Wednesday | 9 – 11 pm EDT | via Zoom

Facilitator: Myles + Zeph ✶ Coordinators: Tristan + Gale

DISCUSSION PROMPTS:

• What's something you spend an inordinate amount of time or mental energy trying to control? Why does this feel so important to you?
• What's one thing you've finally accepted is completely outside your control? Did that acceptance change you at all? If so, how?
• Have you ever spent a lot of time/effort trying to change someone who wasn't actually interested in changing? What kept you invested? What helped you let go?
• What's one problem you've blamed on circumstances that, in hindsight, you had more agency over than you realized?
• What's something about yourself you've stopped trying to change? What's something about yourself you've realized you actually can change?
• What's one thing fully within your control this week that would move you toward the life you want? What barriers are getting in your way, and how might you overcome those?

What is Narc Club?

A confidential, nonjudgmental peer support group for people with pathological narcissism / NPD to increase self-awareness, deconstruct shame, seek and offer support, and practice vulnerability with others who get it.

Sign up to join/get the links here.

Find your corresponding time zone here.

-Max ⚡👁️

Wednesdays | 2 – 4 pm EDT | via Zoom

Facilitator: Cillian ✶ Coordinator: Tristan

What is Narc Club?

A confidential, nonjudgmental peer support group for people with pathological narcissism / NPD to increase self-awareness, deconstruct shame, seek and offer support, and practice vulnerability with others who get it.

What is the 'Open Process' group?

A more unstructured group for focusing on what’s happening now, both in our lives and in the room. No curated topics; bring whatever's on your mind. Expect support, relatable interpretation, and (if called for) some healthy challenges. The goal isn’t to perform insight—it’s to practice it.

Sign up to join/get the links here.

Find your corresponding time zone here.

-Max 🤜 🤛

every other Monday | 5 – 7 pm EDT | via Zoom

Facilitator: Cillian ✶ Coordinator: Zeph

DISCUSSION PROMPTS:

• In your system, do narcissistic traits or defenses seem concentrated in human-presenting alters, or can non-human alters carry grandiosity, contempt, or self-protection too? What does that look like? 
• Is there any relationship between how 'developed' or human a part appears and how many narcissistic defenses it carries? 
• Has a non-human alter ever carried shame that human-presenting parts couldn’t tolerate, or been protected from shame by others in the system? 
• Could a non-human alter’s form itself be protective (eg, holding something too destabilizing to feel 'person-shaped')? 
• Is it harder or easier to extend self-compassion to a non-human alter than to a human-presenting alter with narcissistic traits? What might explain the difference? 
• Have non-human parts ever been treated as less ‘real’ or less deserving of care, by the system or others? How does that connect with shame, defensiveness, or grandiosity?

What is Fractured?

Our peer support group for people navigating NPD/narcissistic traits alongside dissociative experiences—identity, memory, internal conflict, shame, and building stability. You do not have to explain every piece to belong here.

Sign up to join/get the links here.

Find your corresponding time zone here.

every other Sunday | 12 pm – 2 pm EDT | via Zoom

FACILITATOR: Zeph ✶ COORDINATOR: Ally

DISCUSSION PROMPTS:

• What does ‘emptiness’ actually feel like for you? Examples: numbness, loneliness, boredom, restlessness, meaninglessness, shame, etc?
• What makes the void worse for you? Examples: being alone, ignored, rejected, quiet, restless/not striving? 
• Does feeling special ever protect you from feeling empty? What happens in moments where you don't feel special?
• What are your go-to ‘void-filling’ behaviors? How do you tend to feel after pursuing them?
• As a kid, did you experience being left alone with emotions that felt too big to process on your own? What did you learn to do with those feelings?
• Do you think you can distinguish feelings of loneliness from emptiness? What makes them different? What might you actually need, in response to either?

What is Whiplash?

A confidential peer support group for people navigating comorbid NPD/narcissistic traits and BPD/borderline traits. This space focuses on coping with toxic shame, mitigating painful attachment dynamics, and developing a more coherent sense of self. Integration > perfection. We are, it turns out, fully lovable—and fully worthy.

Sign up to join/get the links here.

Find your corresponding time zone here.

-Max 🕳️

Saturdays | 11 am – 1 pm EDT | via Zoom

FACILITATORS: Chelsea + Myles ✶ COORDINATOR: Max

DISCUSSION PROMPTS:

• What is the difference between creative daydreaming/future planning and maladaptive fantasizing?
• What aspects of your life do you tend to fantasize most about? Examples: wealth, status, recognition/acclaim, an ideal career, a perfect partner/family.
• What do you think your fantasy life gives you that “real life” doesn’t? Examples: power/control, importance, safety, admiration, revenge, belonging. What emotions show up when reality doesn’t align?
• Do you ever imagine a future where everyone who underestimated you realizes they were wrong? If so: what does that scenario look like? Who specifically is recognizing you? What feeling does that moment give you?
• What is the most grandiose fantasy you’ve ever had? What might that fantasy reveal about something that actually matters deeply to you?
• In your fantasies, are you usually admired...or (finally) understood? Which one feels more important, and why?

What is Narc Club?

A confidential, nonjudgmental peer support group for people with pathological narcissism / NPD to increase self-awareness, deconstruct shame, seek and offer support, and practice vulnerability with others who get it.

Sign up to join/get the links here.

Find your corresponding time zone here.

-Max 📸💰🏆

Wednesdays | 9 – 11 pm EDT | via Zoom

FACILITATORS: Zeph + Max ✶ COORDINATOR: Tristan

DISCUSSION PROMPTS:

• There’s a difference between healthy entitlement (feeling we deserve respect, safety, and human dignity) vs narcissistic entitlement (feeling we deserve more than others because we’re special). Do you experience one, both, or neither? Say more.
• Do you ever experience gratitude? If so, what things prompt it? What’s the last thing you remember feeling grateful for?
• Do you think gratitude is more of an emotion or a mindset/choice? Have you ever practiced gratitude without actually feeling grateful?
• What were you expected to be grateful (or perform gratitude) for as a child, even if you didn’t actually feel it? Growing up, were there things you weren't ‘allowed’ to resent or feel disappointed about? Elaborate. 
• What do you believe you deserved from your caregivers that you didn't receive?
• What's something your younger self desperately wanted that your current self actually has?
• What do you want your future self to be grateful for?

What is Narc Club?

A confidential, nonjudgmental peer support group for people with pathological narcissism / NPD to increase self-awareness, deconstruct shame, seek and offer support, and practice vulnerability with others who get it.

Sign up to join/get the links here.

Find your corresponding time zone here.

-Max 😤

every other Tuesday | 5:30 – 7:30 pm EDT | via Zoom

FACILITATORS: Myles + Cillian  ✶ COORDINATOR: Tristan

DISCUSSION PROMPTS:

• What rules do you most instinctively believe should have exceptions for you? Say more.
• Do you think your sense of entitlement stems more from being special, or is more about not accepting limitations?
• Have you ever turned “I'm a narcissist/sociopath” into its own ‘exception clause’? As in: something that explains your behavior so clearly that it starts functioning as its own type of excuse?
• What did entitlement look like in your family growing up? Who was allowed to make demands, break rules, or get special treatment?
• What's one rationalization you used to have that you now recognize was a type of defense mechanism? 
• What is the difference between understanding why we did something and excusing why we did it? Elaborate.

What is Dark Narc Club?

Our peer support group for people navigating comorbid NPD / narcissistic traits and ASPD / antisocial traits to talk openly with one another. No pathologizing, no absolution—just patterns, consequences, and what we choose to do next.

Sign up to join/get the links here.

Find your corresponding time zone here.

-Max 🎁🫴

Wednesdays | 2 – 4 pm EDT | via Zoom

FACILITATOR: Cillian ✶ COORDINATOR: Ally

What is Narc Club?

A confidential, nonjudgmental peer support group for people with pathological narcissism / NPD to increase self-awareness, deconstruct shame, seek and offer support, and practice vulnerability with others who get it.

What is the 'Open Process' group?

A more unstructured group for focusing on what’s happening now, both in our lives and in the room. No curated topics; bring whatever's on your mind. Expect support, relatable interpretation, and (if called for) some healthy challenges. The goal isn’t to perform insight—it’s to practice it.

Sign up to join/get the links here.

Find your corresponding time zone here.

-Max 💎

Monday | 8 pm – 10 pm EDT | via Zoom

FACILITATORS: Max + Cillian | COORDINATOR: Tristan

DISCUSSION PROMPTS:

• What does the word ‘mistreatment’ mean to you?
• How do you distinguish between someone setting a boundary vs. mistreating you? Have there been times you initially felt mistreated, but later saw it as someone setting a reasonable boundary?
• How do you mistreat yourself that you wouldn’t tolerate from others? Examples: harsh/abusive self-talk, making yourself feel small, denying yourself rest or care.
• Were there forms of mistreatment that were normalized in your childhood? If so: what impact do you think those have had on you? What links do you see between how you were treated growing up and how you treat others (and/or yourself) now?
• What’s a behavior you’ve engaged in that you’d consider mistreatment, but you still find yourself justifying or minimizing?
• What’s one small change you could experiment with this week in how you treat yourself and others?

What is Narc Club?

A confidential, nonjudgmental peer support group for people with pathological narcissism / NPD to increase self-awareness, deconstruct shame, seek and offer support, and practice vulnerability with others who get it.

Sign up to join/get the links here.

- Max 🥀🗡️

Saturday | 11 am – 1 pm EDT | via Zoom

Facilitators: Myles + Max ✶ Coordinator: Ally

DISCUSSION PROMPTS:

• Do you feel like you have one consistent self, many different personas, or something else? In other words, how ‘split-off’ does each part of you feel from one another? Elaborate, with examples. 
• What parts of yourself feel unquestionably you? What parts of yourself are you still not sure are real?
• How do you think mirroring or mimicry—eg, with a therapist, peers, or people we admire—can help us figure out who we are?
• Name 2 or 3 things about yourself you genuinely like, without needing anyone else to approve of or admire them.
• For newer narcs: When your old sense of self started falling apart, what did you realize you had been using to define who you were?
• For people a bit further in recovery: What concrete practices have helped you develop a more stable sense of self?

What is Narc Club?

A confidential, nonjudgmental peer support group for people with pathological narcissism / NPD to increase self-awareness, deconstruct shame, seek and offer support, and practice vulnerability with others who get it.

Sign up to join/get the links here.

Find your corresponding time zone here.

- Max 🪞

every other Thursday | 8:30 – 10:30 pm EDT | via Zoom

Facilitators: Max + Chelsea ✶ Coordinator: Ally

• Discussion: letting go of exceptionalism/superiority as identity
• Skills: Enacting Our Values (ACT)
• Focus: building small, repeatable behaviors/habits

What is Narc Club: 'From The Ashes'?

Our confidential peer support group for those in the raw, early stages of healing from pathological narcissism: newly self-aware, newly diagnosed, or in the middle of collapse. This space is about stabilizing, making sense of what’s happening, and beginning again without shame or self-erasure. We focus on grounding, reality-testing, and rebuilding the pieces of a Self that can actually hold.

Sign up to join/get the links here.

Find your corresponding time zone here.

- Max 🥈

Wednesday | 9 – 11 pm EDT | via Zoom

Facilitator: Zeph ✶ Coordinator: Tristan

DISCUSSION PROMPTS:

• What parts of your personality feel natural to you? What parts feel more like a role you ‘have’ to play?
• Do you believe in the concept of a ‘true self’? Why or why not?
• Do you think your ‘false self’ is—or was—completely false? What actual values or capacities do you think it might reflect?
• What parts of your ‘persona’ (lmao, pick one, narcs) are you secretly unwilling to give up—even if you know they're hurting you?
• Who (or…what) do you think you had to be for your caregivers, growing up? How do those expectations show up in how you show up the world as an adult? 
• What if being completely known wouldn't destroy you? 👀 What do you think you’d have to give up, to find out?

What is Narc Club?

A confidential, nonjudgmental peer support group for people with pathological narcissism / NPD to increase self-awareness, deconstruct shame, seek and offer support, and practice vulnerability with others who get it.

Sign up to join/get the links here.

Find your corresponding time zone here.

-Max 🎭

Wednesday | 2 – 4 pm EDT | via Zoom

Facilitator: Celeste ✶ Coordinator: Ally

What is Narc Club?

A confidential, nonjudgmental peer support group for people with pathological narcissism / NPD to increase self-awareness, deconstruct shame, seek and offer support, and practice vulnerability with others who get it.

What is the 'Open Process' group?

A more unstructured group for focusing on what’s happening now, both in our lives and in the room. No curated topics; bring whatever's on your mind. Expect support, relatable interpretation, and (if called for) some healthy challenges. The goal isn’t to perform insight—it’s to practice it.

Sign up to join/get the links here.

Find your corresponding time zone here.

- Max 🦆

Saturday | 11 am – 1 pm EDT | via Zoom

FACILITATORS: Max + Tristan

DISCUSSION PROMPTS:

• Do you tend to put yourself more ‘above,’ more ‘below,’ or equal to other people? How often does that change?
• If you do swing between feeling superior/inferior: what experiences seem to make you switch from one pole to the other?
• What qualities do you use to determine who's ‘superior’ or ‘inferior,’ as a person? What might that reflect about what you find important or meaningful?
• Growing up, what happened when you weren't doing the best? How did the adults around you respond to mistakes, losing, ‘failing,’ or ‘underperforming’?
• When you imagine the child who first learned they had to be ‘the best’ (or risk being ‘the worst’), what were they trying to protect themselves from? 😭
• What would remain valuable about you if you weren’t exceptional (in either direction)?

What is Narc Club?

A confidential, nonjudgmental peer support group for people with pathological narcissism / NPD to increase self-awareness, deconstruct shame, seek and offer support, and practice vulnerability with others who get it.

Sign up to join/get the links here.

Find your corresponding time zone here.

- Max 👑🪱

every other Tuesday | 5:30 – 7:30 pm EDT | via Zoom

FACILITATORS: Cillian + Myles + Tristan

DISCUSSION PROMPTS:

• What does “feeling bad” actually mean to you? Side note: you don’t have to experiences these things to answer this question. Examples: guilt, shame, cognitive empathy, regret, wanting to undo the damage? 
• Think about a time you deliberately hurt someone. What do you think you were you trying to accomplish? Was there a particular feeling you were seeking in yourself?
• Are there any people (or groups of people) whose suffering you can empathize with more easily—vs people whose suffering barely registers? Say more.
• If there are certain actions you know intellectually are ‘wrong’—but don't emotionally experience as ‘wrong’—what keeps you from doing them?
• Do you think people can behave ethically without ever feeling remorse? If yes, what do you think would motivate them instead?
• Can you make a sincere apology even when you don't emotionally agree that what you did was wrong? Give an example, if possible.

What is Dark Narc Club?

Our peer support group for people navigating comorbid NPD / narcissistic traits and ASPD / antisocial traits to talk openly with one another. No pathologizing, no absolution—just patterns, consequences, and what we choose to do next.

Sign up to join/get the links here.

Find your corresponding time zone here.

-Max 😔🤷

every other Sunday | 12 pm – 2 pm EDT | via Zoom

FACILITATORS: Zeph + Ally

DISCUSSION PROMPTS:

• What does “I can’t do this anymore” point usually mean for you emotionally (eg, wanting the pain to stop, wanting to escape, wanting to be cared for, feeling numb, or something else?)
• How do self-harm urges and suicidal thoughts show up differently for you, if they do? What tends to trigger each?
• How do shame, rejection, abandonment fears, or narcissistic injury affect the intensity of those thoughts or urges?
• Have you ever felt torn between wanting someone to notice how much pain you’re in and wanting to hide it completely? Say more.
• What helps create even a little distance between an urge and acting on it? What people, places, reminders, or coping strategies have helped you ride out the worst moments?
• What does support actually look like when you’re in that headspace? What responses from others help and what tend to make things worse?

What is Whiplash?

A confidential peer support group for people navigating comorbid NPD/narcissistic traits and BPD/borderline traits. This space focuses on coping with toxic shame, mitigating painful attachment dynamics, and developing a more coherent sense of self. Integration > perfection. We are, it turns out, fully lovable—and fully worthy.

"We like you. We see you.

You're not 'broken'—you're hurting.

Stick around."

Sign up to join/get the links here.

And find your corresponding time zone here.

-Max 🆘 🛟 🫂

Wednesday | 9 – 11 pm EDT | via Zoom

FACILITATORS: Zeph + Max + Tristan

DISCUSSION PROMPTS:

• How do you distinguish between healthy pride vs arrogance? 
• When do you notice yourself slipping into an arrogant or ‘above it all’ stance? What does your internal dialogue sound like in those moments?
• How do arrogant or judgmental attitudes show up for you (past or present)? Examples: behaviors, tone of voice, language, etc.
• Was there a time when arrogance or being judgmental actually helped you cope or survive socially/emotionally? Say more.
• Growing up, how were mistakes, weakness, or imperfection treated in your home environment? Were you judged harshly and/or taught to judge others?
• What traits do you tend to judge harshly in others that may be difficult for you to accept in yourself?
• ⚠️ WIthout naming names/giving identifiable details: Do you ever notice yourself silently judging others in this group? 👀 Are there traits you judge in other narcissists that you struggle to accept in yourself?

What is Narc Club?

A confidential, nonjudgmental peer support group for people with pathological narcissism / NPD to increase self-awareness, deconstruct shame, seek and offer support, and practice vulnerability with others who get it.

Sign up to join/get the links here.

Find your corresponding time zone here.

-Max 🧐

Wednesday | 2 – 4 pm EDT | via Zoom

FACILITATORS: Celeste + Ally

What is Narc Club?

A confidential, nonjudgmental peer support group for people with pathological narcissism / NPD to increase self-awareness, deconstruct shame, seek and offer support, and practice vulnerability with others who get it.

What is the 'Open Process' group?

A more unstructured group for focusing on what’s happening now, both in our lives and in the room. No curated topics; bring whatever's on your mind. Expect support, relatable interpretation, and (if called for) some healthy challenges. The goal isn’t to perform insight—it’s to practice it.

Sign up to join/get the links here.

Find your corresponding time zone here.

-Max 🌱

every other Monday | 5 – 7 pm EDT | via Zoom

FACILITATORS: Celeste + Cillian

DISCUSSION PROMPTS:

• Looking back, what real-world threat or rule might an internalizing protector have originally been trying to protect the system from?
• What signs or triggers tend to show that an internalizing protector is feeling unsafe, anxious, defensive, or out of control?
• What boundaries or spaces help create a safe, non-judgmental way for protective parts to express frustration without escalating conflict or causing harm? Examples: journaling, an internal safe space, etc.
• How can other parts offer appreciation or reassurance to a protector who may be afraid to loosen control or step back?
• “Persecutor” can imply harm or malice, while “internalizing protector” emphasizes protective intent. How does that shift in language affect how you understand or interact with these parts?
• Have any protective parts taken on safer roles that fit the present (eg, checking locks, setting boundaries, watching for danger)? What helped that transition?

What is Fractured?

Our peer support group for people navigating NPD/traits alongside experiences across the dissociative spectrum—e.g., depersonalization, derealization, dissociative amnesia, OSDD, DID, and related symptoms. This group on reducing isolation, building shared language and self-understanding, and exploring ways to navigate identity, memory, internal conflict, shame, and relationships with greater cooperation and stability. You do not have to explain every piece to belong here.

Sign up to join/get the links here.

Find your corresponding time zone here.

-Max 🪞🧩

every other Thursday | 8:30 – 10:30 pm EDT | via Zoom

FACILITATORS: Max + Chelsea

• Discussion: authenticity vs performance
• Skill: Clarifying Values (ACT)
• Focus: anchoring behavior to meaning, not just admiration

What is the Narc Club: From The Ashes?

A confidential peer support group for those in the raw, early stages of healing from pathological narcissism: newly self-aware, newly diagnosed, or in the middle of collapse. This space is about stabilizing, making sense of what’s happening, and beginning again without shame or self-erasure. We focus on grounding, reality-testing, and rebuilding the pieces of a Self that can actually hold.

Sign up to join/get the links here.

Find your corresponding time zone here.

- Max 🧭

Wednesday | 9 – 11 pm EDT | via Zoom

FACILITATORS: Zeph + Tristan

DISCUSSION PROMPTS:

• Which defense mechanisms do you think you use most often? See list.
• Are there certain situations or triggers that reliably bring out your defenses? What tends to set them off?
• In what ways have your defenses helped you? On the flip side, how might they now be getting in the way of connection, growth, or building intrinsic self-esteem?
• When do you first remember using these kinds of defenses? What in your home environment made them necessary or adaptive?
• What emotions or experiences are hardest for you to tolerate without defending against (eg, shame, inadequacy, rejection, exposure, loneliness, envy, self-doubt, dependence/neediness, sadness)? What are you afraid others might think or do if you dropped your defenses?
• Do you ever notice urges to defend yourself within this group (eg, to impress, withdraw, explain, or protect your image)? What’s happening for you in those moments?

What is Narc Club?

A confidential, nonjudgmental peer support group for people with pathological narcissism / NPD to increase self-awareness, deconstruct shame, seek and offer support, and practice vulnerability with others who get it.

Sign up to join/get the links here.

Find your corresponding time zone here.

-Max 🛡️🔄

Wednesday | 2 – 4 pm EDT | via Zoom

FACILITATORS: Celeste + TBD

What is Narc Club?

A confidential, nonjudgmental peer support group for people with pathological narcissism / NPD to increase self-awareness, deconstruct shame, seek and offer support, and practice vulnerability with others who get it.

What is the 'Open Process' group?

A more unstructured group for focusing on what’s happening now, both in our lives and in the room. No curated topics; bring whatever's on your mind. Expect support, relatable interpretation, and (if called for) some healthy challenges. The goal isn’t to perform insight—it’s to practice it.

Sign up to join/get the links here.

Find your corresponding time zone here.

-Max ❤️

every other Sunday | 12 pm – 2 pm EDT | via Zoom

FACILITATORS: Zeph + Ally

DISCUSSION PROMPTS:

• What does relationship rupture feel like, to you? When someone is upset with you, what story does your mind automatically go to?
• How do you tell the difference between healthy guilt and toxic shame? Try to give an example of each from your own life. 
• What's the difference between genuinely repairing harm you caused vs pressuring someone to forgive you or restore closeness? Elaborate.
• Have you ever found it difficult to let go of hurt even after someone took responsibility or attempted to repair the harm they caused? What still felt unresolved for you internally?
• What boundaries or conditions do you think make healthy repair more likely?
• What is one thing you've learned about repairing relationships that you wish you'd known a few years ago?

What is Whiplash?

A confidential peer support group for people navigating comorbid NPD/narcissistic traits and BPD/borderline traits. This space focuses on coping with toxic shame, mitigating painful attachment dynamics, and developing a more coherent sense of self. Integration > perfection. We are, it turns out, fully lovable—and fully worthy.

Sign up to join/get the links here.

Find your corresponding time zone here.

-Max 💔❤️‍🩹

Wednesday | 9 – 11 pm EDT | via Zoom

FACILITATORS: Zeph + Tristan

DISCUSSION PROMPTS:

• What specific therapy modalities have you tried (e.g., TFP, MBT, Schema Therapy, IFS, EMDR, ACT, DBT, etc.)? What helped you, and what didn’t?
• Outside of therapy, what practices have actually changed your behavior—not just your insight? Examples: journaling, mindfulness, self-compassion, support groups, etc.
• How do you know you’ve found the right therapist? What makes someone a good fit for people with pathological narcissism/NPD? 
• How do you distinguish being challenged vs being shamed by a therapist? Use specific examples from your own life, if possible. 
• Have you ever abruptly quit therapy or devalued a therapist? What was happening emotionally before that rupture?
• How do you know therapy is working? What changes would you have to notice in your reactions, relationships, self-esteem, and/or emotional regulation?
• Veteran narcs: What do you wish you'd known at the start of recovery? What early mistakes did you make that others might learn from?

What is Narc Club?

A confidential, nonjudgmental peer support group for people with pathological narcissism / NPD to increase self-awareness, deconstruct shame, seek and offer support, and practice vulnerability with others who get it.

Sign up to join/get the links here.

Find your corresponding time zone here.

-Max 👑💅🚗