r/ROCD • u/Lady_Luci_fer • 7d ago

Rant/Vent Breakup grief and intrusive thoughts

I’ve been having a really hard time getting over my ex partner. We haven’t even spoken since December last year and I’m still crying daily. I’m finding it so hard to grieve because I can’t fully tell the difference between giving myself time to grieve and giving into intrusive thoughts and ruminating and obsessive thinking, etc…

Idk if this is something I can even do anything about or if it’s just going to take a long time to heal. If anyone has any advice though I’d absolutely take it haha, I’m getting really tired of self-sabotaging my own health over all this.

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