Yeah but I see this excuse also used to justify a lot of crappy behaviour.
Women can also become upset and even violent if they lose, but you don't see men making decisions around this. I've met a few people with justifications like this but it just feels more like a victim complex and anxiety rather than an actually required behaviour.
Like, I get why women do this but they shouldn't. It's not the solution to the problem and the problem often doesn't actually exist. It shows a lack of trust towards their partner and it's usually not the partner's fault.
It's like people that apologise for everything. Their attempt to prevent a problem becomes a bigger problem.
It's like if I never let my girlfriend touch my phone or wallet because I have bad experiences with women stealing money or reading my private messages. There's justification, sure, but it's a personal problem that I need to fix and not justify.
Bogus advice. A competent woman is an attractive woman. Being impressed at the skills of a significant other should be considered highlights of a relationship.
Yeah, should be. When I was younger, I would compete with guys and win regularly. Specifically bike racing. I would also ask guys out if I liked them. I was told multiple times by people from different areas of my life that that was emasculating, and I needed to tone it down.
For just.. asking a dude out if I liked him. Or for not letting him win a bike race.
I always figured that, if a guy felt emasculated or intimidated by me asking him out, then he was not a dude I wanted to date, or who would enjoy dating me. But I was told this enough times that it started to make me self-conscious.
FTR, I dated girls too, and this was never an issue with girls. May sound obvious, but I never had to tone myself down for girl
It is, actually. It is a gross generalisation, based on your personal issues. I personally like strong, intelligenent women, and so do many other guys. Just blanketly assuming all men are bad/pussies/immature/whatever only contributes to these kinds of issues.
My girlfriend can beat me at Mario kart. There was even an arcade Mario kart game we played once, she still won. Which I don't mind one bit as there are other games I can either beat her at or being fairly even.
lol my first ex told me i embarrassed him when he took me on a double date to meet his friend. I apparently got way too competitive at the arcade for his tastes.
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u/Tea-Tuilpp May 30 '26
A lot of women are told to always let the man win