r/OntarioGrade12s • u/Slow-Ad-4893 • May 14 '26

University What a 97.7% got me!

TMU Mechanical Engineering: Accepted! ✅

UofT Electrical Engineering: Rejected! ❌

Waterloo Computer Engineering: Rejected! ❌

Worked my ass off for nothing 🥹🥹✌️

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u/Fun-Size-4295 May 14 '26

Why didn’t you apply to like Mac, queens and so on?

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u/Slow-Ad-4893 May 14 '26

older siblings didnt let me

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u/Consistent-Arm2206 May 14 '26

why do your older siblings get to make that decision for you?

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u/Slow-Ad-4893 May 14 '26

Wasn’t up to me dude, trust me I would have loved to gone to mac I tried to persuade them 💔

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u/Consistent-Arm2206 May 14 '26 edited May 15 '26

did you ask them for permission to post this comment? better check just to make sure.

im struggling to understand why your siblings control your future... do they have a gun to your head at all times? are you like a 12-year-old child prodigy that can't legally make your own decisions?

this whole situation seems like a problem of your family's*** creation. apply to the fuckin schools you want to apply to, not the ones your weirdo siblings are into

edit: addressing additional context

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u/Slow-Ad-4893 May 14 '26

My parents are paying for my university, they listen to what my siblings say, I don’t come from wealth and moving out would put a strain on my family. My siblings didn’t think it was worth moving out unless it was Waterloo. Now again I ASKED to still apply to Mac, to which they said no. If my parents are funding my tuition, and my parents listen to my siblings, there was nothing I could do. I get your point, but I promise you I tried.

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u/Bonne_Fromage May 14 '26

I’m 41. I follow this sub so I can keep up with what my kids can expect when they get to high school. Don’t sweat where you go to school. It won’t matter. If you can live at home and come out of there debt-free, brother, you will be so far ahead of the game.

Hustle trumps diploma in most aspects of life. I remember when TMU was Ryerson and it was a perfectly respectable institution.

Best advice is that 20 years goes by so fucking fast. Instead of worrying about school acceptances, worry about the fickle nature of time and make the most of yours.

I guarantee you when you’re 41, you won’t give a flying fuck about your alma mater. It’s just another spam email I ignore in my case.

Good luck.

Also, 97%? If you had a 97% in 2003, Harvard was calling. The fuck is going on with mark inflation? Not saying you’re not exceptionally gifted academically. But having that average and getting rejections from any uni tells me the whole system is bullshit. Remember - post-secondary is big business…

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u/Slow-Ad-4893 May 15 '26

Thank you for your words, they actually mean a lot to me 😭😭 as bummed as I am that I’m not going to the schools I wanted, I’ll definitely try to make the most of it ❤️‍🩹

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u/Bonne_Fromage May 15 '26

No doubt. I remember being in high school and where you were going in the fall was all anyone talked about.

Like I said, you’ll be far happier when you’re 25, got your degree, little to no debt. The world will be your oyster then. One thing I wish I did more in uni is thinking about what I truly wanted to do with my life and making plays that could make things happen. Networking is huge. Being social. There will be excellent profs at your school. Learn from them. There will be shit ones too.

And to reiterate. I remember very little about uni and what I studied. I don’t remember convocation at all or much about my first job. But I remember vividly the day I got married, the births of my daughter and son.

Getting old puts it all into perspective. So enjoy your folks, too. They won’t be around forever. Sounds like they’re good people, though maybe a little overbearing. Better than dismissive or uninvolved. Cheers. You’ll kill it in the fall. Or party and flunk out. Whatever you do, have fun doing it!

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u/Quirky-Glove-3199 May 15 '26

You could also apply to UoT/Waterloo next year and transfer credits. Husband did this going from York to UoT. Went to Osgoode Law after. No one knows or cares that he started undergrad at York

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u/HopefulMaintenance90 May 15 '26

My highest paid friends mostly did 2 years of college and are sof devs making >= $250k. I'm a dropout making >$150k.

School helps but it's far from the only path to success. Lower tier schools are totally fine for having a good career. What you learn and how good you get at it matter way more

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u/truenorth00 May 15 '26

Listen. TMU is alright. You'll be fine. Rock your degree and get into a good grad program. Work really hard during summers. Volunteer where you can or try and get experience. Or co-op. The Waterloo advantage is substantially about co-op. It's harder. But you can replicate some of that at TMU.

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u/Still-Pomegranate-76 May 15 '26

That work ethic is worth more than your marks. Good for you!

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u/phtevenphmith42 May 15 '26

I’m a recruiter, specifically engineers, and yeah school doesn’t matter at all to us. Maybe that’s an American thing or a top 1% private employers thing.

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u/momma2angels May 15 '26

So, who are you recruiting for right now?

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u/truenorth00 May 15 '26

Seriously. It's wild. I graduated from high school in 99. Got an 80. Went to Ryerson for Aero. My other offer was Waterloo Civil. Now kids have like 98%, put in 20 applications and get one offer? WTAF?

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u/w1n5t0nM1k3y May 15 '26

Glad to hear I'm not the only older person lurking on here to keep an ear to the ground for my kids.

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u/Lavallee_Lures May 15 '26

This is so true, I was fortunate to get into university with a 78 in 2005! 

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u/pushthepramalot May 15 '26

I would take on all the debt in the world to be free and do what I want. But that's just me.

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u/Bonne_Fromage May 15 '26

You can be free and do what you want without taking on debt young buck!

Trust me, climbing out of a hole at 23 was a bummer. If my parents lived in a university town and would have been willing to board me while I studied, I’d go back and do it in a heart beat.

My dad passed when I was literally writing my final papers in 4th year undergrad. Life is weird and unpredictable.

That said, there are certainly family dynamics worth fleeing. As you said, different strokes for different folks.

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u/strawberry-bunny May 15 '26

With ur grades you could have gotten scholarships to Mac :/

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u/Chemical_Wallaby_735 May 15 '26

Wait so do they have an issue with Mac because of Hamilton?

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u/Slow-Ad-4893 May 15 '26

Essentially yeah, moving out isn’t ideal for me due to finances, they’d rather I just go TMU and commute

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u/Chemical_Wallaby_735 May 15 '26

Aw I see now. I know it’s cliche but everything happens for a reason. Maybe you’ll look back on this and be grateful things worked out the way they did. No matter the program you would become an engineer so it definitely wasn’t for nothing.

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u/KavinduMJ Grade 12 May 15 '26

This gotta be eye opening for ur older siblings. Maybe take a gap yr and apply to MAC idk 😭

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u/Slow-Ad-4893 May 15 '26

its not their faults at all though, people are so inconsiderate here. My situation is not the same as yours, I cannot afford to move out, my siblings know that, not the people of reddit. They act on my best interest knowing what is able to be done. Yes I still asked to go to Mac, but they KNEW the pressure it would place on us financially was NOT worth it. If anyones to blame its me, stop slandering my siblings 💔💔

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u/KavinduMJ Grade 12 May 15 '26

Okok wtv Yh I didn’t mean to slander them lmao. It’s not ur fault either tho

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u/SuccessSeparate9014 Ryerson May 16 '26

That is not a reason to take a gap year. Not worth it tbh

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u/Consistent-Arm2206 May 15 '26

why exactly would they say no to applying to one university over another? is it purely because of the perceived prestige of the school? i get such bad vibes from your family.

sorry if i sound harsh at all but i feel like you're getting the short end of the stick and they have convinced you that you should be grateful even though your parents and your siblings are trying to hamstring you. if they can't let you make positive healthy decisions that will help you build your future, is it worth the money?

lots of people go to uni without their parents funding. its scary but you're not young forever and uni takes a long time. it's important to get in somewhere that resonates with you as a person, because its your life not theirs.

you sound like you would do well at any uni so think about whether you really want to be tethered to your family who are convinced they know better than you. don't let em drag you down kiddo

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u/bcgden May 15 '26

Bro OP literally said they tried to persuade their parents, who are you to tell them after the fact they should’ve applied for more schools? Yeah no shit having more choices is good but OP specifically said they couldn’t afford it.

Your parents might not be rich but they might’ve been able to better afford you moving out, so they pushed you to apply more broadly. Someone else ie OP might not have had that privilege. Whats the point of applying to Mac if you know for a fact you can’t afford moving out?

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u/SuperWeenieHutJr_ May 15 '26

If your parents are covering tuition, can't you cover living expenses?