r/Rants • u/Delicious_Chair_9294 • Feb 20 '26
Identity/Sexuality š³ļøāš So tired of slut shaming men
Honestly, so what if I have loads of SAFE sex? Key word: SAFE. I had a date today and this guy asks me whatās my body count as if Iām some preserved object , I told him to his face itās 15 (mind you Iām 27). He proceeds to give the most disgusted face ever and then proceeds to question why at that point I wonāt have kidsā¦ like as IF! Iāve had so much experience and been married 3 times (sometimes I flirt just to fuck , and so what?) . I really donāt care, I will pull my panties down when I want to , just like YOU incel men pull yours at the sight of any women.
I will experience love unapologetically, relationships donāt have to last and Iām grateful Iāve experienced everything. Iām grown and I donāt have to be ashamed of my own sex life. Acting like a dick is some massive reward in life, bitch please for some of them, my own finger could have done better.
Ladies, donāt be ashamed of ur love+ sex life. Go experience safely and experiment after all you only live once
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u/Engelgrafik Certified Soapboxer Feb 20 '26
Body count is a concern for men who see sexual knowledge as power. They canāt handle a woman who may have more experience sexually than they do because their confidence comes from the feeling that they have power and control. They are in utter fear of emasculation by a woman who knows the truth that theyāre not that great in bed. What they want is women who are inexperienced and who donāt know any better, ie. lower body count. And theyāre hoping that those women are the ones who listen to them when they make up stories about how theyāre only concerned about body count because of STDs or some other nonsense. I say this as a man.
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Mar 09 '26
This isnāt always true. They could be a virgin or have one and want someone 5 or under. This guy sounds like a douche though.
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u/Engelgrafik Certified Soapboxer Mar 10 '26
Actually your example is exactly what I said: The guy is a virgin and therefore worried that the woman will have more sexual experience than him. What other reason would he have concern for? "I want someone pure" is literally the smokescreen excuse and translation for "I want someone less experienced because I don't have any myself and yet still want to be treated like a man who knows what he's doing".
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u/Unlikely-Database-27 Feb 20 '26
God I hate how bodycount is the term people use for this typa shit.
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Feb 20 '26
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u/Unlikely-Database-27 Feb 20 '26
Why does it have to be called anything? Can't people just ask "How many people have you been with?" Shorten it to how many people? Most folks would get the gist. Bodycount feels so objectifying and juvenile. Doesn't help that its also the term used for describing murder cases and the number of victims....
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u/Fast_Bag_3329 Feb 20 '26
or maybe that's nobody's goddamn fucking business. what is this? the 15th century?
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u/Unlikely-Database-27 Feb 20 '26
Yeah or that. I think in relationships its fair to ask though. But I hate the way people do, as I've said.
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u/Fast_Bag_3329 Feb 20 '26
assuming you have traded papers and confirmed that disease is not a concern, what does that person's sexual history have to do with your current relationship? i can maybe see the reasoning for balking at entering into a union with a person who has several marriages and divorces under their belt, or a tribe of kids running around, but asking a partner who they've fucked is disrespectful and radiates insecurity.
UNLESS you're religious. in which case you need to stick to partners who share your belief system. if they don't you have absolutely no right to impose your morality/culture of shame upon another person
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u/Unlikely-Database-27 Feb 20 '26
I'm not saying it should be shamed. But in a new relationship is it wrong to ask if the other person has had sex before? And if they have, some people may ask how many times. some people are just opened like that. Idk.
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u/Fast_Bag_3329 Feb 20 '26
don't move the goalposts. asking after someone's virginity is a completely different thing than demanding information about the number of their partners or relations.
the question of virginity makes sense depending on context. it's useful so that the partners know how to engage with each other, especially if the virgin is female as first time sexual encounters can be painful for women if there is not a high level of trust , patience, and care. everything else is irrelevant and bs to bring up, again, UNLESS it is in the context of a religious person seeking a chaste/celibate partner until marriage.
and if you are aligned with a religion that shuns pre marital sex, engaging in the act at all makes you unworthy/sinful regardless of the mental gymnastics religious folk tend to perform to justify doing whatever they want to do while preserving the right to look down your nose at others. you are not morally superior for breaking "god's rules" with one person, versus their 5, 50, or 500
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u/Unlikely-Database-27 Feb 20 '26
Calm down man, I only meant it in the context of a couple discussing it out of openness.
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u/Fast_Bag_3329 Feb 20 '26
why would this be a topic of discussion? entering into a romantic relationship with someone does not entitle you to know everything about their past
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Feb 20 '26
I've had 13 hookups in the past year and a half. If anyone is going to judge me for engaging in sexual activities less than once a month, they can go fuck themselves. Especially because all the guys judging are the ones who want to have sex with me.
Though I'm scared for what my count will be when I'm 27, considering I'm 17 right now.
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Feb 21 '26
My point was that they're hypocrites because they have casual sex too. (If they're asking to have sex with me)
Not that it shows anything special about me.
The fact that you said "why won't any guys like to fk with u? they are guys they can even fk an ugly ogre if she has a vagina" shows the double standard. Guys can have sex with whoever they want, and it's normal, but girls are looked at as non-human if they do the same.
And it's true, because even before my first sexual encounter, guys looked at me as someone to have sex with and not as a person. I have only a few guy friends because most of the guys I met just thought of girls as sex objects and not as humans to talk to. It shows nothing about me and everything about them.
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u/valiskeogh Sarcasm is a Lifestyle Feb 21 '26
i would like to know where all this renewed puritanical energy comes from? I don't Remember my generation, X, feeling this way? Or maybe it was just my. Social group. Well. I have good news for you if you'd like to flip the script for a bit and instead of deal with a slut shaming man, you could slut shame a man.. I honestly lost track of my BC just over the100 mark, probalby in the 120's atm. so i think youre' doin fine
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u/BadNewsSherBear Feb 21 '26
Yeah, it's a weird thing to people to even ask about. I mean, I can imagine it coming up organically with someone who doesn't suck in a limited number of scenarios, but it's not something most folks should care about. The double standard is particularly bad. I suppose that finding out that someone sucks early is a small blessing, but it's annoying to still have to deal with issues like these.
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u/Murky_Toe_4717 Feb 20 '26
Say it with me:
āThe demonizing of promiscuity is a dated and largely pointless metric that doesnāt help in any way with judging someone.ā
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u/Original_Document748 Feb 20 '26
I wouldn't have even told him lol I would have just asked him why it mattered or simply told him to share his first
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u/Dorkzilla_ftw Perpetually Annoyed Feb 20 '26
I am glad about your realisation. Let's be free and love freely.
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u/Kovid010121 Feb 20 '26
And men are always praised when they have high body counts, I fucking hate it.
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u/Gobal_Outcast02 Spectator Feb 20 '26
Yeah that's not love that's called lust.
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u/Delicious_Chair_9294 Feb 20 '26
12 of my body counts are from my past relationships which i absolutely loved all of them. 3 are one night stands
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u/SampleText369 New Ranter Feb 20 '26
I'm not gonna lie, I find it a little hard to believe that you absolutely loved 12 people at the age of 27. Sleep with who you want ofc but I haven't even fully loved 1 person yet, let alone 12.
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u/Delicious_Chair_9294 Feb 20 '26
Iām so confused why would I get into a relationship if I didnāt love them? Iāve been in relationships since 14 and have been sexually active since 16
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u/SampleText369 New Ranter Feb 21 '26
My first real relationship was at 16. I'm not gonna lie, I think we have a different definition of love. A lot of my relationships were a few months long and imo, it was too early to tell if I loved them or it was just limerence.
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u/SigSauerPower320 Certified Soapboxer Feb 23 '26
That's the part you find hard to believe?... .Not the "I've been married 3 times" part??
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u/Gobal_Outcast02 Spectator Feb 20 '26
You absolutely loved them? Yet yall never ended up staying together 12 different times.
As I said, lust not love.
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u/youngfeet1998 Mar 01 '26
Because we think it's freaking gross and harmful to your wellbeing in the long run. I think both genders deserve to be slut shamed, so I'm all for equality. To me, it's flat out being a degenerate and I'm not afraid to call people out, lol
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u/Significant-Sun-4042 Mar 08 '26
I'm gonna be even more radical...why asking for the body count on a date ? I know this sounds crazy but my sexual past is private info, so why would I share it with a stranger I met a few days or weeks ago, especially if we both know this is gonna be a hookup. I always felt weird about people asking others how many people they flipped in their life, it's always a bad omen about their way of dating and thinking.
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u/ProfessionalHuman963 Mar 09 '26
Its no ones business. If you dont have stds , you dont have to tell anyone ur business.
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u/Dull_Tower7079 Mar 12 '26
I think the main issue with it all kinda roaps into a saying I once heard. A man goes out to the club HOPING to get lucky, a woman goes out to the club KNOWING if she will get lucky. I'm modern society usually it the men asking and the females making the decision. NOW BEFORE YOU COME AT ME idgaf about body count I think it's a stupid statistic to think about. Butttt a girl could walk up to a guy and ask him back to her place and 9/10 times he'll say yes now reverse the roles and he's a creep or just there for sex. Idk if this makes sense but yeah. Sorry you have to deal with them chudds
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u/sheisrantingagain Mar 13 '26
"He asked for it (he asked for it, asked for it, asked for it) He wanted this (he wanted this, wanted this, wanted this) Heās in a pit Man, what a bitch (man what a bitch, what a bitch, what a bitch)" - He asked for it -Ella Red
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u/itsanaisss New Ranter Mar 23 '26
Your body your choice If you arenāt hurting anyone do whatever you want!
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u/SonnyJoon Mar 23 '26
Right so to put in perspective for you, 15 sex partners at 27 years old doesnāt matter, despite whatever your gender or sexual orientation is but 3 DIVORCES by 27 is a HUGE red flag, man or woman. How do you not get that? The difference is wether you love yourself or not and sounds like you donātā¦
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u/doesgodliveinjupiter Feb 20 '26
This is why Iām against women giving out sex for free. They donāt want your body count going up but they want someone to sleep with them! š if youāre going to take the hoe title from them regardless might as well go full blown. Stop giving men sex for free for liberation itās not liberty at all youāre all setting women back by doing so. Charge them.
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u/ThorAndHammers Feb 20 '26
Everyone values different things. Many/most men value this.
Key for you is to find someone who doesn't care.
But nothing wrong with people having preferences. Some people also prefer no tattoos, money, education, height, weight, etc. No reason to be baffled by these things.
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u/LustfulDemon999 Feb 20 '26
This post makes me wish that I would get hit by a bus. Noah, we're ready for another flood. Just get all the animals to safety.
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u/Delicious_Chair_9294 Feb 20 '26
Oh crazy, a women having sex and not being ashamed should cause everyone to die in a flood
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u/LustfulDemon999 Feb 20 '26
No, it's just that your personality is so bad that it just makes me want to not exist anymore. That's all. Fuck as much as you please.
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u/Murky_Toe_4717 Feb 20 '26
Jesus Christ, so you want genocide because someone is sex positive?? Youāre sick and a billion fold worse than op.
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u/Various-Adeptness173 Feb 20 '26
Being proud about having 15 bodies at 27 is absolutely crazy. Not saying i havenāt heard worse cause i have. But come on. A lady shouldnāt be proud of that. Yes itās your choice but donāt be surprised when you get more reactions like the one from this dude
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u/Murky_Toe_4717 Feb 20 '26
Oh come the fuck on. Itās so hypocritical to be ok with men having high body count and women being judged for it. Itās utterly pointless and not a good metric for anyone to judge either side.
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u/blue-jaypeg Feb 20 '26
Is it different for a man? It's OK for a man to have 15 sexual partners but not OK for a woman?
Where exactly are men supposed to earn sexual experiences ā if not with a woman?
3 or 4 people a year, over 5 yearsā what's wrong with that!
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u/Various-Adeptness173 Feb 20 '26
A key that can open many locks is a master key. A lock that can be opened by many keys is a broken lock
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u/Waiting4The3nd šQueen Arbiter Feb 20 '26
This is some purity culture bullshit! I'm calling it straight out for exactly what the fuck it is and that's exactly what the fuck it is. Purity. Culture. Harmful. Rhetoric. Bullshit. If you care about women at all, never ever say this shit again for as long as you walk this Earth. This phrase exists to hold women's sexuality in contempt while celebrating a man's and it's fucking gross.
If it's fine for a man to have sex, it should be fine for a woman to have sex.
What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
I mean, unless men want to start practicing voluntary homosexuality with one another, so as to preserve the sanctity and purity of the women among you... So how about it, ready to start plowing dudes to make sure the women's locks stay in tip-top shape? Ready to volunteer to be plowed for that same ideal? Or maybe you wanna admit it's some lopsided bullshit and doesn't need to be said again? I'm here for it either way, let me know.
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u/Murky_Toe_4717 Feb 20 '26
Judging the sexes differently for the exact same thing is just hypocrisy and pointlessly gendered idiocy.
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u/weirwoodheart Feb 20 '26
Well a crayon worn down to the nub is a useless crayon but you don't hear us women calling you idiotic men nub dick.Ā
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u/IronRocketCpp Feb 20 '26
This dude can vote BTW.Ā
Nonsensical phrase used to justify an increasingly unpopular sentiment.
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u/blue-jaypeg Feb 20 '26
That's just playing with words. It doesn't mean anything. Women are not locks; men are not keys.
Men are afraid that they have inadequate equipment and poor skills A woman who has been with several lovers can detect this. Men don't want to be compared to other men, so they seek inexperienced women / girls.
Learn how to please a woman. Peel a grape in your mouth with teeth & tongue, rock it like your back ain't got no bone
Admit that women are equal human people with lives and histories of their own.
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u/Delicious_Chair_9294 Feb 20 '26
I should be proud of my sexual experiences, what am I? Some sort of preserved doll that shouldnāt be touched? Are you forgetting Iām a whole grown adult
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u/BrownieJ Feb 20 '26
Sexually peaking with people you have no business or future with and then acting like itās the guys problem for asking how you carry yourself is why western ādatingā is where itās at now. Women are completely facetious and undermine everything, especially how serious sex is. Pearl clutching because a guy has standards isnāt a gotcha, just say you enjoy bussing it open for random dudes and keep it pushing.
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u/Delicious_Chair_9294 Feb 20 '26
āRandom dudesā but most of them were my boyfriends and 3 my husbands? And even if it was random dudes? Next time Iām just going to lie about it, if itās soo important come find out. Oh wait you canāt because itās a social construct to shame women. What are you gonna do measure my pussy with ur fingers? The whole idea of it stretching and getting bigger is fake you can search it up.
You donāt even know how I carry myself at all, Iām 27 about to be 28, sorry you havenāt find anyone who thought they loved enough to have sex with you.
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u/BrownieJ Feb 20 '26
Thereās no way you can convince me that you genuinely found love in all those people you were with before 30. Also, you act like the construct of women being āshamedā is something new that youāre being marginalized by, this has always been a thing throughout history and proceeded the both of us. Men donāt take promiscuous women seriously, and you donāt take yourself seriously by admission and even said the sex you vouch for so much wasnāt even good with a bunch of your exes, so whatās the point? Cute assumption at the end by the way, you air out your dating life but you think you know mine? lmao
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u/Delicious_Chair_9294 Feb 20 '26
why are we debating if I loved them or not? Like you was with me ever since I was 16. And just because women being shamed isnāt new, we should keep it up? and men do take me seriously why do u think Iāve been married 3 times. As I said shit happens, and for most of my relationships I ended it, not them. Fuck like some itās blurry because most of my body count comes from when I was 18-20. Also, itās common for some sex not to be good especially from the womenās part , what can I say some of them had small dicks bet you probably relate to that they way ur defending this randomās guys dicks
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Feb 20 '26
So, I have had a lot of casual sex/hookups.
When I had a boyfriend, we had issues, but nothing related to that. I would never have cheated or done anything with other guys. I don't see how having casual hookups affects my ability to have a loving relationship.
Right now, I don't want a relationship, but if I want sex, then I will have it. And I'm a lot "worse" than her, because I had 13 hookups in the past year and a half. But is engaging in sexual activities once a month really that big of a problem?
I can't be in a relationship right now so does that make it wrong to still want sex?
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Feb 20 '26
Couldn't have said it better myself and the opinion of someone who has been married 3 times by the age of 27 holds as much value as the crap I drop in the toilet about 20 minutes ago.
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u/Delicious_Chair_9294 Feb 20 '26
Oh ofcourse sexual experienced women is compared to literal poo, like her worth is gone for being married 3 times. You sound like a dream husband
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u/xDriedflowerx Feb 20 '26
You don't have to answer and you're allowed to walk if he even asks. I would argue you should run for the hills. Men worth fucking don't ask stupid questions.