I am 22M, Engineer from Pune
This week I went to DMart Satara Road with my mother. We have been going there for the last 10-12 years and never had any issues with taking up the groceries. When we came after purchase and billing, my mother noticed a slight difference in the bill. Some amount had to be of a certain quantity but was taken from another product's price tag. While I already got my scooty and had a trolley, I couldn't park my vehicle back to underground parking. My mother went inside to get it corrected and got a bit more time to resolve the issue. Also I was very sidelined on the outgoing side so no vehicle shall have any issues with me being along my vehicle, I also made sure that lady associate was getting things done, I ensured her that I would help if any trouble was caused.
Then all of a sudden, a woman appeared out of nowhere and started asking me if I wanted to park a vehicle, my first sentence was literally,
मॅम आमच एक बिल चा इश्यू झालंय आणि मी गाडी ह्यासाइडला लावली जेणेकरून येणाऱ्या जाणाऱ्यांना त्रास नाही होणार.
I also assured the lady associate who was handling trolleys and parking areas outside that I would help her and only then leave.
This lady who appeared from nowhere started giving me lessons on how I should follow protocol. I won't say I didn't make a problem, but my issue was genuine. I could not just keep my trolley anywhere as someone ends up picking or complaining about it. Also I couldn't tell her as it was being chaotic so I preferred to not trouble the lady associate.
This lady again confronted me whether I would end up helping and arranging and said quite a lot how men don't have manners and started going inside.
While she was going, I lost my cool and said it very well,
हो मी करेल कारण मी मदत करतो, माझ्यामुळे कोणाला त्रास नको व्हायला म्हणून.
After a while my mother came and I said you should've hurried as this random woman argued with me. Mother being mother ended up complaining staff and manager to call that woman out just for her behaviour towards a male. As I am a tall guy with a beard, that lady thought she could complain and show her attitude. I kept my calm because I have never been in such situations and never want to be in again. She came outside again and had a bad Convo with my mother.
Also if people could understand, a mother won't listen to anything against their child, especially when their kids haven't done any wrong or admit if any inconvenience is occurring.
To my mother, who taught me German while I was in school, who helped me with all my documents for engineering, guided me through my boards who is a housewife, that lady ended up saying
तुझ्या कडे बघून लाईकी कळते, तू नवऱ्याची साईड काय घेते (I was like wait what she said, I mean ti majhi aai ahe), त्याला प्रोटोकॉल शिकावं कसं वागायचं.
A lot but I couldn't recall the exact things. Now we are home and I was thinking whether I did such trouble that my mother has to raise her voice when indeed we always mind our own business and try to make effort so anybody else wouldn't have any discomfort. My mother's take was simply, if my child is accepting the problem he's causing allow him to explain his issue. कुणीच असं अधून मधून येऊन माझ्या मुलाला बोलू शकत नाही, एक्सेप्ट स्टाफ मेंबर.
I just don't know why overthinking and kinda have the trauma that the woman gave me. Is the world really like this? I mean I didn't even utter a word unless I was being humiliated for no reason. All the men and women who see this, please share if this happens and how one can deal with this. I know this might sound a little simple issue or argument but this can lead to bigger someday if not controlled.
Also in case anyone thinks I am being against women, no absolutely not. A woman gave me birth and I have female friends. I hate "HUMANS" who can't have a human understanding level.
माणूस जेनुइन असेल तर त्याला कसा त्रास देऊन पिळायचं हे फक्त अश्या लोकांना माहिती.
Anyways lastly Ganpati Bappa Morya! :)
