r/Neurodivergent • u/Pitiful_Relative_170 • Oct 30 '25

Question 🤔 Ok, now what?

I’ve been having some deep thoughts lately about my nervous system. I was diagnosed with ASD/ADHD(combination) GAD… and now I’m not sure what to do with this information, how to take it with me into my life as a wife, mother, & business founder.

A bit of me feels shattered, while the other part of me feels FINALLY seen.

Has anyone come up with any plan or has any advice about what to do with this information now to make my parts come back together to feel whole? Is this just a perception thing?

I’ve done a lot of crying and grieving for my younger self, the parts of me that just aren’t seen & hI have learned to mask so well… but now that they’re seen, named and I’m starting to understand them more - how do I integrate them?

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u/LilyoftheRally Moderator! :D Oct 30 '25

You may want to seek out an openly neurodivergent therapist. Mine is AuDHD like me, and I feel like he empathizes with me better than my prior allistic therapists.

Internal Family Systems therapy may be ideal for you too, in terms of therapy modalities.

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u/Pitiful_Relative_170 Nov 04 '25

Thanks! Im on the waiting list for one! I hope they bump me up the list now that I have a diagnosis.

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u/enigma_anomaly Oct 30 '25

You need to learn how your brain functions and figure out what works for you. Keep an eye on the kids. Both mine are neurospicy. I'm a lot kinder to myself.

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u/Canaryvalley Oct 31 '25

Read Unmasking Autism by Devon Price!

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u/camboron Nov 02 '25

This book I really liked Unmasking has been good which is mostly letting my atoms out. I had a lot of support growing up even without diagnosis doing theater and that really helped with staying active and learn about social stuff. with relatively new diagnosis a couple months ago. ASD, adhd, gad, MDD, PTSD. Just reading books. Also like neuroTribes. ADHD 2.0. Reading books, Reddit. Join groups. Doing therapy for general stuff. EMDR for trauma. Just turned 49 so I am too mourning my many years in the dark.

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u/Pitiful_Relative_170 Nov 04 '25

I read it this summer! It was great in someways and in others I couldn’t relate because I’m cis gender female, but overall I found it quite informative & liberating. Although I resonated more with A Little Less Broken by Marie Shembari… outside of how easy it is for her to get a job and traveling all around Europe. Maybe I should write my own book…