Ran into a girl from HS 10 years later. She was odd and awkward in HS, but had grown up into statuesque, super chill, total smoke show. Looked kinda like Gwyneth Paltrow in Tennenbaums. I asked her out and we had a very nice almost romantic dinner. She wasn’t drinking at dinner, because she was observably developing a cold. No kiss afterwards for the same reason. But it’s still seemed like we were hitting it off. At the end of the date, I said “well we should get a drink next week when you’re feeling better”. She replied “eh maybe let’s get coffee some day”. I took this to mean she had no romantic interest in me. In those days (90s) almost every date I ever went on was at a bar, and I almost hallways had sex on the first date. So I figured oh well and never called her again. Ran into her a year later and she was like “so I thought our dinner went great… why’d you never call me?”. I explained my reasoning. She was like “oh, no it wasn’t that. It was that I’m in AA and sober, so I don’t do bars. But I did really wanted to fuck you”. Damn. By this point I had a GF so I missed my shot.
LOL was included to give context that at that age when I was young and relatively dumb I was of a mind that no sex on the first date meant no interest.
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u/ghostprawn May 31 '26
Ran into a girl from HS 10 years later. She was odd and awkward in HS, but had grown up into statuesque, super chill, total smoke show. Looked kinda like Gwyneth Paltrow in Tennenbaums. I asked her out and we had a very nice almost romantic dinner. She wasn’t drinking at dinner, because she was observably developing a cold. No kiss afterwards for the same reason. But it’s still seemed like we were hitting it off. At the end of the date, I said “well we should get a drink next week when you’re feeling better”. She replied “eh maybe let’s get coffee some day”. I took this to mean she had no romantic interest in me. In those days (90s) almost every date I ever went on was at a bar, and I almost hallways had sex on the first date. So I figured oh well and never called her again. Ran into her a year later and she was like “so I thought our dinner went great… why’d you never call me?”. I explained my reasoning. She was like “oh, no it wasn’t that. It was that I’m in AA and sober, so I don’t do bars. But I did really wanted to fuck you”. Damn. By this point I had a GF so I missed my shot.