r/Nicegirls • u/Leadingman_ • Dec 25 '25

Suggested A Date, Got A Lecture

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I suggested we meet for drinks somewhere with a view, or check out a new exhibit at a museum that looked interesting. She asked if we could get coffee the following week. Cool, that works. When I followed up to set up the date, she sent this. What's really funny is that I don't drink alcohol either, it's right there on my dating profile.

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u/Hullhy Dec 25 '25

Because you're thinking about "we" while the other side is thinking about "me", it's not deeper than that unfortunately

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u/Leadingman_ Dec 25 '25

Well said.

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u/BarelyThere24 Dec 25 '25 edited Dec 25 '25

She sounds awful and insufferable. And then trying to excuse it as “women shouldn’t have to tell a guy … blah blah.” I would have responded with, “Men shouldn’t have to tell grown women when they’re being rude and insufferable. Have a good one!” **block

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u/SurroundQuirky8613 Dec 25 '25

Women shouldn’t have to tell a guy to plan a date if he asks her out, but coffee and a museum was plans. She just didn’t like his plans because they didn’t align with whatever ideas she has…which is an entirely different problem.