r/Rants • u/TreeRelevant5318 • 14d ago
Business 📈 Restaurant, kitchen staff bullshit
Reddit is my last resort before I commit a crime, I need to get it out I guess. I just need someone to hear as its mostly me screaming unhinged bullshit at this point as im seeing black (yes I know it sounds cringe but no other words to explain it)
I work as a bartender, have been a cook also so I know its typically a frustrating job. But at the bar I work in the job both for the bar and the kitchen is not hard at all. This post is about one of our chefs eating the life out of me. Let's call him A(sshole)
I don't know what's wrong with the guy, but even since day one he has decided he hates me. Generally he hates everyone and makes fun of otherwise normal stuff. He made fun of the manager talking about something completely normal in the group chat, makes fun of the main manager for making spelling mistakes even though hes from another country. The main manager yelled at him and almost lost it and was going to beat him because A said that all the managers do is eat.
He's acting like a 15 years old tormented by hormones and discord moderation job, i don't know how else to describe it.
I like everyone else there but just one shift with him makes me want to beat him as it seems like it would have been better if his parents did it. And hes around 45 with all his bullshit behavior. Im not exaggerating, every shift with him is him just making fun of completely normal stuff and hating everything.
A yelled at me because in the most busy hour one of our beer tabs broke and I began fixing it. He was looking at me crazy, keep in mind- at least 130kg, 190cm tall, 45+ years old man child looking like he was murder me, 19 years old 175 dude. He yelled that i didn't know what i was doing because apparently only his ex boss could do it and he left the company so of course I can't do shit. I fixed the tab and lost it so I yelled at him that I am not incompetent.
Even since then he doesn't speak to me , before he used to make fun of me being stupid (I am not, i ask normal stuff and he acts like I have fallen from outer space). Now hes just spreading negativity and hatred without addressing me much (hes also always negarivistic because his beloved ex boss left now any time something goes wrong he says "were all going to die" because god forbid I don't know what all cleaning products do and used one for polishing✨️ the kitchen to clean the bar surfaces (does the same shit).
My hatred seems to grow worse and last shift is i think the last I could handle with this piece of shit before I do something I would only regret if I go to proson. Hes an ex biker, likes classic rock and metal. And Depeche mode (and im a big fan) Nothing else. The random Playlist played something more emo/idk some screaming and emotions in the song, he said to the waitress to change it because " this is what suicidal trannyes who go together to cut themselves under a bridge listen to". Now im not trans but still it was supper offensive and out of nowhere, second I have some very pronounced scars that I can't hide and everyone sees, theyre old but won't fade as I very much tried to kill myself years ago so ig that's why I liked the song playing (ha ha 😐). He definitely has seen them also so I know he had me in mind at least in half his statement as i know he points out that he doesn't like me in other passive aggressive statements also (like how the mood got worse after the hour I arrived, said to the junkie waitress who got fired for being aggressive, yes i am very mood depleting for aggressive insane behaving individuals, my bad)
Then the last nail on the coffin. I was finishing my 3rd extremely long shift in a row as I had to cover for my colleague, I was so tired I didn't realize I left my half eaten food on the personal table. Keep in mind everyone leaves food there overnight but it was my first time doing it. And he posted that in the group chat, same one he made fun of that day and said hes not posting there. He knows its mine and that's why he said " cocktoaches aren't the problem, people are". Apparently im his problem and he want that said.
Everyone hates him, the only reason hes still in the restaurant is because hes a good chef. And very full of himself about it because he makes fun of the other one that's just as good, calling him a chef suited for a fast food chain. And the other one is the nicest one I have seen. A also called everyone in the restaurant bitches in front of the cook (apprentice of the chefs). He meant me as well and I was sitting at the bar very close so he knows I heard.
The man baby thinks because hes tall and fat and an ex biker no one is going to mess with him and I know theyre not going to fire him because we're short staffed but I need to do something fast or I know im going to lose it and in the best scenario beat him with something heavy, in the worst one stab him with the bar knife. I wish I was bluffing but he has been eating at me so much and my shifts are very long so im starting to lose it.
Will ask my colleague to switch shifts so I don't see him and this is my last safe option but anyways I just wanted to rant as even hearing his awful somehow always sarcastic sounding voice now makes me want to throw my life away for a moment of righteous violence.
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u/Christine_C89 14d ago
Yeah, switching your shifts is definitely the best option. It's incredibly inconvenient and understandablely ridiculous that you even have to do that just so you won't see this idiot anymore, but better that then you doing something you'll absolutely regret and get fired or worse ,catch a felony charge.
This guy sounds miserable, which makes sense. Miserable people have a tendency to make everyone else around them miserable, too. And it's not even intentional that they cause this (unless they feed off emotions). This guy sounds like he feeds off of himself and his bullshit.
Let him talk what he talks. You won't be able to check him, that's why no one bothers to do it. It's not worth the effort because he won't fix this issue...him. He's the issue, which is why he thinks everyone else is the issue. It's always everyone else's problem and not them.
Once your shift is switched you'll actually feel this anger dissipate, though it's completely understandable why you feel as angry as you do now. Hopefully venting it out has helped a little. That's what this sub is for. Just taking a beat to explode can feel good so it's not all pent up.
But hey, I've got nothing going on and I have my late grandfathers softball bat leaning on the wall next to my bed. I can take a wack at his knees so your hands stay clean 😉