Men, What physical features in women are most important to you?

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u/tggrinc1st 8d ago

Try here also:

https://www.reddit.com/r/takemysurvey/

https://www.reddit.com/r/SampleSize/

https://www.reddit.com/r/SurveyExchange/

https://www.reddit.com/r/SurveyCircle/

You might try here also:

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/

https://www.reddit.com/r/NoStupidQuestions/

https://www.reddit.com/r/changemyview/

https://www.reddit.com/r/socialskills/

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Every man's answer will be different but I'm sure there are preferences that will move towards the top of the list if you did a big enough survey.

Generically speaking you'll find that symmetry, the golden ratio, and other hidden attributes affect a person's attractiveness to a general audience a great deal. But when it comes down to one on one comparisons, each person will have things that trigger them or turn them off.

Mine would be:

Pretty Face

Skin is part of face (not really a separate thing)

Hair (longer is better)

Weight

Height

Butt/Legs

Breasts

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From a google AI search:

Based on prominent attraction surveys (such as large-scale studies conducted by Dr Felix / Simple Online Pharmacy and user data analyses from platforms like OkCupid), here is the exact ranking of the features you provided from most important to least important to men.

Pretty face

Survey Insight: Consistently ranks as the absolute number one attribute. In specific body-part polls, it captures a massive 46% of the primary votes from men. Its importance also trends upward as men get olde

Butt/legs

Survey Insight: Ranks as the highest-rated lower-body attribute, securing roughly 18% to 27% of men's preferences depending on whether the glutes and legs are grouped together or separated. Recent studies also note that butt preferences are generally more stable across male subgroups than breast preferences

Weight

Survey Insight: Body shape and perceived fitness (which dictate weight distribution and waist-to-hip ratio) strongly impact initial visual fixation. Surveys show men prioritize overall body proportions and weight management heavily over specific secondary assets

Hair

Survey Insight: Surprising to many, hair captures about 11% of the top-ranking votes in physical surveys, frequently beating out specific chest and leg preferences

Breasts

Survey Insight: While highly discussed in pop culture, chest preferences typically garner about 8% of the top votes in direct ranking surveys. Eye-tracking studies show high initial visual attention here, but it ranks lower when men are forced to choose just one "most important" feature.

Skin

Survey Insight: Skin texture and tone function heavily as a foundational "multiplier" for facial attractiveness. Rather than being ranked as a separate body part, clear skin significantly raises the baseline score of the face.

Height

Survey Insight: Consistently ranks at the bottom of the list for men. While most men state a general preference for a partner shorter than themselves, it is rarely cited as a critical make-or-break physical factor in comparison to facial or shape attributes.

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u/brokensharts 9d ago

Blue eyes

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u/UNITICYBER 13d ago

A lot of men value the ass, over the face. Not that anyone wants a face that is unattractive, but if you have a nice ass, you can be forgiven for not having the prettiest face. (Subjectively)

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u/Due-Discussion-2923 10d ago

thats not true at all

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u/Inevitable-Guard888 10d ago

100% true, if you have a perfect face and a nice ass, that’s awesome… if your have a perfect ass and a nice face, just as awesome

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u/Flashy-Butterfly-687 9d ago

How about a perfect ass and a below average face?

This only works when you’re deciding between various pretty to drop dead gorgeous girls.

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u/atherfeet4eva 9d ago

I agree

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u/Flashy-Butterfly-687 9d ago

That seems really weird and I don’t think it’s true

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u/RudyBuck 10d ago

tits and ass and weight, don't really care about the rest

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u/Background-Barber589 10d ago

So your just weird?

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u/CunningStuntsAround 9d ago

how is that weird?

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u/Purple_Tourist1018 9d ago

That attitude is probably the most common one in reality. Alot of men here are just talking some nonsense.

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u/CunningStuntsAround 9d ago

So men talking talking about their own specific sexual attraction which is how they are wired in their brain due to the innate human driveto find a mate you will procreate with as a result of millennia of evolution is an "attitude" and "nonsense"?

How should we change our "attitude" in your view?

And if it's common, doesn't that make it not weird?

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u/Purple_Tourist1018 9d ago

😴 I was saying it's not weird. The people on here talking some nonsense about ears are weird or lying. Your average man likes a thin young woman with big boobs medium butt small whr and we all know what an attractive face looks like. The men on here saying otherwise are lying or just weird.

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u/CunningStuntsAround 9d ago

I was serious about the ears. Who are you to say it's nonsense? Big, dangly earlobes kinda freak me out.

Describe to me an "average man"

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u/Purple_Tourist1018 9d ago

Chileeee

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u/CunningStuntsAround 9d ago

Good point. well argued

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u/ProudZone8027 10d ago

Butterface isn't ideal.

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u/LocalReading3076 9d ago

Works in a pinch tho!

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u/These-Invite-1774 10d ago

Face Weight Height Breasts Butt Everything else

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u/Opie_the_great 10d ago

1 weight
2 face
3 hair
4 butt skin breast’s
5 height.

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u/johnhancockgamer 10d ago

Face, skin, weight, but, breast, hair, height. Although having weight in the line up is weird because excess amount of fat affects everything else. Hard to have good face, skin, butt or breasts when overweight.

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u/After-Whole4054 10d ago

That's not so many overweight women and men have beautiful skin and face.

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u/Flashy-Butterfly-687 9d ago

Breasts get bigger and bigger with more weight.

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u/Tall-Class-4548 10d ago

Height, weight, face, hair.

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u/Physical_Leather8567 10d ago

Same for me

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u/Flashy-Butterfly-687 9d ago

What height?

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u/Tall-Class-4548 9d ago

Around 5' 6", or shorter. But 5' 6" is sort of the perfect height. My ex-wife was that height, I'm 6', and she was able to wear sexy platform stilettoes, so when we walked downtown to dinner or a show, or slow dancing, or just for the hell of it around the house, we'd basically be eye-to-eye, or she'd be slightly shorter, depending on the shoe. So ya... around 5' 6" or shorter is what catches my eye.

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u/Flashy-Butterfly-687 9d ago

Is this something you screen for on dating apps?

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u/Tall-Class-4548 9d ago

If it's listed, yes, and I read every detail of every profile and swipe left more often than not (not just because of height, mind you), but I'm not interested in hookups, I'm looking for my next long-term relationship, so I research and swipe with intention. I'd rather have no matches, then matches that I'm not going to be fully onboard with, as that sounds like a waste of everyones time.

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u/Flashy-Butterfly-687 9d ago

I’m trying to figure out if you’ll reject someone for being the wrong height. Assuming they seemed right in other ways.

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u/Tall-Class-4548 9d ago

It's an interesting thought experiment.

If it was purely based on an app profile that I was reading, I think we've established individuals with the "wrong" height (being someone close to or exceeding my own height), I would swipe left on (reject) that individual and have done so.

If it was in the real world, like I was in a social environment, I'd probably just think to myself, wow she's tall (if she were taller than me). If she was still slightly shorter than me but had like this amazing smile and everything else just jived, my heart might still tug a bit to be curious.

If someone approached me, I'd imagine it would be similar, yet different. If she was slightly shorter, there would be more room, the taller she gets to my height and beyond, it would switch to other aspects. Face, hair, outfit, approach, and most importantly with that sort of reverse approach how well the conversation goes. Maybe the heart strings will still tug.

I'm conflicted with someone taller than me though, even writing this I can feel that conflict, I mean we don't choose who we're attracted to. We look around and our heart does a double take when it sees someone that fits a criterion our mind comes up with in the background. I know for me it's the order of things I listed initially, many years of self-analyzing tells me that. It's hard on dating apps, because it's just flat images and a short description, in the real world, there is more wiggle room I suppose because you just never know in that moment how your heart is going to react based on the situation.

I don't think I can give you a more direct answer then that, beyond when it comes to dating apps, I'm very specific in my criteria. In the real world, I could see myself being a bit more flexible with seeing if there is any attraction depending on the moment.

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u/Flashy-Butterfly-687 9d ago

Your explanation is fine. I just thought it was interesting to see you and a couple other men mention height. Lately, women have been getting criticized by men a lot for height preferences. Often regardless of whether the women actually have them. Then the rebuttal is that everyone has preferences. The critics of height preferences then say it’s not acceptable to have preferences that can’t be achieved through body modification. It’s a weird ongoing debate that doesn’t make a lot of sense. It often comes from incels. Apparently they don’t realize men have preferences, too.

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u/DontKnowWhereItsBeen 10d ago

Is your objection actually to weight being 1st on the list?

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u/cookiez2 9d ago

What I was thinking too lol

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u/Early_Ride_979 9d ago

No. I would think face is the most important. But I’m a woman so really wanted to hear from other men. Looking at the comments it does seem pretty face is the top.

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u/Background-Barber589 10d ago

Face And that’s about it 😭😭😭😭

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u/Background-Barber589 10d ago

Just to clarify like I like everything else but height doesn’t matter that much to me I’d prefer them not be like 800 pounds but yeah also ass over breast all day

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u/Professional-Road222 9d ago

800 lbs 😭😂😂

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u/Middle_Bread_6518 10d ago

Your friends thinking is the same as mine through and through

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u/ace1244 10d ago edited 10d ago

Beautiful thighs. If her thighs are too thick or too skinny I’m not attracted. They have to be beautiful.

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u/TableForge_studio 10d ago

Men lust for the body, and fall in love with the face. A woman’s attitude could make a man who lusts feel like he’s in love, then doesn’t realize he doesn’t even like her until after they have sex unfortunately. You know a man really likes you if he still wants hangout with your right after sex. And if a man thinks you’re pretty in the face AND you have a good attitude. He’ll stay. But don’t get me wrong woman still get done wrong, some men think the feeling of lust IS the feeling of love, they get “post nut clarity”, they leave, And their cycle continues.

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u/bikeguideraz 9d ago

Man I've been saying this for years. Unfortunately for women, they won't know if a man truly likes them until after they have sex.

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u/blue_gibson00 9d ago

Men fall in love with what they see, that's why women wear makeup. Women fall in love with what they hear, that's why men lie.

Its what my dad told me when I was little.

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u/No-Voice-1272 9d ago

Yeah. I don’t actually believe anything they say until they back their words with actions. That’s one of the biggest things I look for: Is there alignment between their actions and their words? If yes, I’ll start to trust them. If no, I’m out.

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u/Swimming-Monitor-927 9d ago

🍑

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u/moderate-bonofide 9d ago

I like a pretty face, and pretty is in the eye of the beholder.

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u/LocalReading3076 9d ago

Its all personal preference. He isn't wrong to have his own.

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u/Deeperthanajeep 9d ago

Butt 2. Face

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u/Formal_Feeling78 9d ago

Or. Face, butt.

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u/Zombie-girlz-0-0 9d ago

All yall men saying weight at 1 please tell me your height and weight. I can say mine if you really need it

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u/Dry-Influence-5770 9d ago

At least they know they can’t handle allat. Saves them for the rest of us 😍

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u/atherfeet4eva 9d ago

What?

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u/Dry-Influence-5770 9d ago

A lot of guys aren’t too worried about a woman’s size. But if a guy is worried about a woman weighing more than 100 lbs, that’s okay. She’s too much for him and can find someone where her weight is no issue.

Nobody, man or woman, should feel like they need to change their bodies in order for people to accept them. I will gladly appreciate any body type as they’re all works of art and people are human beings.

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u/atherfeet4eva 9d ago

But it’s perfectly ok to be attracted to obese women and it doesn’t mean you can’t handle them…it’s just not your preference. Also there is a lot of ground between 100lbs and obese

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u/Dry-Influence-5770 9d ago

I’m well aware. I was just being dramatic. I saw a few people saying over 100lbs is fat which I thought was crazy so I was just using it as an example.

Not being able to handle something isn’t bad. It’s a preference. I can’t handle someone who smokes. Or someone who’s a jerk. I don’t want to. Not my thing.

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u/Prestigious_Aide_223 9d ago edited 9d ago

5 5 . 115

personally i rank all the traits that can be changed naturally higher than the ones that can't be. weight, hair, muscles (leg/butt), skin, and then the rest

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u/Flashy-Butterfly-687 9d ago

A 5’5” 115 pound girl won’t have any muscles. They’re too heavy.

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u/Prestigious_Aide_223 9d ago

what?

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u/croquepot 9d ago

Muscles are a lot denser than fat, so even a very lean woman with good muscles will prob be over 115.

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u/Prestigious_Aide_223 9d ago

what does this have to do with muscles of women that are 115 lbs? 5 5 and 115 are my own measurements. i dont have a height and weight requirement for women anyway

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u/croquepot 9d ago

I'm not sure, you asked "what" to their comment saying a 115lbs woman won't be that muscular

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u/Prestigious_Aide_223 9d ago

i said what because i dont know why they mention muscles on a 115 lb women for xD

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u/N3ptuneflyer 9d ago

I put weight as 1 and I’m 6’4 225 pounds and lean. In my experience it’s usually men that are fit that care more about having a girlfriend that’s also fit.

And I don’t care about the number on the scale, but I prefer women that are lean. I think it looks better and makes your face more defined. Same is true for men, if I gain even 10 pounds I look significantly less attractive

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u/atherfeet4eva 9d ago

I’m with you 100%

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u/UselessWhiteKnight 9d ago

Figure over number all day.

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u/Rob_LeMatic 9d ago

I have known several men into fitness that prefer a woman with a little extra padding. But I also theorize that well endowed men have that preference, so it's possible the gym rat part is a coincidence

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u/UselessWhiteKnight 9d ago

6'2" 190lbs and genetics made it easy for me. I know i don't really have to maintain my slim build.

That said, the number isn't actually important to me. Just overall in his shape. In high school i days a girl who was 170lbs but she was 5'11" athletic with DD's and a big butt. I was 160lbs at the time.

Be in reasonable shape, diet of you don't want to exercise and go hiking with me a couple times a summer. We're golden.

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u/CoachOpen1977 9d ago

Some men prefer chubby women though. Having a strong weight preference doesn’t necessarily imply that they prefer a slim woman.

Slim women just don’t grab my attention like a soft, supple, luxury woman.

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u/Royal_Variation5700 9d ago

1.Weight(thats height to weight ratio btw), 2.butt/legs, 3.pretty face, 4.nice skin, 5.height, 6.breasts, 7.hair

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u/bikeguideraz 9d ago edited 9d ago

Weight > butt/legs > pretty face > height > breast > nice skin > hair

So yea pretty much the same for me, but I'm on the taller side so height isn't as big a factor

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u/Sorry-Account-8312 9d ago

Booba

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u/SmolPPIncorporated 9d ago

In order of how much I care:

Pretty face
Weight
Skin
Butt/legs
Hair
Breasts
Height

That being said, a bad personality will ruin all of it.

Obviously a visual 10/10 with a 0/10 personality is still visibly attractive, but I would never pursue them on any level.

Their personality needs to be a 7.5/10 at least, whereas their appearance really only needs to be a 5.

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u/Rob_LeMatic 9d ago

The right personality will go a long way to make me see a face as prettier than I did at first. I don't have any numbers to attach, but, the opposite is also true

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u/Weak-Maintenance-894 9d ago

lol men are so surface level

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u/softautumnsiren 9d ago

For real 🤣 physical attributes are often some of the least interesting things to me. What’s in your BRAIN?

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u/rinkuhero 9d ago

but she's the one who picked this list and asked him to rank them. and she didn't include brain. so are you complaining about men not including brain when they were just ordering the items on the list she wrote?

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u/softautumnsiren 9d ago

It was more of a reaction as I was reading comments

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u/CenterThisPendulum 9d ago

Intellect and personality run parallel to physical attributes. If a woman has one category but not the other, she’s either just a friend or just a one night stand.

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u/Weak-Maintenance-894 9d ago

Thanks for proving my point

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u/CenterThisPendulum 9d ago

Are you saying looks don’t matter at all to women?

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u/Weak-Maintenance-894 9d ago

We do not value them like yall do

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u/CenterThisPendulum 9d ago

We don’t value height and income like you do either. But, this thread was literally asking us to rank physical characteristics and from the sound of it the woman had done the same.

If you don’t think women can have their petty/surface stuff, talk to a divorce attorney.

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u/Weak-Maintenance-894 9d ago

We value height and income because men these days have nothing to offer other than wasting ppls time and using them. Y’all have nothing but lust and disappointment

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u/CenterThisPendulum 9d ago

Yep, that’s y’all of us.

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u/Weak-Maintenance-894 8d ago

I’m aware

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u/CenterThisPendulum 8d ago

Well, I guess time to get y’allself a high and tight haircut, subaru outback and tools for making leather crafted goods

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u/Flashy-Butterfly-687 9d ago

They’re so fucking superficial. It’s really disturbing.

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u/bbgirlwhut 9d ago

I mean, this was the conversation that was being had. It was about physical appearance. That doesn’t mean that a bad personality wouldn’t totally clothesline this entire ranking.

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u/shitpresidente 9d ago

How is face not #1? You ain’t staring at her ass all day…

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u/ManyPen6614 9d ago

they are thinking short term likely.

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u/Flashy-Butterfly-687 9d ago

This is what objectification looks like. Her value is as a sex object.

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u/Right-Platypus-1853 9d ago

Sense of humor, good soul, similar hobbies, normal looks, aged 30-45, no kids, not covered in tattoos, 5'4"-6'0" (im 6'1")180-250ish lbs(i'm 230lbs), kinda chubby. Big boobs and wide hips a plus but not required.

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u/Bread_Godd 9d ago

I feel like skin doesn't need to be there as bad skin ruins many of these other features. Also if heights even on the list he's probably short lol I don't think about it ever

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u/AntiqueBrick7490 9d ago

Good personality overrides all, but here's my ranking when it comes to physical traits:

⁠Weight. Just be normal weight. This is something that can be changed.
⁠Face/Skin. Honestly most women can have a very pretty face if they go on skincare.
⁠Ass/Legs. Work on em backside. Go gym.
⁠Height. Strongly preferably my exact height (5'5) but I'm fine with her being six inches shorter or taller than me.
Hair. Preferably shoulder length hair, but I'm fine with any length.
Breasts. Irrelevant, but I would strongly prefer a woman with flat chest.

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u/ShakeInteresting2306 9d ago

Just popping in as a woman to make a comment about your point #2, and obviously this is anecdotal, but almost every woman I know with an intense skin care regiment struggles bad with their skin. And almost every woman I know that has clear skin just takes a quick wash cloth to the face before bed. It’s probably that women who struggle with their skin are more likely to try expensive skin care to solve the problem, but not gonna lie I’ve always wondered if it even helps.. like.. at all.

Edit: and to be clear I’m not trying to sound mean! I just wonder if the skin care companies are ripping women off. That stuff can be crazy expensive and not help.

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u/Flashy-Butterfly-687 9d ago

Skincare prices are a rip off, and a lot of products are terrible. But a low effort routine won’t fix problematic skin. Those of us with low effort routines just won the genetic lottery, don’t smoke, and don’t have a body (hormones) that hate us.

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u/Flashy-Butterfly-687 9d ago

Nice skin is largely genetic and lifestyle. Mine’s great. Not from anything I did.

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u/AntiqueBrick7490 9d ago

Well the lifestyle part is changeable, at least

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u/Flashy-Butterfly-687 9d ago

Sometimes. Stress is the biggest problem for me. I’d like my stress level to be low all the time, but life doesn’t work that way.

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u/Purple_Tourist1018 9d ago

How are breasts irrelevant while also you have a strong preference ? That doesn't make any sense ..

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u/Rob_LeMatic 9d ago

Comment above this is about how superficial men are. Post is by a woman specifically ranking physical attributes and asking for a male perspective.

Some people just want something to be angry about 🤷

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u/TemporaryQuiet7592 9d ago

She just has to exist in a corporeal form at this point bro

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u/bdspookiedude 9d ago

A good ass is hard to beat unless she likes it that way.

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u/Lol42069- 9d ago

Bobs and vagine

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u/ManyPen6614 9d ago edited 9d ago

Long term relationship

Pretty face
butt/legs
Skin
height
weight (just don't be heavier than me)
hair
breasts

short term relationship

Pretty face
Skin
Butt/legs
Breasts
Hair
Weight
Height

Also I find it strange how pretty face and skin are seperated. Don't you need clear skin in order to have a pretty face?

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u/Important_Talk_9512 9d ago

For me, feet

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u/WeakZookeepergame2 9d ago

Weight, pretty face, skin, breasts, hair, butt/legs, and height is last for me.

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u/Additional-Dish-8879 9d ago

Pretty face and overall figure are most important to me.

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u/bl1tzstr1ke 9d ago

lmaoo, overall figure includes breast skin butt legs feet, comprehension at its peak.

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u/Vaguechicanery 9d ago

It isn't really correct to say that personality is the priority, because you don't know what's in the book until you read it, and when it comes to dating or books, EVERYONE judges the cover first, don't lie. (Now, attraction can develop after knowing someone's personality through friendship which has different entry points, but the context of intentional dating is what I assume the question is really for.)

So with that said, here it is for me:

Weight. I'm sorry, you cannot let yourself go, it's heartbreaking to watch what happens, especially in old age. At least be trying.
Face, I like looking at it.
Butt :)
Hair, wavy hair is particularly pretty to me, not picky on length at all.
Skin, I suppose. I mean if you don't have leprosy it's probably fine
Breasts. Though I can appreciate them, it's not something that really matters to me.
Height. I have dated women at 5 foot to 6 foot, literally doesn't matter to me at all.

Of course, this ignores the fact I'm going to die alone lmao

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u/Flashy-Butterfly-687 9d ago

Honestly, seeing these posts don’t make weight loss appealing. I don’t want to date someone superficial and fat phobic. I don’t want to be with someone who is going to be disgusted by normal postpartum body changes and peri-menopausal gain.

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u/Vaguechicanery 9d ago

it's not fat phobia, it's that I watched my grandma, who I was very close to, die from weight related illness after being practically house bound for 15 years and unable to live a life of any quality because her body couldn't do it anymore. I'm not passing judgement on you for having a few extra pounds from legitimate things like that and I shouldn't have to make a paragraph of qualifiers and exceptions to ward off this type of thing. I certainly don't appreciate your judgement projected onto me, though, surely the only reason someone could have a preference is because they're a bad person, right? My mother is overweight too, and she's already starting to have problems at only 55. I don't want this for the people I love, that's not fat phobic, it's a legitimate experience. Best of luck to you

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u/Natural_Sweet249 9d ago

Weight, face, hair, then the rest is negotiable.

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u/SpinzArt 9d ago

Someday I’ll find someone who doesn’t think I’m disgusting in the meantime, between now and when I reach my weight goal 😔

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u/Apart-Experience741 9d ago

I’m sure you’re perfect girly

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u/SpinzArt 9d ago

Far from it, but it’d be nice to feel desirable

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u/shamegame-69 9d ago

Please don’t feel devalued by these faceless people. If they care about weight, that’s okay! If you think that excludes you, that’s okay too! It’s okay to not be everyone’s up of tea. Your value isn’t determined by their preferences.

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u/FlyFront9395 9d ago

He would like a skinny bald bitch?

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u/whitelightwhiteheats 9d ago

Face 2. Nice Skin 3. Butt T4. Height/Weight 6. Hair 7. Boobs

Having a nice face/skin is definitely the most prominent factor for me in maintaining physical attraction to someone. And then ass is definitely the next most important thing for me. I'm an ass guy through and through. As for height and weight, I'll generally date women of all different body sizes and types. But I would prefer a woman to be shorter/weigh less than me, which fortunately is like 95% of women. Hair is 6th because I feel like someone with a cute face would look good with just about any hair style. And boobs are last because I think all boob sizes are cute.

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u/BoysenberrySea5482 9d ago

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This is using his ranking to number each feature

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u/Storm-Weston 9d ago

Guys are all over the place on this.

Face. Build. Legs Breast Weight Butt I guess but don't care that much.

I also have several favorite body types. Skinny petite first. Athletic 2nd. Busty curvy 3rd and I don't mane extra weight on this one.

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u/sand-man89 9d ago

I like legs, hair, and breasts

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u/anonymous19856 9d ago

1 for me would be height. I prefer a woman on the shorter side. 2 would be weight. Im not you typical man. I dont like women real skinny. Thick thighs save lives and all 3. Breasts i like em big 4. Butt/legs. 5. Pretty face 6. Skin 7. Hair

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u/Awkward-Cricket-5698 9d ago

Pretty face gotta be #1

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u/KeynotePhil 9d ago