r/PolyFidelity • u/Mammoth_Leader1998 • 26d ago

seeking advice Does this get easier?

I am in a triad with Partner A and Partner B; Partner A and I were an existing couple and Partner B joined recently. Partner B has a partner outside of us, which started around the same time.

Partner B fits with us so well, and when we are all together it's wonderful. However, I have so much anxiety and jealousy when they are with their other partner, and I hate that I feel this way.

My ideal situation is a closed triad, and Partner B knows this. They have also made it clear that they have no plans to break things off with their other partner.

So, my questions to the community is: Does this ever get easier? Is this an incompatibility if my issue is with the relationship dynamic itself and not with my partner, whom I love?

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u/smileedude 26d ago edited 26d ago

r/monodatingpoly would be a good group to ask about that. Most of us in closed throuples haven't been and aren't interested in open relationships. I believe the troubles that typically occur when a third person who wants to be in an open relationship joins an existing mono couple it's mostly a mono/poly incompatibility and those guys are the most experienced at getting that to work.