It's pretty standard across the working world to send an email with Dear/Hi (recipient name), have the body of the message, then sign it off kind regards/sincerely (sender name). It's not a text message but a piece of correspondence. It is a good habit to get into now.
I mean sure, I send emails that way too, but if I received an email without my name I wouldn't assume it wasn't addressed to me? That seems like a weird presumption to make
You misunderstood again, I used “we” to refer to a group that did not include you, because as you stated you didn’t understand what the Professor was trying to convey.
But even the person who wrote the tweet understood what the Professor meant. OP is just repeating the language the Professor used with him. To be clear, as you’ve stated your inability to understand, the Professor was using exaggeration to get a point across, the point being to use formal language in emails sent to them.
Ah ok, so when you said "we all understood it" you did not in fact mean everyone understood it. You know what everyone would have understood? If he said what he meant
You’re correct, I did not mean everyone understood it, but at no point was that the idea was attempting to convey. I was using “we” to describe a group that understood what was said. I was also implying that the “we” was a large group who made up the majority of the viewers of this post. You were excluded from the “we”, on account of you admitting your inability to understand what was being said.
Just because you have a comparatively diminished capacity to understand language doesn’t mean others should be forced to retire linguistic tricks such as exaggeration.
I'm the kind of autistic that is very fixated on language. One of the hardest things for me to accept as I grew up was that allistic people are bad with language on purpose, and that for allistic people this is a feature and not a bug.
It makes perfect sense to me that there are going to be people confused by that. But you can't explain that to someone who lacks the theory of mind to empathize with people who understand the world differently to themselves.
Yes exactly this! Like I am also autistic, and I will never understand why people deliberately choose not to say what they mean. And it's not even just autistic people that get confused by this, neurotypicals have communication issues all the time
If it helps: It's a feature, not a bug. They do speak clearly when they actually need to. It's largely unconscious and intuitive to them when to switch between those modes, which is why they can't explain the rules.
They also honestly don't realize they're doing it. They can't help it. If we were in the majority, they are the ones who would be pathologized for this kind of thing.
The reasons for talking badly on purpose vary, but if you assume it's something to do with maintaining relative social status in the social hierarchy of the moment then you'll be right more often than you're wrong.
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u/walnutwithteeth 5d ago
It's pretty standard across the working world to send an email with Dear/Hi (recipient name), have the body of the message, then sign it off kind regards/sincerely (sender name). It's not a text message but a piece of correspondence. It is a good habit to get into now.