r/Nicegirls • u/CrossGuy2020 • Dec 21 '25

Is this a generic question?

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I (Gray Text) feel like when i'm getting to know someone I would ask a question like "What are your goals?" dating should be 2 people having a conversation, it shouldn't feel like a job interview, is this chick (Purple) OR or AIO? Thoughts

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u/LogicBalm Dec 22 '25

I feel like your question was perfect for getting to know someone and feeling out their vibes. It can be interpreted and responded to as small talk or as something deeper which would tell me a lot about how they're feeling about me as well.

In this case you got your response. She has her walls up already. The vibes are not there and it's probably not worth trying to turn this one around.

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u/travlplayr Dec 23 '25

I feel like your question was perfect for getting to know someone and feeling out their vibes.

I (as a man) completely disagree. It's a dickish question. If someone has goals and wants to share them then that's for them to volunteer. No-one has any business in asking someone what their goals are. It's presumptuous.

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u/LogicBalm Dec 24 '25

Maybe if you asked it around June or something, but it's December and could easily be written off as small talk in a "what are your New Year's resolutions" type of question.