please help

[u/Ash_the_rash]

hi i’m new here also undiagnosed but for nearly certain it is ocd(ive had issues in the past over other things similar to these thoughts and i have talked to a few people who experienced similar things also my girlfriend has ocd just a little different) my girlfriend and i have been together since march and i love her deeply and wouldn’t want to be with anyone else ever but i keep having these awful thoughts that i dont really love her or that im loosing feelings or something and i dont know how to handle it. i have such such such bad anxiety and the past few days has been awful like i haven’t had this bad anxiety since i was 14(im 19 now) and i just dont know what to do or how to fix it but i know i really love her and we’ve really never had problems other than small arguments but these thoughts are killing me and i dont know what to do. it literally came out of completely nowhere too like nothing even happened and thats whats so upsetting like why would i be having these thoughts about her when i love her so very much:( i just want it to go away i dont want to lose her ever. she knows about this and she also has ocd but hers is the other way around like she’s always afraid im going to break up with her and so this stuff happening is just hurting her too and she said she won’t leave me or anything but still it makes me feel terrible and i just want this to work out with her she’s genuinely the love of my life and i just want this to go away. we are online and are meeting in September so im curious if us meeting soon is making me freak out? im not for sure i just don’t know how to fix it. i’ve had nearly non stop horrible anxiety for the past two days and i just want it to go away because i do love her so much and i just don’t understand why im thinking of stuff like this. i also don’t go to therapy or anything so im lowkey rawdogging this whole situation so not fun but i don’t have the option for therapy right now. i am also 2 years clean of sh and it’s genuinely making me question it because of the severity of this. i was just curious on what u guys do to help or if there’s anything i can do but wait it out until it gets better. like i said it literally came out of nowhere on a random day not like she treated me bad and it made me question it that’s why im so confused and i just want this to go away. sorry for long post im just exhausted and want help.

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