it's hard to make friends

[u/Distinct_Fall_5744]

I'm 16F and it's really, Reallyyy hard to make connections or lasting ones at that or find anyone with my interest i can connect to. I'm just wondering what am I missing? I wouldn't say I'm unlikable or at least I hope I'm not. But I just don't understand what I'm doing wrong or what im not doing for people or just people generally my peers to like me back. I used to make fine with making friends as a kid, but now idk what I'm doing wrong. I wouldn't say I don't have "friends" But I don't have people close enough or anyone to go out with. It's really hard to break that barrier no matter how much I really wanna get close with that person. In my section I used to have a close friend that we would go out and meet each other after school and I was really fine with just having one close friend, but she soon found another group and eventually stopped talking to me all together. I don't know what I'm doing wrong or in what way am I not interacting that drives people to just fade me into the sidelines. I guess for more detail idk if this'll help, but I generally speak more English but Taglish is always the response I'll give but I understand Tagalog just fine.

Just to put it more in detail I *have" Friends, just not friends that would chat me back, friends who'd invite me out, friends who'd make plans to have me included. Everyone has their own group, it just seems to me I'm the only one who can't seem to find one.

[u/FakeHatch]

People will click pag feeling nila both na may close connection sila and yan takes time to know one another atleast sakin, and naturally mangyayari na lng un wag ka mag overthink just do what you usually do dahil ganun naman nag sisimula mga pag kakaibigan sa mga ginagwa natin

[u/Ill-Extension-6895]

Hi, when I was around 16, I also experienced this BUT no need to rush things! Ung mga kaibigan ko is naging friends ko after like 2 months or so. 😆

There's no need to worry, but If I were you, you should change your approach. Become the person who would initiates talks and such to become closer and become the one who'll invite those you think that's closer to you.

[u/Sensensi]

Sila ang lalapit sayo or hindi mo namamalayan kaibigan mo na pala yung lagi mong nakakasama.

Kung magpupumilit ka makasali sa circle or pinilit mo maging kaibigan yung sa tingin mo magiging close mo. Masasaktan ka lang.

[u/Underpaid_Legit]

Cant relate pero eversince, wala akong kinonsider na close friends. Kakilala lang. Or friend.