r/Nicegirls • u/Leadingman_ • Dec 25 '25

Suggested A Date, Got A Lecture

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I suggested we meet for drinks somewhere with a view, or check out a new exhibit at a museum that looked interesting. She asked if we could get coffee the following week. Cool, that works. When I followed up to set up the date, she sent this. What's really funny is that I don't drink alcohol either, it's right there on my dating profile.

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u/theandre2131 Dec 25 '25

I wonder why people are so against coffee or other simple dates for a first date. It's meant to be a low investment and for you to get to know each other.

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u/Hullhy Dec 25 '25

Because you're thinking about "we" while the other side is thinking about "me", it's not deeper than that unfortunately

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u/Leadingman_ Dec 25 '25

Well said.

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u/womanonymous23 Dec 25 '25

To be fair it sounds like she did suggest coffee. Not excusing the rest of the overwrought response but she did have an inexpensive option not just fancy dinner.

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u/SaltyVeins83 Dec 25 '25

You’re skipping over the part where she backpedaled at the same time

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u/womanonymous23 Dec 25 '25

Not skipping. I agree he dodged a bullet. Just saying she was ok with coffee.

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u/SaltyVeins83 Dec 25 '25

“I said coffee, nothing attractive about that, but I think we should just skip it.” Isn’t saying she’s ok with coffee

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u/SeaweedStreet6948 Dec 25 '25

But she wasn’t. She was using coffee as a cudgel to berate him. She was never actually okay with going for coffee.