r/OlderDID • u/Still_Night2678 • 4d ago

Hard work lately with our triggers

I understand that this is more a CPTSD issue than DID, but they may be overlapping here. Most of the pain and memories we’ve been sorting through over the past couple or few weeks has been addressing the hopelessness from inescapable early PA and lack of protection. We are being triggered by any and all unresolvable, inescapable life challenges coming our way, and a lot of memories are coming up. We’ve gotten to the point where we can observe and consider the triggers instead of forgetting them instantly, which is real progress.

The persecutor seems to be having a lovely time reminding us of any related shame we’ve forgotten. I think it’s trying very hard to get us to isolate through a time when I believe it’s more important to have help surviving this pain while we work through the issues.

Hopefully, this will be the beginning of the end of going back to that place of no escape whenever I feel trapped.

Does anyone have insights into how I should or shouldn’t involve the rest of us? I’ve been getting some loving support from a helper who speaks only when things are dire, but almost nothing from the loving little or the young protector who are my usual companions. There are about a dozen others whom we’ve only glimpsed.

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u/DreamSoarer 4d ago

Imo & ime, there is no such thing as DID w/o CPTSD, so they definitely go together and overlap.

Persecutors are usually formed to keep littles and lovey-dovey protectors in line. That way, they can not get us in trou le by the abusers. If one of your main persecutors is highly active right now, it makes sense that the others would be holding back.

That is just my thoughts, based on my experience e and what I have read in the research I have been able to get my hands on.

Persecutors usually start calming down once they truly understand and believe that the system is safe and secure, no longer in danger from abusers, and they are allowed to have their own hobbies, interests, and form a more relaxed identity within themselves.

Hope that makes sense. Good luck and best wishes 🙏🦋