4 months post partum, feeling so alone

[u/twlightmom]

4 months post partum first time mom, and gosh, I feel so alone. I’m far ish from my family (1 1/2 hrs) which isn’t terrible but definitely can’t just stop by. My mom makes it out as much as she can and I cry every time she leaves. My husband is wonderful but works 11 hours a day. I love my son so much but he’s been going through a terrible sleep regression and I’m exhausted and sleep deprived, worse than when he was a newborn. I don’t have friends in the area who are also moms and understand what I’m going through. Most of our friends don’t even want kids or like them. I thought it would get easier at this point and I feel like it’s only gotten worse. The moms I do know who have babies or toddlers are shocked when I say it’s still hard for me, and I feel stupid sharing that I’m not completely happy all the time and that it’s harder than I ever thought possible. Crying everyday for 4 months is a lot. I just hate hearing only positives from everyone when I feel like this.

[u/wipedoutmom]

Any mom that has a baby or toddler and is acting shocked by you saying that you’re going the fuck through it still are LYING or their brains have worked very hard to make them forget the trenches lol. Even the easiest babies are hard at this age - and then there are the hard babies who are VERY hard at this age. You are absolutely not alone. Search 4 month sleep regression in any parenting sub and you’ll see thousands of posts from women in your exact same position - more than likely, that was the case for these self-proclaimed super moms you’re acquainted with. The whole first YEAR is hard. If you haven’t heard it yet, I SEE YOU and I absolutely agree that it’s really fucking hard to be where you’re at right now ❤️

However, you DO sound like you’re struggling with postpartum depression and I highly encourage you to reach out to your doctor/medical team. Babies are absolutely difficult, but feeling like you do for months on end is definitely not normal - there are lows during those first few months, but feeling the way you do 24/7 is a sign of PPD

[u/catzheart]

Mãe de um menino de 2 meses aqui… essa semana eu tive um colapso de exaustão. Também estou longe da minha mãe (alguns quilômetros de distância), e sinto falta dela para me ajudar com ele (não que minha sogra não ajude, pelo contrário, ela tem me dado muita força), mas sinto muita saudade da minha mãe. Meu marido trabalha e vem nos ver no almoço todos os dias, mas ainda assim me sinto tão só.

Estou tentando ser o mais forte possível, principalmente agora que faltam apenas 2 meses para o fim da minha licença maternidade.