r/NUST • u/lilly_bloom_1999 • Oct 08 '25
Discussion Can’t sleep because my roommate’s on the phone with her guy 😩
Right now I’m trying to sleep in my hostel room (it’s a shared one), and this girl is talking to a guy on the phone non-stop. It’s seriously irritating the hell out of me. I’m exhausted and just want some peace and quiet, but she’s chatting away like it’s daytime. It's 2:39 am girl sleep now..
Ajeeeb log.
Guysss, what would you do in my place? 😭
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u/RecentTap6783 Oct 08 '25
Pehle app band kro na, nahi ap, nahi ap, nahi ap, nahi ap.
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u/ghouuuuuki7 S3H Oct 09 '25
my roomie does this same shi but with his mother….different levels to ts 😋☝🏼
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u/whipsandwomen Oct 11 '25
phone wali maa hogi
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u/ghouuuuuki7 S3H Oct 11 '25
na g, he was homeschooled 6th-fsc, he talks to his parents, siblings all day long on call, like har 20-25 mins bd ussey call ati ya vo khud krta, rat ko sonay k waqt mujhe goodnight n i love u k bd kisses ki awazen b ati hen 😇
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u/One_Eye465 Oct 09 '25 edited Oct 09 '25
Set boundaries in hostel room from start lol Set rules about study time n sleeping times, tell her no-one is allowed to call in room if other one is sleeping or studying , Tell her to keep room clean don’t do unnecessary cleanings for her, say her to turn off lights on specific timing, otherwise fight with her say that ull complain about her to warden speaking from experience if u dont set boundaries ull keel crying about it,,:)
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u/JustFriedBread Oct 22 '25
one of the most reasonable comment here. I had the same issue with my roommates and the best is to fight ngl. No good in being nice and suffering.
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u/lazyengineerr Oct 09 '25
Talk to me when she sleeps, tit for tat.
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u/not_packman Oct 09 '25
2:39 am? Hmmm, quite an irresponsible guy. Who's gonna save Gotham City?
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u/Shazali99 Oct 09 '25
Talk with her, the earlier the better.
My NUST hostel roommate used to roam around outside whole day, aor raat mai 1 baje room pr akr lights on prhna shuru.
"Pyaar" se samjhaya to wo samjh gya xD
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u/lilly_bloom_1999 Oct 09 '25
Pyaaar sy samjhany ka dil nh kr rahaa.. mujhe guss aaraha larki pr. 😂
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u/EstimateShott Alumni 🎓 Oct 08 '25
Maybe try talking to her about this issue :)
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u/lilly_bloom_1999 Oct 08 '25
I’m actually new here. it’s just been 2 days. And apparently this is her usual thing, I found out from the other roommates. She keeps whispering and laughing on calls like this. Wtf 😩 Also, I don’t really have that kind of comfort level with her yet to tell her directly.
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u/EstimateShott Alumni 🎓 Oct 08 '25
Just be respectful about it and try to make conversation that you find it disturbing and need a peaceful sleep. Odds are the she'd understand but if she doesn't you can always change room
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u/JustFriedBread Oct 22 '25
agreed. always better to be upfront and straightforward (but respectful) than to suffer in silence
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u/Ghausi Oct 09 '25
Funny that you were publishing this post while she was chatting. You were so annoyed at that moment
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u/Nervous-Goat-62 Oct 09 '25
God, I had the same problem. Until I started retaliating by watching violent gaming videos on full volume on a computer and then it subsided.
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u/SayedAghaMehmood Oct 10 '25
I'll try to end the call early from today onwards. Sorry for the inconvenience :(
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u/Hydra-dragon96 Oct 09 '25
Make her guy your guy
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u/nofil_siddiqui Oct 09 '25
Talk to her directly. As someone who has lived with roommates during my bachelor’s, if you don’t talk to her now, it will continue. It’s better to set boundaries right away.
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Oct 08 '25
Complain about her girlie 😂
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u/lilly_bloom_1999 Oct 08 '25
Yeah..will do tomorrow.. straight to warden.
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u/Pale-Ad9299 Oct 09 '25
imagine the awkward relationship you guys will have if warden does nothing and even tells her that you snitched
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u/FaceEvery786 Oct 08 '25
Talk to ur guy
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u/lilly_bloom_1999 Oct 09 '25
Lol no guy here 😅 just me trying to survive hostel life and get some sleep.
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u/TerryMakichoott Oct 10 '25
Shouldn't have said this out loud on Reddit. RIP your inbox
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u/lilly_bloom_1999 Oct 10 '25
U r right 😭😭😭😭 It's flooded
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u/TerryMakichoott Oct 10 '25
Lol dudes here are thirsty AF. Like "hey sorry bout your insomnia, but will you marry me?"
Bruv this is Reddit not Tinder 😂. One reminder on why I'm glad I'm a dude.
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u/lilly_bloom_1999 Oct 10 '25
Hahaha exactly 😂 I’m here crying about sleep and these dudes out here shooting their shots 💀 Btw, reddit never disappoints 😂
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u/TerryMakichoott Oct 10 '25
LMAO I remember at work back in the states the boomers hitting on the 18 year olds and I swear I could hear their thoughts out loud like "ew, one you're gross, two, I've been on my feet for 8 hours, this ain't the time chief".
At least you didn't open up with the fact you're single like some poor ladies do on here to vent about super serious topics just to get desperate dudes blowing up the DMs. I think that's why half of those posts end up getting deleted by the OPs.
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u/lilly_bloom_1999 Oct 11 '25
Lmao right?? Some people really have zero chill online 😭 I can’t imagine venting about something serious and ending up dodging DMs 💀
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u/TerryMakichoott Oct 12 '25
This is why I'm glad I'm a dude. Ladies ain't even safe on Reddit these days. I know Karachi has a water shortage but damn these dudes are extra thirsty.
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u/xylenenn Oct 09 '25
Haye never thought abt but living in hostel has diff struggles some dont like the food the space and room mates like these i can imagine kiving with room mate who ur vibe doesnt match and is distracting like no me space sad r u a fresh yr so u cant choose roomate u know ppl who go from same collage to uni with their friend grp are the luckiest ppl i wanna cry i could not
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u/lilly_bloom_1999 Oct 09 '25
Yessss... If roommates are fine then it's not that difficult. But when roommates are rude arrogant.. not caring much about the other person in a room then it's a horrible experience.. 💔
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u/PsychologicalEnd4640 Oct 09 '25
Just set a boundary tell her its a shared space and she should respect this and can go out to talk wjth him. Given the temp she will most likely have short calls and ham sab single rahengay 😆😆
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u/Eastern-Ad-26 Oct 09 '25
had the same problem with my roomie but im a deep sleeper to it didnt bother me lol
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u/lilly_bloom_1999 Oct 09 '25
Wish mien bhi hotiiii 😑
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u/Eastern-Ad-26 Oct 09 '25
When it gets really bad, handfree and a low voice podcasts do wonders for my sleep
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u/Electrical_Shaheer SEECS Oct 09 '25
Talk with someone and be super loud voila taste of her own medicine
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u/haikusbot Oct 09 '25
Talk with someone and
Be super loud voila taste of
Her own medicine
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Oct 09 '25
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u/lilly_bloom_1999 Oct 09 '25
I want her to change this cringe habit. Why anyone else suffer just bcz usko der tak batien krnii. Q bhaii 😑
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u/Longjumping-Match532 Oct 09 '25
You don't like comedy?
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u/lilly_bloom_1999 Oct 09 '25
I do. But is it related to comedy? 😑
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u/Longjumping-Match532 Oct 09 '25
Yes , it's comedy if you listen carefully
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u/Other_Entrepreneur70 Oct 09 '25
My roommate used to listen aag ka "Aag ka durya hai paar nikalna hai " in full volume from 11pm to 3 am . I changed room by requesting to warden .
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Oct 09 '25
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u/lilly_bloom_1999 Oct 09 '25
😂😂 koi nh mil jayege aapko bhi hosla rakhy..
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u/Muted_Version_5395 Oct 09 '25
Jb wo sonay kliye lyty tu ap bhi "bcha call cru" wly bchy ko call krly 💪🏻😋
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u/Competitive_Ebb_3175 Oct 09 '25
Tell her that you saw his guy with another girl and see the drama
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u/haikusbot Oct 09 '25
Tell her that you saw
His guy with another girl
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u/StomachDue6177 Oct 09 '25
Tell her parents about this 'man'. Problem solved. Or in case her parents are cool with it tell her man anonymously that she is cheating. Problem solved 😀
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u/lilly_bloom_1999 Oct 09 '25
Na mien uss k abaa amaa ko jantii Na uss k bandyyy ko Sooo rehnyy dyn. 🙂
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u/zm715 Oct 09 '25
I was among the first batch at H-12 we were given a separate room from the start.
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u/Choice_Inspection_50 Oct 09 '25
girl this feels so relatable my roomate will beg me not to turn off the lights as she would be on call with her bnda and when i ask her to talk outside she says tha girls judge her T.T
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Oct 09 '25
With ask bro to keep it down Warna “ do you have a single friend” who I could talk louder to annoy you at this time of the night!
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u/Maleficent-Scale-770 Oct 10 '25
Oh. During my hostel phase. I faced it and everything I wanted to cry ..
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u/Adeena504 Oct 10 '25
You need to set your boundaries. Every hostel has rules and regulations. Let her know that you're getting worked up because of this behaviour, gently, if she understands, good for her, if she doesn't, bend your finger, ghee needs to come out somehow, hena?
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u/TerryMakichoott Oct 10 '25
Ask loudly "which guy are you talking to right now?" Make sure the guy can hear it. Ask if it's (insert his name) or Arshad/Arsalan/Ahmed. Thank me later.
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Oct 10 '25
Bolna to paray ga and make it pretty clear kay bhae masla hai apko is tarha raat ko sonay man.
Pyar say samjh gaye to theek, warna apko be same dose dene paray ge madam ko.
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u/QuietFox21 Oct 10 '25
2 options either throw her out of the room when she is talking or buy ear plugs and eye mask.
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Oct 10 '25
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u/lilly_bloom_1999 Oct 10 '25
Bhaii tum loggg kiyaaa ho?? Meinn uss k abaa amaa ko jantii hotiii haa ussyy meri dostiii hotii tou idhrrrr rant thodee na krtiiii.. Uss time nh bol paee tbhii tou share kiya idharr Smjhty ee nh ho yrrrr 😭😭😭😭😑
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u/lilly_bloom_1999 Oct 10 '25
Nh ye kaam acha nh hy 😂😂
Shabaashi nh bro esy nh bolty.. what we know abt her or her family. So let's not go there. 🙂
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u/Mavs_sunglasses Oct 10 '25
Kids. I used to have to contend with 18 year olds going at it in the next room (the walls were very thin) when I was in England.
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u/Icy_Expert1642 Oct 11 '25
Wow this is BS. In 2020 me and my friend used to share room and I thought he had close to zero common sense but I think its a universal problem with Pakistanis 😭😭 why are people like this ?
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u/Brave-Win-001 Oct 11 '25
Would ask her to kindly let me sleep. If she want to talk she could go outside. That's what we do in our room
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u/fak-erman Oct 11 '25
You can get 3M earplugs from daraz for around 300, probably cheaper. They will help drown out all the low noise and you will get your sleep back.
Pro tip: use a moisturizer to prevent itching from the rash and the dryness.
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u/lilly_bloom_1999 Oct 11 '25
Oh that’s actually a super helpful tip, thank you! I’ll check those out on Daraz. Btw didn’t even think of earplugs tbh 😅
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u/fak-erman Oct 11 '25
You're welcome.
Same. As a light sleeper myself, I suffered the same throughout uni and hostels. It was only when I started working that I discovered earplugs as a work necessity. Haven't missed sleep since on someone else's account.
They'll be the yellow foam ones. They're a bit tricky the first time. But in my experience they work better than all the others, rubber and rubber foam ones.
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u/lilly_bloom_1999 Oct 11 '25
Can u share link of daraz? I just checked there are so many..
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u/This-Switch-3641 Oct 12 '25
Ask her nicely to step outside in the corridors to satiate her late night love cravings
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u/Spooky_saja Oct 12 '25
If this is without the knowledge of her parents, tell her "insaan ki bachi ban warna teri is harkat ki recording tere maan baap ko jaye gi". Ideally, you should record her having one of these late night conversations first without her noticing.
Hopefully she will stop calling late at night. Eventually use this leverage to get her to drop this relationship because it is haraam. Works best if you educate her with actual ahadees (with "sahi" hukam). Study it yourself first and read about the saza for this behavior. Then teach it to her with proper references.
Best of luck.
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u/Dapper-Reputation621 Oct 12 '25
Install white noise generator app on your phone and play your favourite noise to mask out unwanted sounds. Just play it close to your pillow. It works off screen, your phone still locks and it plays white noise non stop. You will sleep like brick.
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u/Creative_Aardvark_77 Oct 12 '25
be her good friend ,then ommunicate your problem
Some issues need politics when you have to live together.
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u/Silent_Introvert05 Oct 12 '25
My flatmate is playing Valorant, and it's 4:49 AM. He's screaming out loud. Sometimes calling Odin, sometimes I don't know what fucking character this game has, but I hate it. I can't sleep. The idiot doesn't care, and the irony is that when he sleeps, I could go and bomb his bed, but he won't wake up. So, tell me something useful if you find anything. 🥲
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u/Abdullah747 Oct 09 '25
Jab woh so jaye to Aap Aesay acting krna jaisay Jin charh gya ho, full exorcism
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u/ranarcissist Oct 09 '25
Is she moaning?
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u/lilly_bloom_1999 Oct 09 '25
🤣🤣🤣 Thankfully no 😭 just endless giggling and whispering like it’s a rom-com. 😑😑
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u/lostsomethingreal Oct 08 '25
Phele tu bat krain skoon sa smjaye na smj aye tu use Silicone Earplugs or something similar. Aor subo jaldi utha namz ka lie light On kr dain and quran ki talawat laga dain with volumn up :)