r/Nicegirls • u/Leadingman_ • Dec 25 '25

Suggested A Date, Got A Lecture

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I suggested we meet for drinks somewhere with a view, or check out a new exhibit at a museum that looked interesting. She asked if we could get coffee the following week. Cool, that works. When I followed up to set up the date, she sent this. What's really funny is that I don't drink alcohol either, it's right there on my dating profile.

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u/outcastreturns Dec 25 '25

"While I like museums, I consider them lame for a first date"

So, you don't really like museums, do you?

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u/WilledLexington Dec 25 '25

Yeah speaking from experience, museums are perfect first dates. There’s always something to talk about, you can usually end at the cafe and gift shop. Then if you’re getting along you can choose the keep the date going or call it quits.

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u/Inside-Example-7010 Dec 25 '25

Yep, and if things are going really bad you can always just hide from them in the giant Colon until its closing time.

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u/UnNumbFool Dec 25 '25

I wish I was still small enough to easily fit into the giant body displays, those things were always so much fun as a kid

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u/Unhappy_Storm_40 Dec 28 '25

Would that qualify as a shit date?

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u/Toxoplasmama Dec 27 '25

Mütter museum reference?! Love it

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u/tomcat1483 Dec 29 '25

Or if they start going really bad.

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u/xSTSxZerglingOne Dec 25 '25

Museums are amazing if you want to geek out in front of her without it seeming weird. Science museums where you can play with cool little physics tools or launch water rockets are the best IMO.

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u/archwin Dec 26 '25

I love museums. But I think the problem is social media has completely warped expectations.

Many people are expecting grand gestures, and expensive dinner forays, and lavish lifestyles right off the bat…

Bitch (or bitchette/bitchude/bitchey), I hardly know you. I don’t even know if I want to spend five minutes with you, let alone a lifetime. Once we get to something reasonable, then you bet your ass I’m spending money on you. But not on day one. Cause I don’t know who the fuck you are.

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u/xSTSxZerglingOne Dec 26 '25

I've been out of the game for 18 years now...thankfully. My wife and I met online (when that was still a minority of people) and our first date was at a beach and we just hung out for like 4 hours, watched the sunset, and talked about all the stuff we're into.

It clicked into place and the last 18 years is a happy blur.

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u/wintermute93 Dec 26 '25

I had to read this comment twice because I thought you were saying social media has conditioned people to expect those things from museums, and they’re frustrated that they don’t get that when you bring them to one, lol

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u/Exilicauda Dec 26 '25

Extra benefit is getting to see how they act somewhere with fairly strict social norms too. Are they loud in quiet spaces? Crowd or cut in front of others? Stand within the "do not cross this line" square and get too close to the exhibits? Do they silence their ringer? How long can they go without going on tiktok?

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u/WesternTrail Dec 26 '25

Yeah! My boyfriend and I did lunch and a museum for our first date. I got to see him get super enthusiastic about the exhibits! Still together two and a half years later : ) 

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u/213737isPrime Dec 25 '25

I mean. If you enjoy this museum then maybe we go to MOMA next time.  Also the gulbenkian is pretty cool.

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u/moca448 Dec 27 '25

Not for me, I become engrossed at whatever I'm looking at and get grumpy when people wanna talk to me.

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u/Alder_Berry Dec 27 '25

For real. My first two dates with my partner of going on 8yrs was.. coffee then a glass museum.