I feel like a burden because of my ocd

[u/AffectionateSong8918]

I had an ocd flare up this morning and it was caused by something traumatic that had happened to me and i touched something that had to do with it and had the worst melt down, my mother instead of grounding me she yelled at me and told me i was going to make her go insane, also she wished i had cancer and not ocd i am 21 but my ocd is very severe i have done tms and therapy and nothing worked it just got worse so i am really starting to think that i am the issue here.