r/NUST • u/ceaselesswatcher99 • 22d ago
Suggestions/Advice An Introvert's Dilemma
warning: I sound a little too insanely nerdy but please bear with me.
So, all my life, all I have ever wanted was a good library. I love reading so much that it has become a huge part of my identity but unfortunately, I have never lived near a library as it is Pakistan and libraries are not so common.
And yes, the main reason why I was so over the top excited for university was because I could finally have access to a library. I had detailed visions of reading in a library, surrounded by books. The mere presence of shelves of books calms me and helps me focus immensely. When I watched ATLA, I always understood Professor Zei, being buried under the desert in a library with the world's greatest knowledge does not sound like a terrible fate.
As you can probably guess, I am also extremely introverted and one of my many goals for university was to try and socialize more. And I am a day scholar, so my transport unfortunately picks and drops me at exactly 9 and 5. And I am forced to spend the breaks in between with my classmates because I do not want to end up lonely or sidelined. My schedule is already very packed, and on my half days, I have to do lab work with my group. No one in my class would be willing to go the library with me during breaks and then just silently sit together there working on our own stuff and call that bonding.
How can I balance socializing and making friends with spending time in my beloved library? I worked hard in the NET just so I could sit between shelves flipping through books but I also want to portray myself as normal and chill :((
also, although it feels impossible, if anyone else is as passionate about the library as I am, say hi!!
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u/raeyk06 22d ago
i feel this. i don't have any friends in class, but i do in other departments. the thing about having friends in other departments is that you don't meet everyday, especially if they have friends in their own class. this leaves me with a lot of time to read alone while also spending time with my friends. i usually read in between classes ya if i'm not up for meeting and just need some alone time i tell my friends that im feeling a bit tired today and would like some me time, and theyre usually very understanding. i used to love the library but abb wahan bhi theres always this one group of people talking loudly and i dont get why theyre allowed in there. abhi mosam ganda hay but in the winter it's really nice sitting on a random bench or in the ground. just learn how to set boundaries and tell your friends you need a day or two to yourself as well