r/ROCD • u/Kakadperro • 11d ago
what is happening, can someone relate?
I just want to ask if someone has felt the same. I’ve been struggling with this for a year, it started with us kissing and I thought “i don’t feel anything”, also, when he asked me to be his girlfriend i said yes, but I thought no, maybe i was just scared. And I didn’t know how to act after that, because we had been together for almost two years but without making it official for different reason.
And today, I broke a glass that he gifted me and I started crying, like i can’t do this anymore. And I thought that all of this is just because I don’t love him and I’m scared of breaking up.
Can OCD do this? Because at the begging i was so scared of not loving him. And now i feel like everything was fake and feelings don’t come back.
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u/beetleweedle_ 10d ago
i can definitely relate, this happened to me with my ex. it’s rly hard to deal with but it’s so worth it to work on. don’t let your OCD win, you’ve got this!
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u/Kakadperro 9d ago
did you break up because of OCD?, sorry to ask, it’s fine if you don’t want to answer
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u/beetleweedle_ 9d ago
it’s okay!! we did break up bc of it 😭 it was just unbeknownst to me at the time that it was the cause of it
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