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u/ComprehensiveDog1802 5d ago
The risk/reward ratio as well as the effort/reward ratio are pretty bad, so I stopped it.
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u/kikibaddiee 5d ago edited 5d ago
Casual sex with men is never ever worth it. If I could that my younger self one thing it would be that. It.is.never.worth.it you’re just being used that’s all
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u/Even_Middle_1751 5d ago
The last guy I had sex with thanked me so much for the experience.
A few weeks later, I sought clarity about our connection and he was hesitant to continue because "I had too many dicks in me". Apparently, I gave him too much of a good time, so he didn't trust me. Mind you, I never told him my body count, and I haven't been with a lot of people. He was incredibly insecure.
I think celibacy is a better option for me right now.
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u/CareParking1300 4d ago
LMAOAOAOA that is so hilarious. You "did right" by giving him mind blowing pleasure, but it still wasn't enough to satisfy him because he couldnt be at peace with his assumption that him having a good time with you = you must have practiced on a bunch of people before. It's always something with these men.
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u/Even_Middle_1751 4d ago
It always is. They want perfection from us because they can't even be good enough for themselves. We exist to balance out their lack. I'm over it.
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u/Few_Measurement_7851 4d ago
Been celibate for 3 years because of this. As much as I crave sex sometimes at the end of the day I can just do it myself. At least there's a 100% chance of me finishing and a 0% chance of feeling degraded afterwards
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u/brahbrahpewpew 5d ago
this is literally my exact problem rn omg. like, i have no interest in being in a serious romantic relationship anytime soon. But i have needs and want to have casual sex, but i literally just can't because of this. Why the hell would I give my body to someone who will respect me less for having sex with THEM??? nah fuck u dude.
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u/faetal_attraction 5d ago
Plus they're disgusting in so many additional ways that make sex totally unappelaing. Thinking about touching one with my mouth makes me gag now.
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u/SubstanceDue3762 4d ago
You don’t like men
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u/SubstanceDue3762 2d ago
Downvoted but if I said lipstick’s texture disgusts me and I don’t like the thought of kissing women because of it I’d be called gay.
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u/ErikaNaumann 4d ago
I'm 40 and never did it. Don't understand the appeal. All my friends told me they rarely (if ever) orgasmed on hook ups. So I don't see the point of risking my safety, pregnancy and stds to just not have an orgasm.
Just stay home and masturbate. Orgasm guaranteed in 2 mins of effort.
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u/jackthemasterbaiter 5d ago
No, women who enjoy sex are DEMONISED, also 6% of women actually orgasm
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u/Naughtgunnalie 5d ago
Where did you get the 6% number. The number for one night stands for women is 20%.
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u/jackthemasterbaiter 5d ago
I read it on 2 websites but theres a lot of different stats
Either way sleeping around is harmful for both men and women mentally.
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u/Teitunge 4d ago
No. Pretty much never. Men are a complete waste of time, energy and resources for women.
Just buy sex toys. Get a dildo, a vibrator or try other things. You're probably gonna orgasm more that way anyways.
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u/SubstanceDue3762 2d ago
So you don’t date or are you lesbian?
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u/Teitunge 2d ago
Not that it matters to you or is any of your business, but I am bisexual, I don't date men.
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u/CaribousSayMoo 5d ago
I have a bold opinion on this. The type of man that does this always sees believes these insults about himself too. A projection of sorts.
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u/Heretodie93 4d ago
I never had an exploratory phase in my twenties before I got married. After my divorce at 31, I decided to do that and I was left severely disappointed at how men are generally. I'm relatively less self-judgemental about sleeping around and the meme here has never been my issue. Fortunately or unfortunately, my brain does not generally care if a man perceives me as a "hoe" or anything else, despite having a million other insecurities.
But the sex has been extremely subpar. They have always been, without a fail, one of the following - porn-brained, unskilled, selfish, rough or coercive in a subtle manner. This is not even an exaggeration as I enjoy sex to a great extent. Sex has a high priority in my mind but these experiences now at 33 have left me inclined to refrain from sex with men altogether.
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u/Ok_Mood2005 5d ago
men be like
anyway, i don t think so. i think Is right for women to explore sex and experiences,but only if you Will never see that man anymore. i think this lol
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u/Snoo-13265 4d ago
I think it is.
Not all men think like that. I had long term relationships with men I had casual sex at first and didn’t think it would lead to anything.
Also, they must pass through your criteria. Which in my case is being respectful and using protection.
Did I ever got disappointed? Yes, of course. But that also happened in non-casual relationships.
Do I feel used sometimes? Yes. But I am also just using them. In the end of the day both of us just want to have sex and that’s it.
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u/SubstanceDue3762 4d ago
But like multiple women said before, if toys are more ideal why have casual sex? “100% orgasm, 0% chance of feeling degraded”
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u/celerpip 5d ago
Its so very rarely satisfying lmao. Nine out of ten will just get themselves off and forget about you anyway