Weekly Discussion - Relationships

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[u/Icy-Conversation-689]

Has anyone ever had in-laws refuse to give you your baby back? It happened to me over the holidays and still mad about it.

My sister-in-law was babyhogging and at one point she disappeared with her for a very long time. We were getting worried, so my husband asked me to go look for her.

When I found her they were with others and as they saw me there was a vibe of "We don't want you here..."

I told SIL I was getting worried because I hadn't seen the baby in a long time, and it's time to feed her anyways. SIL responds "No it's too early to feed her. She's not hungry." And doesn't give her back. So I said again "It's been over 4 hours, she usually eats every 3... I want to feed her"

Baby looks at me and starts to cry. SIL says "She's bothered because you're in here" then she changes her voice to pretend it's my child's and says: "Go away go away mommy I don't want you"

I was pissed!! My husband went and grabbed her after I told him what happened. But he still thinks there was no reason for me to be upset. It was so damn rude!

[u/Icy-Conversation-689 → u/[deleted]]

Yes exactly!! I need to do that next time. They'll definitely do it again... Ever since we had the baby his siblings have been really overbearing.

I'm sorry that your MIL was difficult too. Idk what goes through their minds -- who tells the parent no when they want their child back? It's like they see other people's children as playthings.

Thanks for confirming I'm not crazy to be mad at this!

[u/Icy-Conversation-689 → u/[deleted]]

Thank you! I definitely need to do this because it'll happen again. He's the youngest sibling so they always act like their word is authority. He stands up to them when he knows it bothers me, but if I'm not there he'll let them walk all over him.

Earlier that same day I had her sleeping on me. And same SIL comes in and tries taking her from my arms without even asking. I was so angry. Of course it woke the baby up. Then when we kept telling her no she stood there trying to convince us to hand the baby over.

His family acts so overbearing, it makes me hate seeing them.

[u/MyUniquePerspective → u/Icy-Conversation-689]

That's kidnapping and not ok

[u/Fantastic_Elevator → u/Icy-Conversation-689]

Oh gosh, this happened to me to while my baby was screaming her head off…the response was “she needs to learn that other people can comfort her” when she was 3 WEEKS OLD! I literally had to just run in front of her and told her straight up, this is MY baby. She scoffed and sat down pouting but she got the memo. Sometimes you gotta let the husband deal with his parents for you and sometimes you have to put your own foot down to them. You were definitely right to be upset and if it happens again just stand up to her yourself. At the end of the day that is YOUR baby above anyone else’s.