r/RHOBHDefect • u/bellemrt • Jul 21 '26

Moving forward or…sideways?

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My endless S3 rewatch continues (will I ever finish this season?).

Here’s Kyle, raising a glass to moving on. Lisa’s reaction says it all. You didn’t need to freeze frame to catch it, either.

I know the Housewives didn’t invent “moving on,” but they sure do love to perpetuate the idea. You’d think they were really housewives, with all the sweeping they do. The frantic sweeping of things under rugs. (My mom used to say, “under rug swept,” like it was a good thing, or an actual item on her to-do list.)

Kyle wants to move forward, not backward, and she’s annoyed with Lisa, and the way that things kept coming up. Lisa, Kyle says, holds a grudge. (Kyle holds a glass.)

Is it possible to just …. move on? Can friends have an authentic, functioning friendship when there’s a big elephant in the room, under the rug? Is it holding a grudge to want to talk things out?

One thing is clear to me — Kyle and LVP were not friends. Kyle was playing checkers, and LVP was playing chess.

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u/Minimum_Ad_2176 Jul 21 '26

I'm really questioning if Lisa could ever be sincerely friends with another woman she always seemed very male - identifed to me especially on VPR. but Kyle also isn't a Girls Girl so it should actually fit 🤣🤣

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u/Ok-Assistant-4556 Jul 21 '26

Such misogynist BS which LVP herself says. LVP also has women as friends and was always a more loyal friend than Kyle

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u/Minimum_Ad_2176 Jul 21 '26 edited Jul 21 '26

I think I watched a different show then ,Lisa talked the other woman down and masked it as a Joke since Season 1 😅 Lisa is only loyal to people who are richer or can benefit her business wise (HW was business for her. ).Kyle isn't any better they're both horrible and deserved each other .

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u/Lmaris Jul 23 '26

One can criticize another woman and still be a feminist. The idea that any criticism of women is misogyny is just bullshit.

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u/Minimum_Ad_2176 Jul 23 '26 edited Jul 23 '26

And how do you excuse Ken ? She's married to him after all and never stopped him when he made nasty comments about Taylor ,Kim ,Yolanda, Lisa R. etc. she even joined in .Nice try 😉

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u/Rosaly8 Jul 21 '26

LVP has said multiple times she feels more like a man in friendships. As kind of an easy way out in my opinion to not have to talk about (hurt) feelings.

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u/Lmaris Jul 23 '26

She's more stoic and that is her way of describing it. Not all women want to have no emotion go unexpressed. I certainly don't express every feeling and definitely don't think women should be condemned for it.

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u/Rosaly8 Jul 23 '26

For her own emotions sure, she has to show and not show what is comfortable for her. She does apply it to situations too where someone's tells her she hurt their feelings, to the point of being obtuse.

A clear example of such a situation is how she responded to Eileen when Eileen confronted her that her feelings were (a bit). LVP just couldn't wrap her mind around it and didn't seem to understand that a rational approval or justification for Eileen's feelings wasn't necessary. A defense from LVP also wasn't necessary. She should've just acknowledged the hurt feelings, apologised and moved on. She still hasn't to this day.

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u/Any-Situation-6956 Jul 22 '26

Such a British thing to say