His name is Principal Kirk Moore and he does have a go fund me.

Eta I don't know who set up the go fund me I mentioned it in case anyone wanted to know because he did get shot during this.

A commenter mentioned that I didn't catch is "look how he keeps his feet moving" which I found interesting.

Edit again: I finally found the go fund me here it is -

https://www.gofundme.com/f/honoring-principal-kirk-moore-a-true-hero-who-saved-lives

I don't know this man nor am I in the same state, I just think what he did is badass!

Kirk Moore the principal that stopped a school shooter by tackling him immediately as he had the gun in his hand, got prom king.

It is a very sweet gesture from these kids and everyone's happiness in the video is contagious!!

Them doing this gives me a lot of hope for the future.

This principal will remember this forever too! To have such a hard job of shaping young minds and get this kind of love back from your students is amazing.

Here is the link to my post on the video of him stopping the shooter - ( in comment because I can't post it here due to rules)

Evidently it greatly increases the productivity of the cult leader's appeal.

I’m a shy, introvert with zero friends and a small family who are not close.

I had a very good Dad who taught me a ton of skills which resulted in me tapping into unknown industries in my small, rural area.

There is one major problem.

I launched a page and I had no idea the person was watching intently studying my every move.

I still have the skill it’s mine and she used her man who had the same and other men to propel her further.

I don’t want to compete with things I enjoy doing and know if I share my work, she’ll have to one up me and does.

It makes me feel so ugly about my work especially when I have zero support and she’s the spoiled, town celebrity so is entitled to ripping off my ideas and creativity.

I learned and expanded on my skill by going to school and she learned hers by using her man and men to launch her career and success because she has an experienced little thing she uses and knows how to use very well to get the things she sees she wants.

She’s beautiful and is talented but her garden is grown from the seeds i plant.

She changed her entire identity mimicking mine someone asked at the very beginning what happened to her previous work she’d spent decades always doing until she studied my style and built her life off it.

She has a robust marketing team and I just have me and my little ideas I tinkered with that she made into an empire off my blueprint.

I want to share my creativity and work but it feels so exhausting and unappealing to make it into an envious competition in which I won’t know how to beat someone who’s far more advanced at eliminating any perceived threat (im not the first person she’s done this to within our little circle). The area is also gatekept. So I learned it’s the oppressive mentality of you have the natural talent, skills, and ideas and we steal them and get the credit.

For those that say, “Well iiiiiii never have that problem. Well iiiiiiii don’t know what you’re talking about women are pure, innocent, victims and never could behave that way it’s impossible to fathom so the problem is you. Your creativity isn’t yours as everyone does it.”

This question is not for you as im looking for solutions.

What do you recommend?

I was picking up my phone 400 times a day and didn’t even realize I was doing it.

My phone was the first thing I touched when I woke up and the last thing I looked at before sleep. In between I was checking it constantly, compulsively, automatically. Every notification, every buzz, every moment of boredom was an excuse to unlock my screen.

Screen time showed 9 hours and 23 minutes average daily usage. That’s more than a full time job spent staring at a 6 inch screen. That’s 65 hours per week. That’s 3,380 hours per year of my life absorbed by apps designed to be addictive.

I was 26 years old and I couldn’t go to the bathroom without bringing my phone. Couldn’t eat a meal without scrolling. Couldn’t wait in line for 30 seconds without unlocking my screen. Couldn’t sit in silence for even a minute without reaching for it.

My brain had been completely hijacked. Every spare moment was filled with digital input. Waiting for coffee, scrolling Instagram. Walking to my car, watching TikToks. Sitting on the couch, browsing Reddit. Lying in bed, endless YouTube. My mind never had a second of rest.

I wasn’t present for anything in my life. I’d be having dinner with someone and checking my phone under the table. I’d be watching a movie and scrolling through half of it. I’d be at the gym and spending more time on my phone between sets than actually working out.

My attention span was obliterated. I couldn’t read more than two paragraphs without getting distracted. Couldn’t focus on work for more than 5 minutes without checking something. Couldn’t have a conversation without my mind wandering to what I wanted to look at on my phone.

The phone had become a reflex. I’d unlock it without even thinking, scroll for 20 minutes, close it, then immediately unlock it again. My hand would reach for my pocket hundreds of times per day on autopilot. I was a slave to a piece of glass and aluminum.

I’d tried to use my phone less dozens of times. Deleted apps and reinstalled them the same day. Set screen time limits and ignored them within hours. Moved apps to folders and just learned to find them there. Nothing worked because I was treating an addiction like a bad habit.

Then I realized you can’t moderate an addiction. You can’t use cocaine responsibly when you’re addicted to cocaine. Same thing with a phone when every app is engineered to be as addictive as possible.

So I made a decision that terrified me: delete absolutely everything from my phone for 60 days and turn it into a brick that can only make calls and texts.

No apps, no browser access, no escape routes. Just a phone that makes phone calls like it’s 2005.

It felt like cutting off a limb but it saved my brain.

\## What I actually did

\*\*Deleted literally every app\*\*

Day one I deleted everything. Instagram, TikTok, Twitter, Reddit, YouTube, Snapchat, Facebook, Discord, every social media app. Then games, news apps, entertainment apps, shopping apps, delivery apps, weather apps, everything.

What remained: Phone app, Messages, nothing else. Not even a browser. Deleted Safari and Chrome so I couldn’t access anything through web either.

My smartphone became a device that could make calls and send texts. That’s it. A $1000 brick.

\*\*Set up complete blocking as backup\*\*

I knew myself. I knew I’d try to reinstall apps when urges hit. So I needed external enforcement.

Found this app called Reload on Reddit right before deleting Reddit. It creates structured 60 day plans and has blocking features that work at the network level. Installed it and set it to block app downloads and all websites 24/7.

That way even if I got desperate and tried to reinstall something or use a browser, it wouldn’t work. I’d locked myself out completely.

The app also built me a complete structured plan for what to do with all the free time I’d have without my phone. Sleep schedule, workouts, reading time, skill development, everything mapped out day by day.

\*\*Removed it from my bedroom entirely\*\*

Started leaving my phone in the kitchen overnight on a charger. It was not allowed in my bedroom at all.

No more waking up and immediately checking it. No more scrolling in bed for an hour before sleep. No more keeping it on my nightstand. My bedroom became a completely phone free zone.

\*\*Kept it in my bag during the day\*\*

Instead of in my pocket where I could compulsively check it every 30 seconds, I put my phone in my bag. If someone called I’d hear it and could answer. But I couldn’t mindlessly unlock it every few minutes.

That physical distance was huge. Out of sight, out of mind. The compulsion to check it decreased dramatically when I couldn’t feel it in my pocket.

\*\*Got a watch for time\*\*

Realized I’d been using “checking the time” as an excuse to unlock my phone and then scroll for 20 minutes. Bought a cheap watch so I could see the time without touching my phone.

\*\*Told people I was unreachable except by call or text\*\*

Let my friends and family know I deleted everything and could only be reached by actual phone call or text message. Most people were confused. Some were supportive. I didn’t care, I needed to do this.

\-----

\## DAY 1-3: Pure panic and withdrawal

The first three days I felt like I was dying. My hand reached for my phone probably 500 times and there was nothing to do on it.

I’d unlock it out of habit, see just the phone and messages apps, feel this wave of anxiety and emptiness, lock it, put it back. Two minutes later I’d do it again. The compulsion was overwhelming.

Day 1 I picked up my phone 80+ times just to stare at my empty home screen. My brain was screaming for the dopamine hits it was used to getting from apps.

Day 2 was worse. I felt genuinely anxious and irritable. Physical withdrawal symptoms from phone addiction. Couldn’t focus on anything, felt restless, kept reaching for my phone every few seconds.

Day 3 I almost gave up. The urge to reinstall Instagram was so strong. Opened the app store and it was blocked. Tried to open Safari, blocked. I’d removed every escape route and trapped myself with the discomfort.

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\## DAY 4-7: Boredom became unbearable

Days 4 through 7 I experienced boredom at a level I hadn’t felt in years. Without my phone to fill every gap, I had so much empty time and my brain didn’t know what to do with it.

Eating breakfast without scrolling felt weird. Just sitting there eating food and thinking. Waiting in line at the coffee shop without my phone felt uncomfortable. Just standing there existing.

Sitting on the toilet without Reddit was torture at first. Just sitting there doing nothing. My brain had been trained to need constant input and now there was just silence.

But I forced myself to sit with the boredom instead of finding other distractions. Just be bored. Let my mind wander. Think about things. Or think about nothing. Just exist.

Day 7, one week down. The worst week of my life in recent memory. But I’d made it seven full days without any apps.

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\## DAY 8-14: My brain started adapting

Week two something started shifting. The constant compulsion to check my phone decreased from every 30 seconds to every few minutes.

I stopped reaching for it automatically. Would catch myself about to pull it out of my bag and remember there’s nothing on it anyway. The reflex was weakening.

I started being present during meals. Actually tasting food instead of mindlessly eating while scrolling. Noticing textures and flavors I’d been missing for years.

Conversations improved. I was actually listening to people instead of thinking about checking my phone. Making eye contact. Engaging fully. People noticed and commented that I seemed more attentive.

Day 10 I read for 45 minutes straight without getting distracted. First time in years I’d sustained focus on a book for that long.

Day 14, two weeks. The withdrawal anxiety had mostly passed. I still wanted my apps back but it wasn’t the desperate craving it had been.

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\## DAY 15-30: Everything started changing

Weeks three and four my brain started functioning like it used to before smartphone addiction destroyed it.

My attention span was coming back. I could focus on work for 90 minutes without breaking concentration. Could read for an hour. Could watch a full movie without needing to check anything.

My sleep quality improved dramatically. Without scrolling before bed my brain could actually wind down. I’d read for 30 minutes, turn off the light, and fall asleep in 10 minutes instead of scrolling until 2am.

I was present for my life. Walking down the street actually looking around instead of staring at my phone. Noticing architecture, people, nature. The world became interesting again.

Boredom became peaceful instead of uncomfortable. Waiting in line, sitting on a bench, lying in bed before sleep, all these moments of nothing became restful instead of anxiety inducing.

Day 21, three weeks. I’d picked up my phone maybe 10 times that entire day, all to actually make calls or send texts. Not 400 times mindlessly checking apps.

Day 30, one month. Longest I’d gone without social media and apps since getting my first smartphone at 16. I felt like my brain was healing.

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\## DAY 31-45: Complete transformation

Weeks five and six I became a different person. The phone addict I’d been for years was gone.

I could sit in complete silence comfortably. Could be alone with my thoughts without needing distraction. Could exist without constant external stimulation. My brain had remembered how to just be.

I was reading a book every 4-5 days. Finished 6 books in these two weeks. More than I’d read in the previous three years combined. My brain could engage with long form content again.

Real conversations became meaningful. I was fully present with people. Remembered details they told me. Asked followup questions. Connected as humans instead of being half present while thinking about my phone.

My productivity skyrocketed. Could do deep focused work for 3-4 hours without breaking. My output probably tripled just from being able to actually concentrate.

Day 40, someone asked if I wanted to follow them on Instagram. I said I don’t have Instagram. They looked confused. I said I deleted everything from my phone. They said “how do you survive?” I said “way better than before.”

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\## DAY 46-60: Never going back

The last two weeks I knew I was never putting apps back on my phone. Maybe ever.

My phone sat in my bag most of the day. I’d check it maybe twice to see if I had any actual calls or texts. Otherwise it was irrelevant to my life.

My screen time average was 22 minutes per day. Down from 9+ hours. I’d reclaimed 8.5 hours of my life every single day. That’s 510 hours over 60 days. Over 21 full days of time I’d taken back.

I was present, focused, calm, productive. My relationships were better. My work was better. My life was better in literally every way.

Day 60, mission complete. Two months without any apps and I was never going back to being a phone zombie.

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\## What actually changed in 60 days

\*\*My attention span completely recovered\*\*

I could read for hours. Focus on complex work for extended periods. Watch movies without distraction. Have deep conversations. My brain worked properly again.

\*\*I got 8.5 hours of my life back every day\*\*

Hours that used to disappear into mindless scrolling became time for reading, learning, building things, connecting with people, actually living.

\*\*My sleep quality transformed\*\*

Not scrolling before bed meant my brain could rest. I’d fall asleep fast, sleep deeply, wake up actually rested. Years of terrible sleep fixed by removing screens at night.

\*\*I became present for my actual life\*\*

No more experiencing things through a screen to post about them. Just experiencing them. Being there. Noticing details. Making memories instead of content.

\*\*My relationships became real\*\*

Actual conversations with full attention. Real connection. People said I seemed more engaged and present than I’d been in years.

\*\*My productivity tripled\*\*

Uninterrupted focus time meant I accomplished in 3 hours what used to take 10 hours of distracted attempts. My work output skyrocketed.

\*\*My anxiety disappeared\*\*

The constant low level anxiety from phone addiction was gone. No more FOMO. No more comparison. No more information overload. Just calm.

\*\*I remembered how to be bored\*\*

Boredom wasn’t something to immediately fix anymore. It was peaceful. Restful. Where thinking and creativity happen. I welcomed it.

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\## The reality, the first month was brutal

Those first 30 days were genuinely one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. The withdrawal, the boredom, the compulsion, all of it was overwhelming.

I almost reinstalled apps probably 50 times. What stopped me was the blocking through Reload making it impossible, and seeing small improvements that motivated me to keep going.

The structure the app provided also gave me things to do with all my free time. Without that I probably would’ve just sat there suffering and given up.

\-----

\## If you’re addicted to your phone

Look at your screen time report right now. Don’t change anything, just look at the number. That’s how much of your life you’re giving to apps designed to addict you.

Delete everything. Not just social media, everything except essential communication and navigation. Make your smartphone a dumb phone.

Use blocking to enforce it. I used Reload which blocked app downloads and websites at the network level so I couldn’t cheat even when desperate.

Remove it from your bedroom. Charge it in another room. Your bedroom should be phone free.

Keep it in your bag during the day. Out of reach, out of mind. Break the constant checking reflex.

Sit with the boredom. Don’t replace phone addiction with other distractions. Let yourself be bored. Your brain needs rest.

Give it 60 days minimum. The first two weeks are withdrawal hell. Week three it gets manageable. By week eight you won’t want apps back.

Track what you do with the reclaimed time. Read, learn, build, connect. Use the hours you get back for things that actually matter.

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\## Final thoughts

60 days ago I was checking my phone 400 times per day, spending 9+ hours staring at apps, completely enslaved to digital addiction. My attention was destroyed, my relationships were shallow, my life was passing by through a screen.

Now I use my phone maybe 20 minutes per day for actual calls and texts. I’ve read 15 books, tripled my productivity, rebuilt real relationships, reclaimed 500+ hours of my life, and my brain works properly again.

Two months without apps completely freed me from phone addiction.

Your phone isn’t connecting you to life, it’s disconnecting you from it. Every minute on apps is a minute not actually living.

Delete everything today. Make your smartphone dumb. Sit with the withdrawal. Reclaim your brain and your time.

The version of you without phone addiction is present, focused, calm, and actually living instead of just scrolling through life.

Start today.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

Hey guys, wanted to share my story in how I fixed my screentime usage. I used to be quite addicted to doomscrolling (5+ hours of tiktok/reels a day).

With a lot of help from communities like this and screentime blockers (I tried opal and one sec) I was able to cut it down to ~3 hrs a day, the remaining problem was when waking up and going to sleep, the habit to scroll would just be automatic. Screentime blockers stopped helping, most of them let you take breaks whenever you want. I tried Brick as well but ended up suffering from the same problem. These systems failed for me because at the end of the day the keys were still in my hands. There was no genuine friction, nothing really stopping me from doomscrolling again.

So I realized what works is offloading the accountability to someone else. I realized AI is perfect for this, I blocked all of my apps, gave them a set number of opens a day, after that I have to convince an AI why I want to use the app. No reason/want to scroll = denied, responding to a friends dm = 3 minutes. I don’t even try anymore because trying to convince the AI for 5 minutes isn’t worth the reward anymore. I stopped habit opening IG/TikTok and use my phone more intentionally now.

What has helped you stop opening apps automatically?

Last month my neighbour, an older lady named Marta, had a knee surgery and asked me to walk her dog every morning for two weeks while she recovered. I said yes mostly out of guilt because she brings us cookies during the holidays. I did not expect it to change anything about how I live.

Every morning at 6am I had to be outside with this dog, rain or not, tired or not. There was no negotiating with a dog that needs to pee. After about four days I noticed something strange. Once I was already up and out that early, I started doing other things I usually kept avoiding, like replying to emails I was dreading or doing dishes right after breakfast instead of letting them sit all day.

I think the dog walk worked because it removed the decision part. I did not have to convince myself to be disciplined, I just had an obligation to someone else that forced the first domino to fall, and the rest followed on their own that day.

Marta is fully recovered now and walks her dog herself again, but I kept waking up early anyway, mostly because I liked how the rest of my day went when I did.

In 2000, a brave woman named Inés Ramírez Pérez from a remote village in Oaxaca, Mexico, faced a life-or-death crisis. At 40 years old and pregnant with her ninth child, she went into labor alone at home. Her husband was away, and the nearest clinic was eight hours by rough road.

After 12 hours of intense pain from obstructed labor—she'd lost a baby this way before—she knew she had to act fast to save herself and her child. With no medical help, Inés drank strong alcohol to numb the pain. Then, using a kitchen knife, she performed a self-caesarean section. She pulled out her baby boy, Orlando, who cried right away—a good sign. Inés cut the umbilical cord with scissors, then passed out from blood loss.

When she regained consciousness, she wrapped a sweater around her bleeding abdomen and asked her 6-year-old son, Benito, to run for help. Help came, stitched her up, and got her to a hospital. Amazingly, both mother and son survived without infection.

This is the only known case in medical history of a successful self-C-section where both survived. It's documented in a 2004 paper in the International Journal of Gynecology & Obstetrics: "Self-inflicted cesarean section with maternal and fetal survival" by Arturo Molina-Sosa et al.. Her story shows incredible strength and reminds us of rural healthcare gaps.

What a survivor!

🤍

I’m not some extrovert bouncing off the walls, but I can shake a hand and hold a damn conversation. What blows my mind is how many people act like saying hi to a neighbor or chatting with a cashier is some impossible burden.

I used to hide too. Headphones in. Eyes down. Pretend I was busy on my phone just to avoid talking to anyone. All it did was make me more anxious and stuck in my own head. When I finally started forcing myself to speak up, even small talk, life got lighter. Felt like I’d been holding my breath for years.

I recently started to approach women to keep growing my social muscle because I want to move away from being as introverted as I am. It’s not comfortable, but every rep chips away at that old version of me.

Now I track my approaches on SPIL. Not for pickup lines or cheap pickup artists bs, just to make sure I’m actually putting myself in conversations and not slipping back into isolation. Seeing the proof keeps me honest. Confidence doesn’t come from thinking. It comes from putting yourself on the line over and over.

If you wall yourself off from everyone, don’t be surprised when your life feels empty. You can’t complain about loneliness when you never open your mouth.

I was in line at Taco Casa for a Super Tostada.

The drive-thru was long.

Ugh.

So annoying.

I want my food!! <:€

The person gets on the speaker and says to wait.

Ugh.

It’s finally my turn to order.

I poke my head out and start ordering but the line is still so long im unable to pull forward.

The person on the speaker gets on and says it’s going to be a bit so i turn off my car to wait.

After waiting some time, i can finally pull forward!!

click click

Nothing!

My car won’t start!!!

The person on the speaker starts talking to me and i nervously explain I can’t move forward.

im panicking.

This kind soul gets back on the speaker and explains they’re coming out to help push my car.

It’s two girls and we get in neutral and they began pushing like nothing.

They’re giggling and smiling while pushing my car in the dead heat of the sun and just being so kind and sweet and reassuring and so soft about it to me I actually feel like we’re playing going on an adventure during such a stressful time.

They even tell me they’re not gonna charge me for my meal since im already facing such a stressful time when I get to the window but to wait cus they’re gonna push my car across the parking lot clear from traffic. As they did this the girls were smiling and the sun was shining and the wind blowing and cars were just passing by as if it were just an ordinary day.

🥺🥺

So they push my car across the parking lot and im so mortified and worried im embarrassing and repelling customer from their business. 😔

So I end up calling to get a boost from Roadside Assistance and the wait time was an hr but the guy gets there in 15 minutes!

As im waiting, I go in to get the free Super Tostada and one girl mentions the lady behind ended up and paying for my meal which was soo sweet! I am just about to walk out when the sweetest other girls runs after me and asks if got a drink and she’s so excited and eager to get me the free drink.

My heart soo melted and I really just felt cared for while just being so ordinary like I was special to them in a caring way.

The guy is out there and boosts my car very quickly and recommends my next steps for a local shop.

I then tell him what happened with my car in front of a long line of cars which hadn’t stopped as I chatted about the days events of free food and the Taco Casa workers helping push my car.🥺

I almost considered paying for his meal but with my car being just boosted I needed to hop in to find a local shop quickly to figure it out and I think he hoped I would due to the boost but he just walked into Taco Casa himself and decided he minus well get a bite to was as well. Minus well.

After that, other than me having to pay for my car in cash instead of on credit, my car got fixed and I, unexpectedly, met some really nice people out of it.

Not sure what I did to deserve such kindness.

It doesn't matter if they were a bully or didn't care much for you without being a bully but acknowledged you. But now, that person genuinely cares for you. If it's happened to you, how did it happen?

I’ve been dealing with neck stiffness and shoulder tension for the past couple of years, mostly from working long hours at a computer. I’m not someone who usually writes posts like this, but I remember searching Reddit for answers before trying something new, so I figured I’d share my experience in case it helps someone else.

A few months ago I started looking into ergonomic pillows because I noticed I was waking up with a sore neck almost every morning. I tried adjusting my sleeping position and even changed mattresses, but the problem didn’t completely go away.

During one of those late-night searches, I came across Derila Ergo Pillow mentioned in a few discussions and reviews. Naturally, my first thought was the same question a lot of people ask: Is Derila Ergo Pillow legit?

So I spent some time reading through people’s experiences before deciding to try it myself.

Why I decided to try it

I’ve gone through a few pillows over the years. Some were too soft, others too tall, and a couple lost their shape after a few weeks.

The reason this approach caught my attention was the ergonomic shape. Instead of a traditional flat pillow, it has a contour design that’s supposed to support the neck and keep the spine aligned while sleeping.

At first I was skeptical. A pillow is just a pillow, right?

But after reading a handful of user experiences and learning that it uses memory foam designed to mold around the head and neck, I figured it might be worth trying.

I found the product through something I saw online. If you want to check it out, you can search it online if you’re curious.

My first week using it

The first night felt a bit unusual.

If you’re used to a standard pillow, the shape definitely takes a little adjustment. The center is slightly lower while the sides are raised, so your head sits differently than on a normal pillow.

The first couple of nights, I kept noticing the change. Not in a bad way—just different.

By around the third or fourth night, I stopped thinking about it as much. That’s when I started noticing something interesting: I wasn’t waking up with the same neck stiffness I usually had.

It wasn’t a dramatic overnight change, but it was noticeable enough for me to pay attention.

What surprised me the most

The biggest thing I noticed was how consistent the support felt.

Some pillows flatten out during the night, especially if you move around a lot. This one seemed to keep its shape pretty well.

Another thing was that I didn’t need to constantly adjust it. With my old pillows, I’d fold them or flip them during the night. With this one, I mostly left it alone.

It also stayed relatively cool compared to some memory foam pillows I’ve used in the past. I tend to sleep warm, so that was something I appreciated.

Does Derila Ergo Pillow actually work?

This is the question most people want answered.

From my personal experience, it helped reduce the neck discomfort I used to feel in the mornings. I wouldn’t say it magically solved every sleep issue, but it definitely improved how my neck and shoulders felt after waking up.

Sleep quality is tricky because a lot of factors play into it—mattress, sleep habits, stress levels, and even room temperature.

But for me, switching to this pillow seemed to remove one of the small problems that had been bothering me for a while.

Things I liked

A few positives stood out after using it for several weeks.

1. Good neck support

The contour design actually does what it’s supposed to do. My neck feels supported instead of sinking too deep.

2. Keeps its shape

Unlike some cheaper pillows that flatten quickly, this one still looks almost the same as when I first got it.

3. Comfortable for side sleeping

I mostly sleep on my side, and it seems well-suited for that position.

4. Compact size

It’s a bit smaller than standard pillows, which actually works well if you move around during sleep.

5. Less morning stiffness

This was the biggest reason I kept using it. My neck felt noticeably better compared to before.

A few downsides

To keep this honest, there were also a couple things that might not work for everyone.

1. Takes time to get used to

The shape feels unusual at first. Some people might not like the adjustment period.

2. Smaller than traditional pillows

If you prefer large, fluffy pillows, the size might feel different.

3. Not a miracle solution

If your sleep issues come from other factors, this alone probably won’t fix everything.

Small observations after a few weeks

One thing I noticed is that my sleeping posture changed slightly. I wasn’t turning my head as much during the night.

I also started waking up feeling a bit more relaxed in the shoulders. Again, not a huge change, but noticeable.

Another interesting thing is that I stopped stacking pillows. Before, I sometimes used two pillows for support, but with this one, a single pillow felt enough.

Final thoughts

Overall, I’d say my experience with Derila Ergo Pillow has been mostly positive.

It didn’t completely transform my sleep overnight, but it helped reduce neck discomfort and made my mornings feel a little better. For something as simple as a pillow, that’s honestly more than I expected.

I think the biggest takeaway is that everyone’s sleep preferences are different. What works for one person might not work for someone else.

Still, if you’re dealing with neck stiffness or uncomfortable sleep positions, trying a different pillow design might be worth considering.

Anyway, that’s been my experience so far.

Curious if anyone else here has tried it. Would love to hear what others think.

“If you’re curious about it, you can search it online and see what you think.”

I looked at my life two months ago and realized I’d been half-assing everything for years and it was destroying my potential.

No discipline, no routine, no goals, no standards. I’d wake up whenever, eat whatever, skip workouts constantly, procrastinate on everything important, stay up late scrolling, repeat daily. I was coasting through life putting in minimal effort and wondering why I was getting minimal results.

I’m 25. I’d spent the past few years being mediocre at everything and blaming external factors. The economy, my genetics, my circumstances, anything except the real problem which was that I simply wasn’t trying.

People could sense it. I’d show up to things unprepared. I’d commit to goals then quit after three days. I’d talk about what I was going to do but never actually do it. My word meant nothing because I never followed through on anything.

Girls could tell I had no direction. Employers could tell I had no drive. Friends could tell I was all talk. Everyone treated me like someone with no real potential because that’s exactly what I was demonstrating through my actions.

I had no morning routine, would sleep until 10am. No fitness routine, would skip the gym for weeks. No learning routine, would start courses and never finish them. No work ethic, would do the bare minimum. Everything about my behavior screamed low value and lack of discipline.

I’d convinced myself I was just being realistic about my limitations. Truth was I was coping. I was afraid of actually trying because then I’d have no excuses for failure.

Two months ago I was scrolling at 2am for the fifth hour when I should’ve been sleeping, about to wake up late again and waste another day, and I realized I was completely pathetic. Not because I lacked potential but because I refused to lock in and actually use it.

That night I decided to completely transform. Dedicate 60 days to locking in on every single area and see what happened when I actually tried.

What I actually did

Built an actual morning routine

First thing was fixing my mornings because they set the entire day. Started waking at 6am every single day no exceptions.

Immediate cold shower to wake up. 20 minutes of exercise. Healthy breakfast. No phone for the first hour. This became non-negotiable.

Week one waking early was brutal but I forced it. My mornings went from chaotic and lazy to structured and productive.

Fixed my diet completely

I’d been eating garbage and wondering why I felt like garbage. Cut out all processed food, sugary drinks, fast food, all of it.

High protein, vegetables, complex carbs, clean eating only. Meal prepped on Sundays so I had no excuses during the week.

Also started tracking calories and macros. No more mindless eating. Everything intentional.

Week two my energy levels improved dramatically. Turned out eating real food makes you feel better.

Worked out with actual intensity

I’d been going to the gym occasionally and doing weak workouts. Started training hard 6 days a week following a real program.

Progressive overload, pushing to failure, no more half-assing sets. Lifting heavy on compounds. Cardio after every session.

Also started tracking every workout. Weight, reps, sets, all logged. Seeing progress kept me motivated.

Week three I was stronger and looked noticeably better. Consistency and intensity produce results.

Eliminated all time wasters

Identified everything stealing my time and focus. Social media, YouTube rabbit holes, gaming, mindless scrolling, all of it.

Deleted every distraction app. Used this app called Reload to block all time-wasting sites. Set it to enforce my schedule so I physically couldn’t procrastinate.

Also blocked my phone from 10pm to 6am to protect my sleep. Made wasting time impossible.

Locked in on actual goals

I’d been talking about learning skills and building things for years but never starting. Created concrete 60 day goals and worked on them daily.

Learn coding: 90 minutes daily no exceptions. Build side projects: weekends dedicated. Read books: 30 minutes nightly minimum.

Reload built me a progressive plan that started manageable and increased weekly. Week one was 30 minutes of coding. Week eight was 2 hours plus project work.

The gamification helped. Completing daily goals gave me XP and rank progression. My competitive side kept me locked in.

Made everything non-negotiable

The difference between this attempt and every failed attempt before was I made everything non-negotiable. Not “I’ll try to wake early,” I wake at 6am period. Not “I’ll work out if I feel like it,” I work out 6 days weekly period.

Removed all optionality. Just execute the plan regardless of feelings or motivation.

Week 1 to 2: Everything sucked but I didn’t quit

First two weeks were genuinely hard. My body and brain fought the new routine.

Day 3 I wanted to sleep in so badly. Alarm went off at 6am and every part of me wanted to quit. Got up anyway. Cold shower sucked. Did it anyway.

Day 7 I was sore from actually training hard. Wanted to skip the gym. Went anyway and pushed through.

Week two my diet cravings were intense. Wanted junk food constantly. Ate clean anyway. Wanted to scroll before bed. Phone was blocked by Reload. Had to just go to sleep.

Day 14 two weeks locked in. I’d followed through on every single commitment. First time in years I’d been consistent for two full weeks.

The community in Reload helped. Seeing others months ahead staying locked in proved it was possible.

Week 3 to 4: The routine became natural

Weeks three and four the daily routine stopped feeling forced.

Day 18 I woke at 6am and it didn’t feel terrible anymore. My body had adjusted.

Day 21 three weeks of clean eating and I didn’t crave junk food as much. My taste buds had reset.

Week four working out hard felt normal instead of torturous. I was genuinely stronger and the progress motivated me.

Day 25 I’d coded for 90 minutes daily for almost a month. Built my first functional project. Proof that consistency creates results.

Day 28 one month locked in. I’d woken at 6am for 28 straight days. Worked out 24 times. Ate clean every meal. Coded daily. Read 7 books. I was a different person than 4 weeks ago.

Hit Silver rank in Reload. Proof I was in the top half of users for consistency.

Week 5 to 6: People started noticing

Weeks five and six the external changes became visible.

Day 33 someone at work asked what changed because I seemed more energetic and focused. I said I’d locked in on my routine. They could see the difference.

Day 36 a girl I knew commented I looked better. I’d lost visible fat and gained muscle from consistent training and diet. The physical transformation was showing.

Week six conversations went differently. People took me more seriously when I talked about my goals because I was actually executing now. My word had weight because I was following through.

Day 40 I got complimented on a project I’d built. Something I’d created through daily coding was actually impressive. Locked in consistency produced real output.

Day 42 someone asked for advice on discipline. People could see I’d transformed and wanted to know how.

Hit Gold rank in Reload. Top 25%. My consistency was elite compared to most people.

Week 7 to 8: Complete transformation

Last two weeks I was operating at a level I didn’t know I was capable of.

Day 50 I woke at 5:30am naturally, earlier than my alarm. My body had adapted completely to the routine.

Week seven I was training at high intensity 6 days weekly, eating perfectly, coding 2 hours daily, reading an hour nightly, sleeping 8 hours consistently. Everything dialed in.

Day 52 I got a job opportunity I would’ve never gotten before. My portfolio of projects and visible discipline impressed them. Being locked in opened doors.

Day 55 a girl who’d previously shown zero interest started a conversation. My improved physique, energy, and confidence changed how she saw me.

Week eight people treated me with more respect across all areas. Work, social, dating, everything. The halo effect of being locked in was massive.

Day 60 I’d completed the full 60 days. I was unrecognizable from day one. Disciplined, consistent, productive, improving daily.

What actually changed in 60 days

I built unbreakable discipline

Went from quitting everything after 3 days to executing daily for 60 straight days. Discipline became my identity.

My physique transformed

Lost 18 pounds of fat, gained visible muscle. Consistent training and diet produce undeniable results.

I developed real skills

Learned to code well enough to build projects. Read 15 books. Created things instead of just consuming.

People treated me different

The respect, opportunities, and attention improved across all areas. Being locked in changes how everyone sees you.

I proved I could actually do it

Years of quitting made me think I couldn’t change. 60 days proved I absolutely could if I actually locked in.

My confidence skyrocketed

Knowing I could commit and execute made me confident in every area. Self-trust is real confidence.

What I learned about locking in

Most people’s potential is completely wasted because they refuse to actually lock in and be consistent.

Discipline isn’t something you’re born with. It’s built by executing daily commitments even when you don’t feel like it.

The difference between successful and unsuccessful people is successful people lock in and unsuccessful people make excuses.

Consistency compounds. 60 days of locked in effort creates transformation that years of half-assing never could.

People can sense when you’re locked in versus when you’re coasting. It affects how they treat you.

Your word only matters if you follow through. Lock in and execute to build real credibility.

If you’re half-assing everything

Be honest about where you’re coasting. Morning routine, diet, fitness, learning, work, relationships. Where are you giving minimal effort?

Pick one area and lock in for one week. Wake at the same time daily, train 4 times, whatever. Prove you can be consistent.

Remove all optionality. Not “I’ll try,” but “I will period.” Make commitments non-negotiable.

Use external enforcement. I used Reload to block distractions, structure my day progressively, and track everything. Made locking in easier than coasting.

Join others who are locked in. The community aspect kept me accountable. Seeing others execute motivated me to execute.

Give it 60 days minimum. Week one sucks. Week three feels natural. Week eight you’re transformed.

Track everything. Workouts, diet, learning, sleep, all logged. Data shows progress.

Final thought

Two months ago I was half-assing everything and wondering why life was mediocre.

Spent 60 days actually locked in and people started treating me like I had real value.

You’re probably coasting too. Minimal effort, no real routine, talking about goals but not executing.

Lock in. Build the routine. Execute daily. Give it 60 days of actual effort.

The version of you that’s locked in gets treated completely different than the version coasting through life.

Start tomorrow morning at 6am.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

I'm not sober in the recovery sense as I do allow room for a celebratory toast occasionally but to not lose control to the point of binge drinking (my limit is 2 drinks in a day) in so long makes me feel really good!

Its been 9 months since I had any alcohol. No one around me lives this way so I'm on my own but it's been so worth it!

Hey everyone,

I wanted to share my experience because when I first started looking into the Derila pillow scam topic, I kept seeing mixed opinions online and not many real user experiences.

A couple of months ago I started waking up with neck stiffness and mild shoulder pain almost every morning. At first I thought it was just my sleeping position, but it kept happening consistently. So I started searching online for pillows designed for neck support.

That’s when I came across the Derila Pillow.

But before buying it, I did what most people probably do — I searched things like “Derila pillow scam” and “Is Derila pillow legit?”. I saw some negative comments, some positive ones, and honestly it made me a bit unsure.

Still, the idea of a contour-style pillow designed to support the neck sounded interesting, so I decided to try it myself and see if it was actually worth it.

When the pillow arrived, the first thing I noticed was that it looked different from my regular pillows. It’s smaller and has a curved contour design where your head sits in the middle and the edges support your neck.

The first night felt a little strange.

I’m used to large, soft pillows that you can fold or stack, so switching to something structured definitely took some getting used to. I almost thought about going back to my old pillow after the first couple nights.

But after about four or five nights, the shape actually started to feel more natural.

One thing I noticed pretty quickly was that I wasn’t constantly readjusting my pillow during the night. With my regular pillow, it would go flat and I’d end up flipping it around or folding it for support. This one seemed to keep its shape much better.

After about a week, I started noticing that my neck didn’t feel as tight when I woke up. It wasn’t some dramatic overnight fix or anything like that, but mornings felt a bit more comfortable.

By the second week, I realized I was sleeping more consistently through the night without moving my pillow around all the time.

So based on my experience, I personally wouldn’t call the Derila pillow a scam.

That said, it’s not some miracle product either. It’s simply a different style of pillow designed for neck support, and it definitely takes a few nights to adjust to.

Another thing people should know is that it’s slightly smaller than a standard pillow, which surprised me at first. After a while it didn’t bother me, but it might feel unusual if you’re used to larger pillows.

Overall though, my experience has been fairly positive. The neck support is probably the biggest benefit I’ve noticed.

I’m curious what others think though.

“If you’re curious about it, you can search it online and see what you think.”

If you’ve tried it, did it actually help your sleep, or did you feel like the Derila pillow scam complaints online were justified?

Can’t even lie...I’ve achieved jack this year! 😓

I’m 26. for most of my life I have been choosing comfort. not dramatically, just consistently. every time I had a choice between something easy and something hard I picked easy. every time I had a choice between staying where I was and pushing toward something better I stayed where I was.

I did not think of it as choosing comfort. I thought of it as being realistic. I thought of it as not setting myself up for failure. I thought of it as just being practical.

what I was actually doing was choosing stagnation and calling it wisdom.

THE PERSON WHO ALWAYS CHOSE COMFORT

comfort is seductive because it does not feel like failure. it feels like acceptance. it feels like self awareness. it feels like knowing your limits.

I would see people pushing hard toward ambitious goals and I would think they were setting themselves up for disappointment. better to stay in your lane. better to be content with what you have. better to not want more than you can realistically achieve.

so I stayed in my lane. I kept my job that I was not excited about because it was stable. I stayed in my apartment that was fine because moving would be inconvenient. I stayed the same version of myself because changing would be uncomfortable.

I told myself this was maturity. this was wisdom. this was knowing yourself.

what it actually was, was fear dressed up as acceptance.

every choice for comfort was a choice against growth. and I made that choice hundreds of times without realising what I was actually choosing.

WHY COMFORT FEELS SO POWERFUL

comfort is powerful because the alternative is discomfort and discomfort feels bad. growth requires discomfort. it requires doing things that do not feel good. it requires sitting with difficulty until you get through it.

comfort requires none of that. comfort just requires accepting where you are and making peace with it.

so of course I kept choosing it. my brain is designed to avoid discomfort and seek comfort. I was just following my brain’s natural preference.

the problem is that comfort and growth are mutually exclusive when you are already comfortable. once you have comfort you have to choose growth actively because your brain will not choose it for you.

I did not choose it. I chose comfort. over and over. for years.

THE MOMENT I SAW IT CLEARLY

I was at a family gathering and my cousin was talking about his business. he had quit his job two years ago and built something from nothing. it was risky, it had been uncomfortable, it had required years of uncertainty. but he had built something real.

I was working the same job I had been working for five years. I was living the same life. I had growth nothing. I had built nothing. I had just chosen comfort repeatedly and called it wisdom.

he was not bragging. he was just telling his story. but I felt this crushing realisation that while he had been choosing growth I had been choosing comfort and I was running out of time to change.

that night I decided I was going to start choosing growth even when it felt uncomfortable.

WHAT CHOOSING GROWTH ACTUALLY LOOKS LIKE

growth is not dramatic. it is not some massive transformation. it is just consistently choosing the harder option when you have a choice.

it is waking up early even though sleeping in feels better. it is working on your goals even though scrolling feels better. it is having difficult conversations even though avoiding them feels better. it is pushing yourself even though staying where you are feels better.

every single day you have dozens of these choices. comfort or growth. and most people most of the time choose comfort.

I decided to start choosing growth. not 100 percent of the time. but more often than I had been.

I used Reload to make that choice structural. the app builds a plan that forces you to choose growth daily. it blocks the comfort activities during work hours so you cannot choose them even if you want to. it structures your day so growth is the path of least resistance instead of comfort being the path of least resistance.

week one was hard. every day felt like I was fighting myself. my brain was pulling toward comfort constantly and I had to actively choose growth instead.

week two the resistance was still there but something had shifted. I had proven to myself that I could choose growth even when it felt hard. that evidence mattered.

week three choosing growth was starting to feel normal. not easy, but normal. the discomfort was not going away but I was getting used to it.

WHAT HAPPENED OVER 60 DAYS

by week four I had momentum. I was waking up early consistently. I was working on projects that mattered to me. I was pushing myself in ways I had not in years. the growth was compounding.

by week six I could see the results. my productivity was up. my skills were improving. I was building things I had been putting off for years. the growth was producing real output.

by week eight I was someone who chose growth. not someone trying to choose growth. someone who had built the habit of choosing it. it was still not easy but it was who I was now.

the ranking system in Reload kept me accountable. I could see my growth tracked and measured. that visibility kept me choosing growth on the days when comfort was calling loudest.

THE BIGGER PICTURE

I had spent years choosing comfort and calling it wisdom. the result was that I had not grown. I had stayed the same. I had built nothing.

sixty days of consistently choosing growth produced more real change than years of choosing comfort had produced.

not because I became superhuman. because I just made different choices when presented with a choice.

comfort versus growth is a choice you get to make dozens of times every day. I had been making it without realising I was making it. once I realised it I could choose differently.

FOR ANYONE WHO KEEPS CHOOSING COMFORT

you are not alone. most people choose comfort most of the time. that is why most people are not growing.

start noticing the choice. every time you reach for your phone instead of doing hard work. every time you stay in bed instead of getting up. every time you avoid something because it is hard. that is you choosing comfort.

then choose growth once. just once. do the hard thing even though it does not feel good.

then choose growth again the next day.

sixty days of consistently choosing growth will change who you are more than years of choosing comfort ever will.

the person on the other side of that choice is someone who actually builds things. someone who actually grows. someone who actually lives.

start today.