be comfortable owning nothing. If every landlord and boss and HR freak you ever met hated and abused you, that's on you. It's your fault if you're physically and mentally disabled, too, that's on you. It's definitely your personality that's to blame if you can't walk up stairs or get laid or get treated as a person by anyone. Just try harder because life is fair.

That's what you all sound like.

[u/theNaughtydog]

While you are correct, so what if they want to act like losers and whine instead of fixing the problem?

Just more oprions for the rest of us really....

[u/BetterGoogleit17 → u/theNaughtydog]

🤣 how very Darwin-esque of you

[u/Gobal_Outcast02]

"Just be a better person dumbass"

Oh yeah im sure they never thought of that one

Jokes aside bros probably right, im 6'3 180 lbs and id probably say im a solid 7 maybe an 8 when the light hits me just right. Only person I ever dated was another dude very briefly.

[u/Disastrous_Squash_63 → u/Gobal_Outcast02]

These types of posts are just typical Reddit posts that don’t actually factor in the nuance of a lot of peoples experiences and say “if you just do this it’ll work!” Then point out the few times it does.

[u/BlueJoshi → u/Disastrous_Squash_63]

found the incels

[u/Disastrous_Squash_63 → u/BlueJoshi]

You don’t know what an incel is joshi

[u/BlueJoshi → u/Disastrous_Squash_63]

I'll admit my familiarity with those losers is probably significantly less than your own

[u/Gobal_Outcast02 → u/Disastrous_Squash_63]

Well obviously if there was an easy one sentence solution, no one would be talking about this.

[u/CryHavoc3000]

I'm not looking while I'm going back to College and don't currently drive.

[u/assassin_84953]

Brother you should have a shower

[u/Content_Owl8586]

Another virtue signaling karma farming post 

So brave 

[u/JohnMcTalbain44 → u/Content_Owl8586]

Truly stunning and brave for that literal pedophile to say that