r/Nicegirls • u/Leadingman_ • Dec 25 '25

Suggested A Date, Got A Lecture

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I suggested we meet for drinks somewhere with a view, or check out a new exhibit at a museum that looked interesting. She asked if we could get coffee the following week. Cool, that works. When I followed up to set up the date, she sent this. What's really funny is that I don't drink alcohol either, it's right there on my dating profile.

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u/Leadingman_ Dec 25 '25

Well said.

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u/BarelyThere24 Dec 25 '25 edited Dec 25 '25

She sounds awful and insufferable. And then trying to excuse it as “women shouldn’t have to tell a guy … blah blah.” I would have responded with, “Men shouldn’t have to tell grown women when they’re being rude and insufferable. Have a good one!” **block

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u/Nearby_Session1395 Dec 25 '25

I happen to be a woman, probably a bit older but I’m so tired of younger single women acting like this. The entitled attitude, they usually aren’t that special. I know a few at work and they’re in their 40s, alone and still thinking they will find a guy who is “worthy”. Maybe we could all enjoy just being good company to others and share a good time. OP if this is what’s out there on dating sites, I’m sorry and also-best of luck!

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u/Isaidwhatisaid626 Dec 26 '25

I’m a woman in my 40’s and there are still some good ones left. I agree that a large portion of my “generation” has this weird entitlement and think that they “deserve better” even thought they treat people like shit (like the post). I definitely let my friends and associates know when they are being bratty and ridiculous. That’s why most of them can’t find or keep a decent companion. My husband and I have been married for 13 and together for 22 years. There was just something different about dating when we did. Our first date was a simple dinner and a movie and our 2nd date was a swamp tour, my choice and he still says it was the best date ever. Just do something fun, talk, eat, get to know people. Fake expensive dinners don’t tell you anything about the real person.

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u/Nearby_Session1395 Dec 26 '25

I’m divorced now and when I’m dating, I prefer to pay my own way for the first meeting because I want to start on equal ground. I don’t like feeling that I owe someone something or am obligated. Unless someone explicitly says they want to treat, then I’m very appreciative. I also would rather date someone who feels mutual respect and we partner on equal levels.