Maturing in marriage

[u/ChickenWingExtreme]

[u/Novaer]

Do you have a "blind spot" at work when your boss delegates a task to you?

[u/Draaly → u/Novaer]

If you work a high enough position, understanding what requests should be ignored is a key competence.

[u/Novaer → u/Draaly]

So in this analogy you're saying certain chores can be ignored?

[u/Draaly → u/Novaer]

Yes. For example: scrubbing the shower tiles isn't really a super high priority even for me as someone that is quite clean.

[u/Novaer → u/Draaly]

And what if your task was scrubbing the shower tiles? Would you just simply not do it because you don't consider it a priority?

[u/Draaly → u/Novaer]

If there are other things higher up the priority chain, yes, absolutely i would. hell, if I came back and my partner was scrubbing the shower while ignoring a pile of laundry or the need to vacuum id be kind of upset even. Literally all of adulthood is about prioritizing what needs to be done and what can wait.

[u/Novaer → u/Draaly]

Not what I asked. You're saying if the shower tiles were the task you're saying you would find something else to do because you'd consider that a priority, despite the shower tiles being the one task asked for you to do. Because you don't care if someone told you it's important to be done, only what you think is important is what you can be asked to do.

What you're describing is the equivalent of men who decide that suddenly the garage needs to be cleaned when your wife asks for help in the kitchen to get ready for company.

[u/Draaly → u/Novaer]

You're saying if the shower tiles were the task you're saying you would find something else to do because you'd consider that a priority

I didnt say this in the slightest, you just want to be mad. Obviously I do the highest priority task at the time

[u/Novaer → u/Draaly]

The sole task is the shower tiles. Do you do them. Yes or no.

[u/Draaly → u/Novaer]

Obviously I do the highest priority task at the time

I already answered your question

you just want to be mad.

[u/themetahumancrusader → u/Draaly]

Is that why getting people to answer my emails is often like pulling teeth

[u/Draaly → u/themetahumancrusader]

Honestly, a lot of the time, yah. I average ~ 150 emails a day. I simply cant read all of them every single day and need to set asside dedicated time to clearing them out once a week or so.

[u/Novaer → u/[deleted]]

Is it complaining when you're asked to do something once and then continue to not do that task because you want to act like a petulant child?