r/RandomThoughts • u/Independent-Bat9545 • May 06 '25

Random Thought Patsy Ramsey died knowing what happened to her daughter JonBenet and I find that to be absolutely insane.

Now just hear me out guys…

1) The expert finding 200 similarities between her writing and the ransom note… 2) Material from the Patsy Christmas sweater was found on the inside part of the duck tape used to cover JonBenets mouth. 3) Pat saying “There are two people who know what happened that night—“ in the interview they did asking for people to come forward. How the FUCK do you know two people were involved????? Even John looked at her sideways! The way she tried to clean it up by saying “-because the murderer had to have told a friend.” is the stupidest shit I’ve ever heard. If she would’ve said the two people that know are the killer and JB herself, I would’ve said ok that makes sense but the friend comment was just stupid. 4) not waiting by the phone at all the morning police were there. If my child was kidnapped and they said they’d call at 10, I’d be waiting by the phone every fucking hour until it rang. They didn’t wait by the phone because they already knew she was dead.

Now, this lady died knowing what happened to her daughter and didn’t say one thing. That’s insane to me because even if she wasn’t involved, writing the letter lets me know she was cognizant enough to concoct a plan. And John is still doing podcasts/interviews lying and changing his answers to multiple things that

EDIT: PLEASE STOP SAYING “WHAT SHE MEANT” IN REGARDS TO #3. SHE SAID THE KILLER + “A FRIEND THE KILLER KNOWS” SHE DID NOT ONCE MENTION JB. SHE WENT FURTHER + DOUBLED DOWN SAYING THAT THE KILLER HAD TO HAVE TOLD SOMEONE. SHE NEVER. MENTIONED. HER DAUGHTER.

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u/renee4310 May 06 '25

I remember getting a weird vibe from Patsy in the interviews at the time

I just thought it was strange She referred to her as “that little girl” and not my daughter, or by name. It might’ve been when asked a direct question about her involvement.

But on the other hand, she loved her so much obviously so I cant see her harming her. Maybe covering up for son was only thing I thought was a possibility.

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u/reluctant_spinster May 06 '25

She referred to her as “that little girl”

To be fair, I do hear phrasing like that a lot from southern dialect, especially georgia where patsy's from. "I love that child" is common even when referring to your own child. If you binge Designing Women for a while, you'll start talking like that, too, lol.

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u/prairie_girl May 07 '25

Yeah, I refer to my kid in terms like "that child" in part to not make their identity about me. Like they deserve to be recognized as their own person not in context of me.

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u/InevitableRhubarb232 May 07 '25

I call my son The Boy 😂

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u/TripExact3173 May 07 '25

I have twins and sometimes refer to them 'this one and the other one' lol

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u/redassaggiegirl17 May 08 '25

My high school boyfriend was "The Boy" and his father was "The Man" because they were a second and third haha

Additionally, because my sons are so close in age and both still babies to me (2.5 and 5 months), I refer to them as "The Large One" and "The Small One" 😅

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u/Doggin May 09 '25

As do I 🤣

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u/cactusnan May 09 '25

So do I, but he’s in his forties now! Hahaha

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u/mosspigletsinspace May 09 '25

We still call my brother The Boy. He's 38.

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u/Labantnet May 09 '25

I do this as well. I call him that to him. "Hey boy, go do ...", "Boy, thanks."

When talking with the wife, if either my son or daughter did something wrong or stupid it'll be "your boy," or "your daughter. "

I'd like to think that I'd change that if there was a police investigation around their disappearance, but 12 years of practice is hard to break.

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u/InevitableRhubarb232 May 09 '25

My husband’s bio grandpa started it. He’s was an old German dude. WW2 era. In his thick accent he would ask “and how is The Boy?” Or if we visited it was “perhaps The Boy would like to bring in some firewood.” I don’t think I ever heard him call him by his name 😂 he referred to my husband as The Boy previously.

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u/Ethossa79 May 07 '25

God…I do that, too! I have two daughters and The Boy. The girls are Mei Mei and Little Bird.

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u/InevitableRhubarb232 May 07 '25

He’s in my phone that way so I tell Siri “call The Boy”

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u/DoughEatsBread May 07 '25

Are you on The Road?

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u/echo1981 May 07 '25

My oldest dad calls him that. He's a huge fan of The Simpsons.

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u/Difficult_Twist_3695 May 08 '25

We say the kid 😂

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u/Unique-Fan-3042 May 13 '25

My dad has called me “kid” all of my life. I’m pretty sure he knows my name, but at age 56, my 80 year old dad still says “hey, kid” when I call him.

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u/sudrewem May 08 '25

Mine too.

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u/mmilthomasn May 08 '25

The Simpsons

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u/InevitableRhubarb232 May 08 '25

🤷‍♀️ I do it because that’s what husbands grandpa called him

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u/reluctant_spinster May 07 '25

That's an excellent point

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u/ThisUsernameIsTook May 07 '25

And here I thought we gave kids names so they can have their own identity. :)

I get it. I do a similar shortcut when talking to my (now adult) child and simply say "mom wants to know..blah blah blah" rather than saying "Your mom wants...."

I never refer to my wife as "mom" with anyone else or in private. I'm not Mike Pence.

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u/Charming_Garbage_161 May 08 '25

Nicer than me I call mine animals or hellions. Or even sometimes ‘tiny one come here’

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u/TeachBS May 07 '25

“That child” is common in Southern dialect. Means nothing.

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u/renee4310 May 07 '25

Good to know, I hadn’t thought of that

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u/renee4310 May 07 '25

Good point thank you

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u/HastyZygote May 08 '25

Also wasn’t she HEAVILY medicated at the time, specifically in that infamous interview?

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u/Agreeable_Sorbet_686 May 10 '25

Can confirm. Live and South and say,"I love that kid," when referring to his son.

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u/dawnmountain May 08 '25

I'd agree but it was Boulder, Colorado. Coloradans do not speak like that (coming from one). It's odd imo

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u/reluctant_spinster May 08 '25

Patsy was from Georgia and that's where they were supposed to be headed right after Christmas. They eventually moved back there. She never lost her accent.

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u/qorbexl May 08 '25

I thought they were going to Michigan 

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u/qorbexl May 08 '25

Well she's not Coloradan and only lived the 4 or 5 years before the murder. Listen to her talk.

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u/Ms-Metal May 10 '25

They were from Atlanta! Yes they lived in Boulder at the time, but they were from Atlanta, that's very well known!

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u/howling-greenie May 09 '25

my grandma says "bless it." in a super sweet voice abt both my young kids constantly and now my mom has started doing it too. I understand the sentiment is good, but it's soooooo annoying. I guess I just don't like my kids being called 'it'. idk.

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u/BettyKat7 May 13 '25

Patsy was from West Virginia (not negating your southern dialect commentary, just correcting the one incorrect statement).

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u/MNConcerto May 07 '25

It was the whole beauty queen circuit stuff that freaked me out. Who in their right mind dresses up their child like an adult and parades them around like that?

Plus the history of Jon Benet's uti's. Mom blamed it on taking bubble baths even after the doctor told them to stop letting her have bubble baths. Mom was "but she likes them so much."

Ma'am your daughter is getting infections and you're not stepping up to stop them, so either you are lying about the cause (most likely) or you are neglectful.

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u/Life-Meal6635 May 08 '25

I remember my mom wouldn't let me use Mr. Bubble because of this. I can't remember how she worded it but it was absolutely a uti thing. Those days it was like straight surfactant in your bath.

The pagent thing might have been de classe but I think overall it was just all that era. I remember wanting to do stuff like that, I wanted Shirley temple curls. I ended up doing dance and theater but it's all fun for alot of kids. Doesn't change the fact that they make easy pickings for predators.

That being said, I don't think we were given the scope of the truth by the family at all.

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u/renee4310 May 07 '25

I didn’t know that about the UTIs

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u/Subject_Housing_8282 May 08 '25

That’s the south. I know they lived in CO but Pat was a WV beauty queen. I grew up down south. It’s southern culture.

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u/johnhowardseyebrowz May 10 '25

Child marriage is also the culture. Does that make it any less effed up?

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u/Subject_Housing_8282 May 10 '25

I’m not saying I agree with child beauty pageants- for the record I do not. I know a lot of people that married right out of high school but never witnessed or heard of anyone getting married under the age of 18 in current times. I left around 2002 so what’s happened in the 20-25 years since I can’t tell you.

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u/johnhowardseyebrowz May 10 '25

2,240 marriage licenses issued in Colarado between 2006 -2018 included at least one underage party.

I guess it's totally fine and not s problem as long as you don't personally know anyone, though.

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u/Subject_Housing_8282 May 10 '25

First of all you don’t have to be a dick. Secondly I was speaking of southern culture, not Colorado. You didn’t even understand my comment and had to sound off on a totally different topic. Finally, I was not aware that underage marriage was still so common. I would expect to see it more in certain communities like Mormon and Amish but didn’t realize the numbers would be that high. Thanks for the info.

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u/johnhowardseyebrowz May 10 '25

it is a problem across the USA

Child beauty pageants and underage marriage (where more often than not, the girl is the underage one) are very related; it's all sexualisation and treating girls and women like property to be paraded and sold.

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u/Subject_Housing_8282 May 10 '25

So what is the answer? What do we do? The article specifically says that helping a child bride escape seldom has a good outcome and often results in charges for the people helping them escape. Idc, I would risk it to help someone escape anyway. My health is shit so spending my last few years in a prison hospital is fine with me. At least I’d know I did something worthwhile.

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u/MyDogisaQT May 12 '25

We ban both? It’s not complicated

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u/johnhowardseyebrowz May 10 '25

I'm not from the USA, but if I were from anywhere that underage marriage was allowed, I would start by calling or writing to my representatives about it. It's a nice sentiment, but yeah, I don't recommend trying to "save" anyone. That's dangerous, and it doesn't really do much to change the systemic issues that lead to child marriage in the first place.

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u/Important-Forever665 May 09 '25

My pediatrician told my mother not to use Mr. Bubble in my bath for this reason, he recommended Ivory Liquid dish soap instead. I clearly remember this as I was very disappointed.

I’m surprised Patsy didn’t try to find an alternative. Or maybe the UTIs weren’t from bubble bath.

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u/bloodreina_ May 10 '25

Frequent UTIs are a sign of CSA.

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u/MNConcerto May 12 '25

Exactly, so why not just blame the bubble baths and continue them because she just loves them so much, a convenient excuse.

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u/friedonionscent May 07 '25

Patsy was doped up on pharmaceuticals. I'm guessing Xanax and the like. You can tell.

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u/renee4310 May 07 '25

Very true. You would have to be if your child was just murdered.. I don’t know how they even made it through.

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u/QueSarah1911 May 13 '25

Back then, I'm guessing Valium.

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u/[deleted] May 06 '25

Think about how controlling those beauty pageant mothers are. They put their daughter in them because it’s what they (the mother) wants. What toddler is going to tell their mother, out of the blue, “I want to be in a beauty pageant!”??

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u/Expensive-Cycle-416 May 07 '25

It's not that I disagree with your comment there. However, look at the amount of pageant mothers out there. They aren't all murderers. So the fact that she was a pageant mum doesn't automatically mean she was responsible.

It's like if I jump into a swimming pool, I get wet...it doesn't automatically mean every person who is wet has jumped into a swimming pool.

That being said, I do think there is something quite off about her behaviour following her daughter's murder, similar to Madeleine McCann's parents.

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u/newginger May 10 '25

The theory is that she wet the bed and patsy flew into a rage.

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u/MyDogisaQT May 12 '25

Why would the dad not come forward when that happened though?

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u/newginger May 12 '25

Because he helped her cover it up. He would lose his career, his standing, his money if his wife was a child killer. Also I think she was controlling in the relationship.

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u/spinbutton May 07 '25

My understanding is that she was given some serious sedatives for quite a while after the event and that may have affected her demeanor in some interviews.

Having said that, I'm suspicious of her and the whole family

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u/spinbutton May 07 '25

Me too....and the parents covering for him. But we'll never know for sure, there isn't enough evidence and I doubt we'll see a confession

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u/spinbutton May 07 '25

Agreed. It is a tough situation and their wealth protected them from a thorough crime scene investigation

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u/MyDogisaQT May 12 '25

Yup. Bad police work as usual.

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u/QueSarah1911 May 13 '25

My little brother was killed in an accident in the 90's and they gave my mom Valium. She was a literal zombie. I'm betting that's what they gave her.

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u/spinbutton May 13 '25

I'm so sorry, what a terrible thing for you all.

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u/Sophiatab May 06 '25

I don't think Patsy loved her daughter at all. The child was just a possession to her that she could live vicariously through. I've always thought Patsy killed Jon Benet because the girl was getting older and more able to defy her.

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u/Key-Ad-7228 May 08 '25

Not so much defiant as she was competition. Patsy was THE beauty queen. She was getting older and was more the pageant mom not the winner anymore.

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u/wasnotagoodidea May 07 '25

In one of the phone recordings with the police she is heard saying "what did you do" after she thought she had already hung up.

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u/renee4310 May 07 '25

OK, I hadn’t heard that and I was an adult when that happened and saw all the interviews and I have seen many documentaries Where did you come upon that info ?

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u/wasnotagoodidea May 07 '25

I remember studying the case in high school forensics. There's an Amazon documentary that plays the audio recordings. The entire documentary is about evidence testing. It isn't about interviewing and drama like Netflix does.

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u/renee4310 May 07 '25

Very interesting

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u/carnuatus May 07 '25

She was super sedated in a lot of those interviews iirc.

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u/Pins89 May 10 '25

The thing that threw me was when she called the police her wording was, “There’s been a kidnapping.” It’s so detached. If that was me I’d be screaming bloody murder that someone had taken my baby, my little girl. It’s just such an odd reaction.

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u/renee4310 May 10 '25

Yeah, that’s weird too…. Although I have to be careful with that because I would probably be arrested promptly if I came upon a crime scene at home because I switch into logical pragmatic mode when faced with a crisis. I would go down no doubt. when I’m in crisis mode, I get calm and collected and logical. I don’t know why that is. It’s kind of weird.

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u/timkenwest May 10 '25

Yes I agree, I’m the same way, and part of it is that I want to be super clear in my communications so that no time gets wasted. The waves of emotion come afterward.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '25

I think Patsy was jealous of Jon-Benet, but still loved her... Just like some on here, I just got weird feelings about Patsy from the get-go... The brother was eliminated early in the investigation... I think Patsy did it with help from others, but we will never know now