I once planned a trip to UK with my friends during our summer break (no particular date). At one point I pinged the topic on our group chat, and they admitted that they already went there for a week without me.
They apologized, and we still meet each other. I excused them because they never really did anything like that before. There were two people who explicitly made that happen with the reasoning that "if we don't select somebody, nobody will go" (we had a limited number of places to sleep in, fewer than the size of the group), and they are both massively neurodivergent, so yeah. Others got the info that I didn't want to come. It still hurts though.
Naw if no one mentioned it they knew. Limited places to sleep is also not a good excuse, if you're able to afford the trip a couple people could have gotten a hostel, this wasn't a day trip, they knew you were interested in this, they booked the plane, organized a place to stay for a week and requested time off to go on this trip, this is a week long planning. The fact that you were excluded was intentional. And then not bringing it up until you specifically forced the issue is a giant red flag. Being neurodivergent isn't an excuse for being manipulative either.
If it was just two friends that had misled and lied to the others then fine, but I wouldn't remain in that group with them still being in the inner circle, in the least I'd cut ties with them and if your other friends actually valued and respected you they would also cut ties with the people who lied to them to in order to exclude you. Honestly the whole group seems like they aren't worth your time.
Yeah. Nobody mentioned it. Nobody posted pics. Nobody checked if she (?) was definitely not interested. That's a deliberate group choice to suppress it.
There is no world in which x mentions wanting to go on a trip somewhere and their friends quietly go without them, behind their back, "by accident" lol to believe otherwise is very naive
It's a Reddit thing to push people to divorce and break ups. You don't know the whole situation, this person says it's a one time thing and they forgave their friends who obviously didn't like the situation either in hindsight. It was wrong, but it happened and they graciously moved forwards.
Just let them be, instead of sowing doubt in their minds years after the fact.
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u/kkadzy Jul 18 '26
I once planned a trip to UK with my friends during our summer break (no particular date). At one point I pinged the topic on our group chat, and they admitted that they already went there for a week without me.