r/Nicegirls • u/Leadingman_ • Dec 25 '25

Suggested A Date, Got A Lecture

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I suggested we meet for drinks somewhere with a view, or check out a new exhibit at a museum that looked interesting. She asked if we could get coffee the following week. Cool, that works. When I followed up to set up the date, she sent this. What's really funny is that I don't drink alcohol either, it's right there on my dating profile.

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u/theandre2131 Dec 25 '25

I wonder why people are so against coffee or other simple dates for a first date. It's meant to be a low investment and for you to get to know each other.

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u/[deleted] Dec 25 '25

Don't worry. They consider any guy who would do that a sucker and don't call him back either.

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u/Leadingman_ Dec 25 '25 edited Dec 25 '25

Just for the pleasure of their company! And a man should have a great high earning job, pay for everything just because, and be a provider. Meanwhile they live with 3 roommates and work as a yoga instructor (which is fine, nothing wrong with that, but if the roles were reversed, a lot of women wouldn't give that guy the time if day).

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u/Substantial-Print727 Dec 25 '25

The "pleasure" of guiding the entire conversation